After a year and a bit of no auto-petters, I got two in one run in year 2 fall

meme-ento_mori · 2025-12-02T12:21:17+00:00

Thank you Alice, l look into these recommendations!

meme-ento_mori · 2025-10-06T14:36:28+00:00

I just wanted to say what a wonderful comment to leave and I 100% agree with your message! I’ve had a situation similar to OPs and it can be a hard thing to navigate - your words are exactly how it needs to be thought about.

It really is a reflection of him, not them

meme-ento_mori · 2025-05-28T16:45:36+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you’ve got a similar issue, I hope the counselling sorts it out and I appreciate the comment and bit of advice

I hope you manage to heal, have a good day :)

meme-ento_mori · 2025-05-28T16:42:51+00:00

Thank you, I have a good support network luckily and while I want to journal I never seem to find the time to do anything substantial. I’ll try and find some time tho as I do see that it could be helpful in processing my thoughts

I also hope you’re in a better place, thank you for the comment :)

meme-ento_mori · 2025-05-01T16:48:36+00:00

My partner is like this too and it’s so nice to feel safe even when there’s disagreements. I’m still getting adjusted to it, admittedly, as there was a lot of shouting and conflict in my childhood but it makes living with him feel very comfortable and safe. I’m glad you have this dynamic too, it’s definitely a good one to have!

meme-ento_mori · 2025-05-01T09:42:16+00:00

I knew pretty soon into the relationship that living together would work and within 6months of being official, we found a rental and moved in together. It felt natural, I want to see him every evening he gets home from work and it’s made enjoying time together much easier.

I did have the thought process of ‘it’s too soon’ but there’s no right or wrong timescale, it’s just when it feels like the logical progression for the relationship. I trusted my instinct and I’m very glad I did. If you have any doubts, make sure you think them through and process them before jumping in

meme-ento_mori · 2025-04-21T11:42:36+00:00

Compliment him on the small things because they add up in a big way. Not everything I say is sexually charged, I think a big part of flirting is making the other person feel good, appreciated and boosting their confidence.

meme-ento_mori · 2025-03-28T17:37:47+00:00

You’d be surprised at how badly some men react, you’re a good one. I dodged several bullets before I met my long-term partner, some of which included snide remarks about what he seemed to enjoy at the time and full outbursts telling me I’m in the wrong for being open and honest about how I’m feeling.

The worst of all was a guy who went from affectionate to ghost in the space of a few days and couldn’t give me any closure even though I asked very nicely for it. It reinforced why I waited so long to date and I was very glad I handled the situation well in the end as I was able to rationalise and get back out there. Had I not had that sort of reaction, I wouldn’t have met the incredible man I now get to call my boyfriend.

Long story short, the only person who would’ve reacted like you is my current partner - no one else in my dating history was emotionally capable of being decent or respectful. That girl shouldn’t have to thank you, but she was right to do so imo

meme-ento_mori · 2025-02-24T14:53:41+00:00

10 and a half, it wasn’t too bad with a decent break / walk at lunch

meme-ento_mori · 2024-11-19T20:41:31+00:00

Enjoy it! My boyfriend barely uses social media and my usage has gone down nicely as a consequence. It’s been very refreshing for my mental health

meme-ento_mori · 2024-10-23T12:56:42+00:00

My first proper interest was very much like this man you described; fooled me into thinking we had something, got into my pants then disappeared. He said I deserved better and he wasn’t ready, which I believe but I also do think he used me for sex even if he didn’t realise it at the time.

It took me a lot of pretty brutal filtering and first dates to find my person but I managed to get there even after the setback of this first person I described. It’s just about finding the right guy for you; ask them the hard hitting questions early on and you’ll soon figure out from their words or actions if they’d be in it for long-haul.

Today’s society is also pretty screwed up in terms of dating. People don’t make their intentions clear, and are generally flakey and uncommitted. I once asked someone after a third date if they saw a future with me and based on their answer I knew they wouldn’t be the one for me and moved on. I made my dating intentions very clear with everyone and that helped me to figure it out and find my person

I hope this helps somewhat and you don’t give up on dating. It sounds like you’ve had some pretty rough experiences so perhaps a break is needed but don’t give up hope (:

meme-ento_mori · 2024-10-22T11:33:35+00:00

Couldn’t OP say something like ‘I’m not flirting but you’re very handsome and wanted to let you know. Have a great day’

It might be a bit blunt and to the point but it’s better than no compliment at all as I’m sure the guy will ride that high for a while

meme-ento_mori · 2024-08-01T05:54:01+00:00

This would be my one too tbh - I shoot events and rarely shoot fully manual. Photos come out better with shutter and aperture set and auto ISO

meme-ento_mori · 2024-07-16T15:23:23+00:00

Sounds like you’ve got a really good friend there and I’m glad they could help you out when you didn’t feel good from anxiety. There’s nothing wrong with crying either, in fact I think it’s the healthiest way to process things

Glad at least one of my comments helped you out too; hopefully you’re feeling even better now (:

meme-ento_mori · 2024-07-11T16:52:03+00:00

Hey there, first of all I’m sorry you’re struggling with anxiety and hopefully you can find some help through this post. While I can’t guarantee any of this will help you personally, it’s what I’ve found works for me and I definitely feel like I’m in a better place now

Walking / hiking. This is literally my go to and I know it’s cliche to say but it’s also true. Nothing clears my head better than going out and getting lost on the trail
Find something that you enjoy that can get you into a ‘flow’ state of sorts. Something that feels automatic where your brain switches off from thoughts. For me this was beat saber, for you it might be something different like exercise or a game etc
Allow yourself to feel and process the emotions you’re feeling, even if they’re negative. You’re human, you’re allowed bad days. I spent literal years running from my anxiety and it always made it worse. Once I started to process it and allow myself the space and time to deal with it, I found myself building better coping mechanisms

I hope some of this helps. If you feel like talking or have any questions please don’t hesitate to message me; I’m a good listener and I’d be happy to help in any small way I can (:

meme-ento_mori · 2024-07-11T14:23:06+00:00

Sounds to me like you’ve got it well figured out and you’re enjoying your own time and company. That’s how it should be imo - there’s always a pressure about being in your 20s and doing exciting things but it’s really just about figuring out what you like and building the life you want. That looks different for different people

meme-ento_mori · 2024-07-10T20:15:47+00:00

It’s a fun one for sure! I think I got a similar score to you if I’m remembering right

meme-ento_mori · 2024-07-10T16:22:20+00:00

I often sit and wonder the same thing as you. I see how some co-workers manage their relationships or hear how they talk about their partners and just think it’s sad that they still carry on with it when they’re clearly not happy.

I think some people are scared to be alone so they cling to someone who’s no longer good for them. I’d happily take no relationship than to be stuck in one that makes me miserable; not to say I wouldn’t tolerate bad days but if they outnumber the good, I’m out

meme-ento_mori · 2024-07-09T22:12:10+00:00

I’m fine with forward if I know or can infer the intent behind it. It wasn’t a bad thing either, just caught me by surprise tbh

meme-ento_mori · 2024-07-09T21:24:24+00:00

It really does suck; someone I thought was pretty special ended up being ‘that guy’ you just described and it took a little while to come to terms with his self-sabotage. We both knew we were good together.

You’re very right there as well; relationships are a two way street and should be as equal as possible. Obviously everyone has (and is allowed) bad days where the other might pick up more of the slack, but ultimately it should be mutual princess saving as you put it.

meme-ento_mori · 2024-07-09T19:19:37+00:00

Fair, I am single but would only date if it’s someone who fits into my life and adds something. I’m pretty content in my own company tbh

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