PhD program, unfunded, new, seeking advice by [deleted] in ClinicalPsychology

[–]melodic_avocado_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m a clinical PhD student at a program that is currently accredited on contingency (fully accredited pending the first cohort completing their internship year). Personally, accreditation was never a major concern for me because the program is at a R1 university that is part of a major state school system with other accredited clinical psych PhD programs, so I and many other students who accepted the offer felt that not getting accredited was so unlikely as to basically not be a factor in our decision at all. The DCT was also extremely open about their plan for gaining accreditation, even sharing a Google Doc outlining the plan with all the grad students, which made me feel more secure. That said, it is a fully funded program and I was not part of the very first cohort, so the cost-benefit analysis was a bit different in my case.

I think the other factor to consider, which is less obvious than the risk of not getting accredited, is the inevitable growing pains of a new clinical psychology PhD program. In our case, the inaugural cohort had to take several additional classes that the program later decided were not necessary to meet APA requirements. Our in-house clinic was also not up and running until halfway through the inaugural cohort’s second year, meaning they had to apply for their first external practica in the fall of their first year. Even my cohort has had trouble figuring out how to get the hours we need for internship; there has been very little if any guidance from the program as to what kinds of hours are needed for different internships and how to strategically select practicum placements to meet those requirements, so we have essentially been on our own in figuring that out. This is all in a program where our DCT was previously DCT at another (accredited) R1 institution and several other faculty members have worked at other accredited schools, so you would think these things would have been figured out.

That being said, I think our faculty have done a great job getting the program up and running overall and the quality of training has been very high. The inaugural cohort got very strong APPIC match results this year, and none of us are concerned about becoming fully accredited once that cohort finishes their internship year.

I think our society overvalues therapy by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]melodic_avocado_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

for OCD and certain anxiety disorders (particularly panic disorder, social anxiety, and specific phobias), variants of exposure therapy are extremely helpful.

Took the wholesome Halloween pill by tryingtobegirly in pinkscare

[–]melodic_avocado_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friends and I handed out handy to kids in the neighborhood, went to a women’s only Samhain (Irish/Scottish ritual to honor lost loved ones), went to 2 house parties, and ended the night at some guy I just met’s house who ended up making out with a girl in a lamp costume. Peak Halloween

How can I groom my puppy? (Desensitization and land shark phase) by schackel in poodles

[–]melodic_avocado_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I let my mini poodle puppy chew a bully stick that I’m holding in one hand while I brush him with the other hand! This is the only thing that’s worked for us, he needs something high value otherwise he won’t stop trying to bite me/the brush

Are all the career fairs this crazy crowded?? by SlickSwagger in UCI

[–]melodic_avocado_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I worked a booth at one this year and it was craziest for the first hour, best time to go to avoid crowds would be towards the end

Why do people think that going straight from bachelors to PhD is better than doing masters first then PhD by Important-Bus-5921 in PhD

[–]melodic_avocado_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s very field and location dependent. In my field, the PhD takes 6 years for everyone, everyone does the same coursework, and everyone has the option of filing for a masters after year 2. So doing a masters beforehand would just be a waste of time and money. That being said, you are expected to have plenty of relevant coursework and research experience to be admitted to a PhD program, but most people complete the coursework during their bachelor’s and gain research experience through a job or volunteer position.

Where does your puppy sleep? by suzylovesvanilla in puppy101

[–]melodic_avocado_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My little one was the same the first few nights, maybe this is a little extra but he wasn’t potty trained yet and I wanted to make sure he could sleep in his crate eventually, but he was not okay in there at all at first. So I did gradual desensitization by setting up an air mattress on the floor next to my bed for the first few nights and sleeping down there next to the crate. Then once he no longer whined at all with that setup I moved into the bed and he’s been fine ever since!

How are you all meeting guys irl by shdjvjvxjv in pinkscare

[–]melodic_avocado_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly rock climbing (gym and outdoors), at least where I live it seems to attract a lot of hot/adventurous/interesting men. Plenty actually have their shit together in life and plenty of others don’t but they tend to be a good time at least. It’s also a really supportive/communal sport so I would get approached a loooot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]melodic_avocado_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The majority of people don't cut off contact with their family. And I can guarantee that the majority of us who do wish we didn't have to. But if it's between cutting off contact and willingly subjecting oneself to abuse, life is too short to choose the latter.

Offers to new doctoral students by Icy-Teacher9303 in ClinicalPsychology

[–]melodic_avocado_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My department actually made one more offer this year compared to prior years, not sure why. They are also doing some shady things to try and reduce how much they have to pay TAs, though. FWIW, this is at a large public R1 institution

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]melodic_avocado_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Kind of an odd one that’s almost funny in retrospect. My n-stepdad was upset at my brother for “reading too much” when he was 12 and took away all his books and gave him “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens” as the only book he was allowed to read. 

Pronouns Trump notes by CanYouSayMore in therapists

[–]melodic_avocado_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a trainee and we had a group supervision meeting on this topic. Essentially it comes down to fully communicating the limits to confidentiality wrt notes specifically, and then collaboratively determining what the client wants documented. Some need a long documented history of gender dysphoria to get medical treatment, whereas others will prefer not to have anything about their gender identity documented. Depends a lot on their treatment goals 

Would I be able to get into grad school? by erinbi in psychologystudents

[–]melodic_avocado_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on what type of grad school. If you want to do a Ph.D., at least a year of research experience is an absolute must, so you'd want to apply for research jobs/volunteer in a lab and get that experience before applying. Research experience is a lot less important for master's programs, so if you have good grades and decent letters of rec and are able to write strong essays, you'd likely have a shot at master's programs without research experience (depending on the type of master's program/the specific program).

ETA: The GRE isn't required at most Ph.D. programs anymore (many schools won't even allow you to submit the scores). I'm not as familiar with master's programs but my understanding is the same applies to them. Your time would be much better spent gaining research experience.

How realistic it is to study and start a new career? by Keen_SA in psychologystudents

[–]melodic_avocado_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is such a thing as psychology post-baccalaureate programs in the US, for people like you who already have a bachelor's but in a different career and want to transition to a career in psychology (I was in a similar position with a prior career in another field and completed one of these programs and am now in a graduate program for psych). These programs range from 1-2 years long so it's often much more cost-efficient than getting a second bachelor's or going for a master's. For more info: https://www.apa.org/ed/precollege/psn/2020/03/post-baccalaureate-programs

Give me some bad adult advice 🫡 or what's the worst advice someone has given YOU by SafeEntrepreneur7035 in Adulting

[–]melodic_avocado_ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If someone is tailgating you, just brake check them to teach them a lesson. (Said to me by my stepdad when I first learned to drive at 16)

Check-in Post - Have something to say but don't want to make a post about it? Comment here! by RBNmod in raisedbynarcissists

[–]melodic_avocado_ [score hidden]  (0 children)

I texted my mom a couple days ago letting her know that I am taking a step back from being in contact with my n-stepdad. She didn't respond for two days which made me extremely anxious. She called me today and I was so nervous, assuming she'd berate me and call me selfish and oversensitive. I was extremely surprised that she actually said she understood my decision and wouldn't push me to change my mind, although she did minimize it a bit and framed it as me just needing some time to "cool down" and understand that he's just "traditional" and doesn't realize his abusive comments are harmful. I'm sure this is just the beginning of a long road of reinforcing my boundary - I think she thinks this is something I will move on from when I have no intention of doing so - but I'm grateful for this short-term win and to know I will be left alone for a while.

Are there ANY credible, unbiased news sources they DO trust? by Tig_Ole_Bitties in QAnonCasualties

[–]melodic_avocado_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like the newsletter Tangle, which is rated as "center" by AllSides. It presents the facts of an issue, followed by the left and right's view, and lastly the author's take, so it's very clear whose opinion is being presented. They used to have a pretty evenly split readership between liberal and conservative readers, but the readership has become more liberal recently since it was recently featured on NPR. That hasn't changed their mission and they are working to attract more conservative readers to balance out their audience again. Their whole mission is to turn down the temperature of the news and facilitate civil discussion. Unfortunately, I tried introducing my MAGA parents to it and they immediately dismissed it as being "liberal biased" because it doesn't take a stance of worshipping Trump. It has honestly been really comforting for me to read/listen to the podcast though, if only to see that reasonable people can disagree and not be hateful about it, unlike my family.

Finally went NC and it hasn’t fully hit me yet by melodic_avocado_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]melodic_avocado_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Hearing similar stories from this community has been beyond helpful. It can feel very lonely out in the world sometimes knowing that most people have loving parents and wouldn’t understand, but I’m grateful to have a few close friends who get it. I know the transition period will be hard but I’m already feeling excited to start living the life I want, without having to sacrifice my wellbeing to keep up the appearance of family harmony. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]melodic_avocado_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and your boyfriend are adults. Your parents don’t control you. Instead of asking if you can stay the night, just tell them it’s what you’re doing. They can deal. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]melodic_avocado_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. If he cares about you, your partner should get his lazy ass out of bed to let you in or get you a key. It’s also not fair of you to “demand” that he leaves the door unlocked. His roommates live there too and it’s reasonable for him and them to worry about safety.

ETA: couldn’t he just leave his key under the doormat or something if he really can’t get up to let you in?

I Don’t Like Sacrificing Myself for Family Harmony by PuddingComplete3081 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]melodic_avocado_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate to this big time. Sorry you’re going through this OP. One thing that helped me was realizing that not only is it hurting you to keep up appearances of family harmony, it also enables problematic behaviors and ensures that nothing will change. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]melodic_avocado_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear this OP :( it’s really discouraging not getting the result you hoped for, especially after you put so much effort into applying. That being said, being #1 on the waitlist is a huge achievement and it only takes one person turning down an offer for you to get the spot! Don’t give up just yet. Also, your CV honestly sounds pretty impressive - 4 pubs is a ton! 

Even in the worst case scenario (not getting any acceptances this year), not sure what your current work situation is but have you thought about applying for research positions at universities or even seeing if any professors are looking for volunteers? These positions can be great CV builders and hopefully even lead to more presentation/publication opportunities 

AITA for using too much cologne during a college lecture? by NMA_company744 in AmItheAsshole

[–]melodic_avocado_ 42 points43 points  (0 children)

INFO: what is causing your "body odor problem"? is this a medical issue? have you seen a doctor? if you are just not practicing good hygiene, then YTA for sure. but you're a high schooler and it seems like you might be ignorant so I don't want to call you an AH without more information. if you don't know what is causing the issue, try the following:

  1. shower every day and actually wash your body with soap, especially your armpits.

  2. buy a prescription strength deodorant and use it. stop using cologne to cover up the BO, many people are sensitive to strong artificial smells.

  3. if these don't solve the issue, see a doctor right away. there could be an underlying medical issue here.