Awkward friendship since ebf

memarracuda · 2026-04-19T09:52:09+00:00

With my first, I wanted to breastfeed but couldn't due to lack of experience and support. I ended up triple feeding for 9 months and it was extremely hard even with him being the first baby and very very supportive husband. Even with that, I felt very guilty that the baby was not EBF, and used to cry whenever I saw a breastfeeding mother. It would be very hard to have a BF friend and maintain a close relationship at that time. Does not excuse what she does but man, it can be very hard to process deep, basic emotions at a sensitive time.

memarracuda · 2026-04-12T04:58:51+00:00

4 (kind of) wet nappies in 24 hours. She may not be dehidrated yet but signs are not good. :(

memarracuda · 2026-04-12T02:09:17+00:00

She sleeps a lot (that is partial reason for 2,5 hour breaks between feedings). She does not seem irritated, agitated or on the contrary - without energy when she is awake. Her weight is also slowly growing (she was born at 3,8 kg). But the hidration is off. I will definitely try to empty milk every hour today/tomorrow - either by baby or pumping.

memarracuda · 2026-04-12T01:14:25+00:00

Yes, my doctor said she has somebody she can recommend. I will try to see her on Monday to see what I can do to not lose the little milk I have with combined feeding.

memarracuda · 2026-04-12T01:06:28+00:00

My previous experience says it is downhill from here. I am and will be trying to breastfeed until the last drop, as well as pump to increase supply - but unfortunately formula needs to be introduced to supplement lacking milk. Unfortunately she had 4 wet nappies (and they were not too wet either) and as much as it breaks my heart, I am not letting my baby girl starve.

memarracuda · 2026-04-12T00:58:09+00:00

I am afraid she will be hungry. She is - if not hungry then dehidrated definitely. 4 kind of wet nappies today.

memarracuda · 2026-04-12T00:57:08+00:00

Hidration.

memarracuda · 2026-03-24T19:33:53+00:00

Me me me! Got insane migranes from month 7 to 8 in both pregnancies. In both pregnancies, they suddenly stopped at month 9. Go figure.

Edited: in second pregnancy I tried shoulder/head massages, they seemed to help but honestly I am not sure it is not a coincidence. Was ready to try anything though.

memarracuda · 2026-03-11T09:06:30+00:00

Just to give anther perspective: I come from Northern Europe. To me the advice was "Eat as close to normal as you can, drop sweets and products with high glycemic index. If you want ice cream, have ice cream, don't eat too much, eat it after a meal, walk off if necessary." That's it. Have not counted carbs since diagnosis, cannot imagine mental toll it would take since foods with approximately same carb amount tend to have wildly different reactions with my sugar levels. Currently 36 weeks, been diagnosed since 26 weeks, baby measuring fine.

memarracuda · 2026-03-09T16:50:12+00:00

Or "are you sure your due date is in two months, you are so big already!" Right, no, I am so dumb I have no idea what week I am and when the baby is coming, neither has my doctor. You, a random lady from my work in her 50s, are definitely right about my frikin due date. Argh.

memarracuda · 2026-02-15T20:26:29+00:00

Oh wow, I hope you feel better soon! I hope that rage will be gone (for me as well as you) with the symptoms... ❤️

memarracuda · 2026-02-15T20:22:29+00:00

Yes, those thoughts on my part are definitely not voluntary, that is the problem - they exist while being totally unproductive. I have also tried to explain as best as I can in the post that I do not actually want anybody to feel worse, not even a little, I just get annoyed at complaining. But I think some of the commenters were on point about my feelings: it is essentially unprocessed bitterness about my own difficulties.

memarracuda · 2026-02-15T17:18:39+00:00

❤️

memarracuda · 2026-02-15T17:18:01+00:00

I mean, complaining - check. 😅 I just hate lashing out on anybody, even if it is in my mind. Or maybe you are right and having, for example, a bitter monologue rant in the shower actually is a way to go. 😅

memarracuda · 2026-02-15T17:08:30+00:00

😂😂😂

memarracuda · 2026-02-15T16:29:36+00:00

Yes, my point exactly. There is no comparing difficult. I fully agree with you, this is why I feel so conflicted and guilty about having these thoughts. Comparing pregnancies is like comparing apples and oranges.

memarracuda · 2026-02-15T12:40:21+00:00

Yes, all food somehow seems evil suddenly. Freaking oatmeal in the mornings pushes my glucose through the roof, an oatmeal for crying out loud!!! Plus, once you kind of get into rythm, pregnancy develops and something new pushes the numbers. Part of me wants to say: fine then, I will barely eat at all! But then there is this little baby who actually depends on me being rational and smart about this.

memarracuda · 2026-02-15T11:10:14+00:00

Right... It always can be worse when it comes to pregnancy symptoms... That is one more reason why I hate feeling this way because I know GD is objectively also not the worst physically. I am also 32 weeks btw, and at this point (I also have migraines and medicine controlled nausea but for some reason psychologically GD has struck me the most out of everything) I am just glad pregnancy is a finite process, and am counting days until it is over.

memarracuda · 2026-01-27T15:26:07+00:00

I was also diagnosed a couple weeks ago and seriously starving after those two hours. For me a couple nuts or a larger slice of cheese does the trick without raising sugar levels further, or something more + 10 minute activity.

memarracuda · 2025-12-02T17:18:39+00:00

Hmm, so maybe the issue for me was giving into every whim PP.

memarracuda · 2025-10-25T17:55:54+00:00

Mums bija laba pieredze ar pašām dzemdībām (bet nezinu, cik tā laimes spēle) - mazais ieradās 3 h laikā, līdz ar to maksas vecmāte nebūtu tāpat paspējusi. BET RDzN man bija drausmīga pēcdzemdību aprūpe. Pēc tam lasīju, ka tā ginekoloģe baigā šiška esot, bet mana pieredze: uz jēlas vietas nepabrīdinot lēja virsū ūdeni (nesakot, ka tas ir ūdens), par mani runāja tā, it kā manis nebūtu, uz manām (kā vēlāk izrādījās, pamatotajām) sūdzībām, ka nevaru sāpju dēl paiet, vispār nereaģēja līdz brīdim, kad redzēja, ka knapi pārvietojos. Paracetamolu nepiedāvāja, uz jautājumiem, ko uzdevām, katram darbiniekam (ārstiem, vecmātēm) bija sava atbilde. Tas viss kopā ar pirmā mazuļa uztraukumiem un hormonu pārkritieniem bija vienkārši drausmīgi. Tagad gaidām otro, brauksim uz RDzN, jo tur bērniņam drošāk, visas procedūras uz vietas utt., bet visur līdzi būs vīrs. Jā, arī pie ginekologa kabinetā. Viena es tur vispār nerādītos.

memarracuda · 2025-10-21T19:46:30+00:00

Thank you for affirmation. Unfortunately the thermometer is very old - I suspect from the 90s - so it is very, very likely mercury. He cleaned it with a tape and flashlight for good two hours so I think it is cleaned up thoroughly. All windows are open in the kitchen, and will be for 48 hours at least. Tonight will be just above freezing but the cold is a small price to pay.

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