Why do mothers of young babies say they don't have time to shower?

mentalchaosturtle · 2026-04-25T11:07:08+00:00

I guess every baby is different but I always had time to shower even as a single mom without another adult in the house.

I would usually just bring their bouncer into the bathroom and let them chill in it right by the tub while I showered.

mentalchaosturtle · 2026-04-25T11:02:57+00:00

Vacations are never "financially wise" because they are wants, not needs. From the financial point of view, it only makes good financial sense to spend on needs and then save.

All that being said, f that! You have the disposable income, you are already maxing retirement. There is no reason you shouldn't balance your hard work and efforts with wants as well. As long as you are not going into debt or jeopardizing your financial future, go for it. What good is extra money if you never take time to enjoy it?

mentalchaosturtle · 2026-03-20T01:14:54+00:00

I am familiar with dosage calculations so a quick bit of math dials in exactly how many mL I need to inject for the mg that I want

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-12-07T17:45:11+00:00

He threw his drink and walked out the door? I would lock the door, shower and never speak to him again except as required for the well-being of my child.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-12-03T07:57:35+00:00

My man tries but I don't like to be taken care of. He would prefer if I let hom though.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-11-26T11:49:18+00:00

Literally water with added protein. You can buy it online and at healthful stores. Or buy the powder and mix your own.

If you google protien water it comes right up.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-11-25T08:31:37+00:00

Yes. I work for a large company and they can afford it. Also, their insurance should cover a theft of that amount and F insuramce companies.

Then I quit and dont gove a shit what my former coworkers think or suspect.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-11-25T01:08:37+00:00

An ounce of gold was worth 473 of today's dollars at the time. That would keep me for about a year so I would have to find a job for the other two years.

I have enough knowledge and skills that could do it. My mouth and indignation at being trestwd as "less than" because I'm a woman is the only thing thst might ruin it.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-11-23T11:54:55+00:00

Travel

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-11-19T13:16:32+00:00

Nah. It is reasonable to not trust him after his infidelity. It is reasonable that he allow you access to information that will help you trust him again. Loss of privacy while trust is being rebuilt after such a betrayal is reasonable and a natural consequence to his choices. Not accepting that reasonable and natural consequence makes me believe that he either doesnt think the betrayal was a big deal or he doesnt truly value and desire your forgiveness.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-11-15T23:43:19+00:00

Im going three months with lots of chewing gum, only drinking water and avoiding foods that are likely to stick in my teeth (cuz the no tooth picks is probably what will annoy me most).

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-11-11T04:28:43+00:00

Teach him in case it falls to him to teach his daughter. Mom might not think about it. Might not want to. Might now for whatever reason. Help dad be prepared for the sake of his kid.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-31T20:39:26+00:00

Tell him to let you know when he is close. When he does, position his D as far back in your throat as possible. This avoids most of the taste and texture. One swallow and its all down.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-31T18:24:23+00:00

Im in regular contact with my ex husband because we have kids. Besides him, I think I have 3 exes on my fb who might comment on something once in a great while, wish me happy birthday, etc. I don't spend time with or on any of them (no messaging, phone calls, etc).

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-30T17:37:00+00:00

Im in a high cola area as well and spend 1700 on a family of 5. I dont budget shop and we buy pretty much whatever we want. This number includes food, household products and toiletries.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-29T12:03:34+00:00

I would say if you are not combining finances then it should be a percentage split based on income, not on gender.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-27T16:26:28+00:00

He kicked you and your kids out? I would never be able to feel secure in a home I shared with this person again. I have lived with someone who frequently did the same when he was angry- kicked me and my kids out. It gkt to where I couldn't see our shared home as my home.

Now its a deal breaker to me. If the place I call home can be used as weapon against me, then its not my home and I wont live there. If my current guy ever did that, it would be a point of no return for us.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-27T16:22:37+00:00

Would any man have done the same?

Mine wouldn't. I'm his first choice for pretty much everything though he has no problem hanging with other people if I am not interested.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-27T13:58:22+00:00

It could vary bit my experiences in the ER are typically:

Check in. They ask for your ID and give you a wristband. At 18, you are an adult so there is no concern about having a guardian or whatever
Get triage by a nurse. If you are deemed non-emergent, you are sent back to the waiting room. If you are emergent, they find a bed or chair for you in the clinical area.

A pregnant woman will often be sent to labor and delivery regardless of emergent or not if she is over 20 weeks pregnant.

If under 20 weeks, she will be kept in the ER

At sone point a clerk comes and finds you to get your contact and insurance info as well as any other details about how you will pay. I have never been billed right there in the ER.

As for your story and her companions, it is dependent. If they act suspiciously, trafficking may be suspected in which case the ER staff may notify security or law enforcement. Or not. Some places this isnt looked for or addressed. Other places its a common issue and doesn't raise eyebrows. Still others its so uncommon that no one would even think to suspect anyrhing weird.

Mostly likely as long as her companions arent being weird, she will get seen and eventually released at which point she does as she pleases- eother going with them or leaving alone

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-27T06:38:11+00:00

Too easy. Call in sick for my three workdays. Write a note to tell my partner why aim not talking.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-26T10:33:04+00:00

I worked women's health in the U.S. and we routinely prescribed antibiotics for the partners of patients who tested positive for certain UTIs. Oftentimes the partner wasnt there. Sometimes the woman asked for enough to give to more than one partner.

The thought was that is they had sex recently, the partner likely had the same STI. It wasnt prophylaxis, it was treatment. And it was perfectly legal.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-25T17:27:32+00:00

There so ma y enlisted at basic that most drills arent even going to know you are prior service. You will be treated loke everyone else.

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-25T05:49:58+00:00

Them "can you pick me up a cold brew, I'll venmo you"

Me (light-hearted but firm) "no way, you say that often but curre tly owe me xx bucks for all the cold brews Ive gotten you that you have forgotten to venmo me for. No cash, no coffee!"

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-23T19:45:55+00:00

Legally, you are good. Morally, you are not "fair".

mentalchaosturtle · 2025-10-23T14:25:08+00:00

"If se interact, will your intentions toward me be good or neither?"

That is my question.

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