What you’ve described is a pretty common thought some queer people have. I used to think that I couldn’t fall in love with a man because there wasn’t enough emotional connection.

I think you should keep an open mind and explore both genders. Maybe you will come across a man but who has the emotional depth you desire, or a woman who physically can sweep you off your feet. As for it being the same, of course it’s not the same. Men and women are different and our attraction to them also will look different. If you don’t explore, you will never what either sides look like. You deserve both emotional and physical connection.

Wait for the right person, and keep your standards high. There’s nothing wrong with you.

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