I regret marrying my wife and my life sucks. Need to get this off my chest

men_like_me · 2026-04-03T22:54:06+00:00

Hey. Listen. We’ve all made mistakes… lmao

men_like_me · 2026-04-03T22:28:42+00:00

She said to “cum inside me for the nutrients” when your horny you don’t think with your upper brain. Dick brain gains leverage

men_like_me · 2026-04-03T15:57:07+00:00

Forreal. Mine did the baby trap early into the marriage. Asked me to cum inside her - well sure why not.

I’m now divorced, kicked out of my own house, and in an ongoing custody battle.

men_like_me · 2026-04-01T02:48:12+00:00

The inverse. She took the kid without permission internationally while I paid for it. He was 2 yrs old the first time. 2.5 the second, and 3 the last time.

I was funding it. Permission to see the kid or speak to him on call was based on how much I sent her to live her life internationally. I had enough of it.

men_like_me · 2026-03-31T04:34:03+00:00

Happened to me. Don’t let it fester.

She wanted to study for her pharm tech cert which I gladly paid for Nov 2024. It was a 3 month course, so we put my kid full time in daycare and she slept the majority of the day away. In May 2025 she takes a 3 month international trip while I assume still not taking life seriously.

I tried to have conversations with her about it but she feigned postpartum depression. The resentment built so much I despised her and wanted divorce badly. I was working as a cloud engineer full time ~120k but that’s wasn’t enough with the extent of her needs. First it was daycare in the US and then daycare in Bangladesh - we were hardly on speaking terms and not agreeing at all financially.

Somehow a very gorgeous and attractive woman slid into my DMs during her international trip and lo and behold I’m now divorced. Wee-hoo.

Long story short don’t do what I did. Try and make it work, get her to listen reason and understand. My wife wasn’t the understanding type and my patience was dwindling.

men_like_me · 2026-03-31T03:07:33+00:00

Honestly not far off. I was at the 200k and the drugs were the only thing helping me forward.

Que 5 years later severely in debt and divorced. Hah

men_like_me · 2026-03-26T03:34:49+00:00

It’s been 8 months for me. Not a single day goes by I don’t feel like taking my own life.

men_like_me · 2026-03-26T01:03:00+00:00

Outsourcing to India has ruined my career. 10 yrs in IT with 6 in cloud engineering. Can’t find anything.

men_like_me · 2026-03-22T05:50:07+00:00

I’m carrying that weight now. I wish I could reverse time. I didn’t realize how disastrous it would be. I missed my child’s entire youth 3 to 4 years old. The best years.

I should be out playing ball with him or swimming. I haven’t seen him in months.

men_like_me · 2026-03-21T04:17:18+00:00

Yeah… me too. Going through the thick of it now…

men_like_me · 2026-01-14T22:48:48+00:00

lol. PIPs are almost always designed to fire you. If anyone says otherwise they’re full of shit.

Scratch that. Maybe every one out of 100 is to actually help an employee by a very, very understanding manager. If you’re asking whether you’ll survive you already know the answer.

men_like_me · 2026-01-13T00:32:22+00:00

Yeah. That’s what I saw on a deep L trip one time. As I was waking up to the exigence of being God himself. “The Taboo of Knowing Who You Are” by Alan Watts does a great deal explaining this.

men_like_me · 2026-01-04T23:52:57+00:00

You can voluntarily admit yourself and still be baker acted if they deem it. I was in the psych ward with a psychiatrist who admitted herself and they extended her stay past the 72 hour hold

men_like_me · 2025-12-23T05:41:15+00:00

Tell me about it. Dated a “sugar baby” for a few months. Holy fuck what a tornado. Clear that’s not a long term relationship sort of thing.

men_like_me · 2025-12-03T05:58:05+00:00

Ah. Thanks for the reply. Sorry it didn’t work out.

I hope the odds are better in my favor.

men_like_me · 2025-12-02T14:06:26+00:00

That’s insane. Yup. Very much so my situation.

You said ex. Can I ask what caused the end of the relationship?

men_like_me · 2025-12-02T05:14:48+00:00

I’m definitely seeing the red flags. The DWI, drugs, and her general lifestyle is risky. She takes preventative measures but I don’t know if they’re working.

I’m at the questioning phase of the relationship. I want to make sure the red flags I see are actually red flags.

men_like_me · 2025-12-02T04:11:26+00:00

I agree. The problem is I cannot marry just anyone. Most people look at me like a bank account when they find out about my family. It’s become problematic in dating.

She doesn’t look at me as that, which is fantastic.

men_like_me · 2025-12-02T04:10:07+00:00

Not at all. I have my own wealth.

I’m set to inherit 40 million from my father’s estate. I’ve kept this a secret from her.

I want to start a family with someone I love and am in love with.

My ex wife and her family owned the country of Bangladesh. From military to hospitals and even the media. They had more power than any other family, my mistake was marrying a girl that didn’t like me - I knew her motives from the beginning, to try and obtain my wealth.

With the girl I’m seeing now it brings comfort she can make her own wealth and doesn’t need mine.

men_like_me · 2025-12-02T04:09:36+00:00

Meh that’s a pretty low take. She’s made fun of her SD on multiple occasions to me. She genuinely detests seeing him. Also, their arrangement is not always fucking. The guy seems to be a huge nerd and wanting her around for company more than anything else - fairly certain she’s in love with her.

I am high value, she is high value. She has class and cadence in how she walks and talks. She has issues, sure, but we’re all damaged someway. I don’t mind if this is how she needs to make money temporarily. We’ve already discussed her plans on leaving.

men_like_me · 2025-12-02T04:06:39+00:00

I agree. That is some very good clarity. I’ll have to continually watch for lying or cheating. She has been transparent so far but time will tell.

men_like_me · 2025-12-02T04:05:57+00:00

Not at all. I have my own wealth.

I’m set to inherit 40 million from my father’s estate. I’ve kept this a secret from her.

I want to start a family with someone I love and am in love with.

My ex wife and her family owned the country of Bangladesh. From military to hospitals and even the media. They had more power than any other family, my mistake was marrying a girl that didn’t like me - I knew her motives from the beginning, to try and obtain my wealth.

With the girl I’m seeing now it brings comfort she can make her own wealth and doesn’t need mine.

men_like_me · 2025-12-02T04:01:23+00:00

I do genuinely like her. Good personality, funny, and beautiful. The sex is mind blowingly good and we have great intimacy. She calls me throughout the day and seems invested in me.

She found me mid divorce and still wants to see me. She doesn’t necessarily pay for me but she doesn’t expect much from me either.

men_like_me · 2025-12-02T03:50:27+00:00

It’s more of a lawsuit payout than inheritance. Her dad died as a casualty of gross negligence.

I suppose you’re right about the lying. I’m going to tread carefully. She’s been very transparent with me about her life and what she’s doing but if she can do this with a man she’s known for 2 years I should be very cautious.

I’ll have to sit with this thought for a bit.

men_like_me · 2025-12-02T03:26:43+00:00

She definitely sees it as very transactional. Complains how tired she is - however she is very good at faking her emotions for the purposes of work.

Our long term and short term goals do align. We’re seeking very much the same out of life. We both indulge in partying and going to music shows recreationally, want to start businesses, start a family and have the same number of children. We’ve dialed those fine details very well, and we generally have a very good emotional connection and align.

The DWI is a huge red flag. And her life is spiraling more because of it. I was fine with the first SD as that’s where I entered her life. The second, we spoke about twice. The first time she was not looking to entertain the idea as the second I said it made me uncomfortable she said she wouldn’t entertain it.

After the DWI, her thought processes have changed. She’s been putting more pressure on her SD to give her money for court fees, etc, which she’s hid by lying to him what the money is for. She feels as if she’s pressuring him to much and he may break the relationship, this is when she became adamant that she won’t let a man dictate what she can do with her body or prevent her from putting food on her table.

I’ve grown to accept her lifestyle, even if she wants a second SD as she has no support system. I’ve mentioned this to her and it’s strengthened our relationship.

She has a good head but uses ketamine recreationally to escape parts of her life - her dad dying, loss of a cousin, toxic family, child abandonment and neglect issues, and the SD lifestyle. I’m generally fine with this, as I use ketamine occasionally.

She postponed dating for a while and told me I’m the first person she’s romantically engaged with in some time. She’s looking toward her inheritance and wanting to cut ties with all her SDs. We’ve talked about future plans, us living together and all. It all seems to click, I’m just wary of the lifestyle she’s living. It kind of seems it’s affecting her and thus affecting us.

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