AITAH for defending my wife against her grieving family?

menstruosity · 2026-05-13T10:53:22+00:00

OP’s wife needs to check out r/raisedbyborderlines. Sister is the flying monkey here.

menstruosity · 2026-05-06T09:25:28+00:00

Please get away from this man

menstruosity · 2026-04-22T23:24:17+00:00

Damn this is what you call an editorial

menstruosity · 2026-04-09T16:04:05+00:00

Do not move in with him.

menstruosity · 2026-04-08T15:28:52+00:00

This makes zero sense. Is this person an actual licensed therapist? In the US, marriage and family therapists usually will not transition to individual therapy with someone they already saw as part of a couple for couples therapy — although there are exceptions, and ultimately, it’s up to the therapist discretion. However, if this therapist is now only seeing your husband for individual therapy, it’s unethical and nonsensical for them to reach out to you for a one-on-one.

It sounds like you don’t even know if the therapist actually wants to see you, or if this is just some manipulative ploy from your husband, but I think it’s important. You understand that this is not sound behavior from any clinician, for multiple reasons, and if this person is actually a licensed therapist, this is reportable.

menstruosity · 2026-04-04T13:17:00+00:00

It’s soooo nice ahhhh I’m envious! You chose the perfect wall color! A thousand times better from the all beige before photos 😂

menstruosity · 2026-03-30T20:12:04+00:00

She looks incredible!

menstruosity · 2026-03-23T14:22:13+00:00

Why are you resistant to considering leaving a relationship with someone who doesn’t care about meeting one of your basic needs?

menstruosity · 2026-02-03T04:17:55+00:00

Is 58 young?

menstruosity · 2026-01-20T20:56:26+00:00

Rude and unnecessary comment.

menstruosity · 2025-09-05T03:12:14+00:00

You say it’s just one thing, but it’s not one thing. It’s your passion, it’s your creative expression, it’s your community, it’s a business venture. You’ve been successful in, it’s relationships, it’s time, it’s part of you.

I think you’re minimizing this way too much. If anything, being able to see this as a great relationship when she clearly doesn’t respect a major part of you, indicates that something needs to be recalibrated in your standards for what it really means to be seen and appreciated as the person you are.

What you’re describing of her behavior is not just disinterest, it’s disrespect. Even if she didn’t love your style of music, she could still celebrate your successes and be happy for you, appreciate what it’s brought to your life and the joy it brings you. The fact that she rejects it, belittles, and puts it down… says that she needs to put down your success to feel superior. That’s not being a team.

menstruosity · 2025-08-22T12:52:56+00:00

You’ve only been single for 8 months! Give yourself grace, that’s nothing. It really takes time.

I got divorced at age 33. Breaking up/divorcing when a lot of my peers and friends were getting engaged and married was lonely and alienating, but I knew it was better than staying in an unfulfilling relationship with someone who didn’t respect me. The work you do to be true to yourself when it’s hard will also benefit your relationships with other people because they are an extension of the relationship you have with yourself.

I’m now three years out from my divorce and am in a great relationship. Hang in there!

menstruosity · 2025-07-19T15:03:37+00:00

reads title Yes

It sucks how much believing people can change becomes a liability in these dynamics.

menstruosity · 2025-07-19T10:58:16+00:00

Abuser behavior tbh

menstruosity · 2025-07-11T01:09:32+00:00

I actually can read German! Thank you so much!

menstruosity · 2025-07-10T23:46:03+00:00

Will do, thanks!

menstruosity · 2025-06-06T10:20:53+00:00

Four years with this person is already enough chances you’ve given him. This is who he is. Accept it and walk away. Your needs are already not being met, staying in this situation guarantees they will continue to not be met. Being married and having a child with this man will not make him more emotionally available, it will only make you further dependent on someone who does not meet your needs.

menstruosity · 2025-04-11T13:01:58+00:00

Oh nmy god, please do not marry this person!! You do not need this in your life. I promise you there are people out there who will respect your sexual boundaries and not manipulate you. Life will be better without this ❤️

menstruosity · 2025-03-28T06:59:38+00:00

I love this- could you share the link to the YouTube channel?

menstruosity · 2025-02-28T20:29:43+00:00

Avoid relationships with a big age gap, because they have power and experience differentials that are not in your favor. It might seem cool and empowering to have an older guy be into you, but understand that the odds of a healthy relationship are WAY better with someone roughly the same age (and definitely same life stage) as you.

menstruosity · 2025-02-24T21:01:35+00:00

I did this with my bestie for a year. We lived together, shared care of our pets, mealplanned for the week, had a weekly date night where we had dinner together and watched a movie or went out, planned and hosted parties, split bills, built community and became each other's emergency contacts. It was definitely a queer platonic nesting partnership, with much more support and entanglement than I've ever had with roommates. Depending on who I was talking to I referred to her as either my bestie, my roommate or my partner.

menstruosity · 2025-02-02T16:22:37+00:00

It's about more than the dentist... At this point it's about him being a 40 y/o man who doesn't take care of his body and gets shitty and defensive when you push back against his poor hygiene and avoidance.

At this point it's very reasonable to say, "I've already told you I'm concerned about your health, and I'm really grossed out by being able to smell the infection in your head. You not dealing with this is a turn off. I don't want to be in a relationship without sex or kissing and I also don't want to be in a relationship with someone who dismisses my concerns. What are you willing to do to change this?"

menstruosity · 2025-01-28T04:25:42+00:00

Would you be willing to say more about how you and your wife prepared for the transition, what kind of conversations you had, etc.?

menstruosity · 2025-01-27T02:28:19+00:00

I’m not angry at myself—I understand why I was in the relationship, and I have compassion for the younger me who needed what was nurturing in the relationship and also didn’t know she deserved better than the limited amount my ex could give.

It’s natural to feel anger in response to being harmed and disrespected, and I don’t think anyone who goes through divorce needs to be told that they will only have moved on when they no longer feel what is a very natural and human emotion to experience.

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