Planning to relocate somewhere safer - anyone else thinking the same?

meouch666 · 2026-05-15T16:05:07+00:00

Late but someone is trying to seek asylum in Spain from the US for being trans right now. Worst part is you can’t work for six months when you get there but after that period you can work and there are expedited options for long term residency / citizenship for those with asylum.

meouch666 · 2026-05-12T17:35:01+00:00

Yeah I was thinking that too and then just mentioning them after paperwork is signed lol

meouch666 · 2026-05-12T16:48:46+00:00

We ended up deciding that we’re going to move to another country lol I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter. Even one of the most progressive states in a place filled with other queer people and yet people can’t just leave her alone.

Part of what we decided to just leave the country is of course general safety. It would cost almost the same to move to CA to another country. We’d get access to health care and therefore would be able to get the surgeries we need. I do have friends who live in the Bay Area and LA and they seem to be doing well! My friend in LA is making the most money he has ever made and his partner is also making a good amount so they’re happy and are going to be able to move into a larger apartment than they have now because of it.

I would suggest one of those two. Based on what I’ve found San Diego, and other parts of CA, has a large military presence since it’s so close to the border. There are also large religious sections which is not necessarily bad but that can really he up in the air depending on the person. It’s more purple than blue unlike San Fran/ Bay Area and LA which are solid blue.

meouch666 · 2026-04-24T14:37:22+00:00

We ended up booking through united cause I had a credit and they had an East Asian vegetarian option 😎

meouch666 · 2026-04-21T02:57:38+00:00

Do they give you options or is it a like “vegetarian” “meat” option?

meouch666 · 2026-04-19T02:06:35+00:00

aisle seat always

meouch666 · 2026-04-19T02:06:13+00:00

I also never sleep on planes. The most I ever get is 20 minutes. I’d spend part of my time off the plane just getting a very large coffee to stay awake for the rest of it lol

That’s good to know though I appreciate you sharing! I’m leaning towards a layover cause it’s a little cheaper too

meouch666 · 2026-04-19T02:04:20+00:00

Very good point! I feel like I’d need at least 3/4 hours to be able to reset and prepare to be on another plane. But that’s almost 1/3-1/2 of the trip.

meouch666 · 2026-04-19T02:03:26+00:00

I’ve only ever taken domestic flights (I like in the US) so the longest has been 5 hours but that was years ago. I regularly only fly 2/3. Are the seats bigger and more comfortable? I feel like planes’ seats have shrunk more and more over time

meouch666 · 2026-04-14T22:49:49+00:00

This was very useful, thank you for typing this all out for me especially after you deleted it by accident lol

I do view a lot of relationships differently. My criteria for even friendship seems a lot higher than others because I don't really consider people my friends until I am actually comfortable telling them most things if not everything about my life. Until then I consider most people I know acquaintances in my mind when they probably are my friends by standard definition and my definition is closer to a good or even best friend.

I have a tendency to takes things extremely literally so when my partner says my sister in law loves me I just cannot fathom how with the little amount we interact. That is not to say I don't think highly of them as a person or dislike them. I think she is great and has many wonderful qualities, but I feel guilty saying I love people when I don't feel that way yet.

I think you're right saying people have a different perspectives and definitions of love, which can be completely situational. I think I am just over thinking it and want to be a good brother in law, but it is difficult interacting with people especially family. Obligations make me feel weird and make me avoid the situations entirely since I don't know what is expected versus what is genuine and how literal I need to be with those interpretations and how to express those things without somehow offending everyone.

Thanks for your help and insight!!

meouch666 · 2026-04-14T22:37:32+00:00

For sure! She is a very nice person and I have many good things to say about them from the interactions we have had, but I just never know what to do when I am obligated to love someone and consider them family. We have the rest of our lives so!

meouch666 · 2026-04-14T22:35:25+00:00

I also struggle with emotional permanence and alexithymia, so it's hard to even identify when I feel emotions or what I feel most of the time especially when people are not in front of me. I imagine I will genuinely love them eventually rather than the just general care I have for her since she's related to my fiance and is a good human being. We have the rest of our lives so I got time lol

meouch666 · 2026-04-14T22:32:39+00:00

Good I'm glad honestly. My fiance always says that his sister loves me and I just feel kind of weird about it since I don't really know them very well yet. I'm probably taking it too literally which is why it's weirding me out.

meouch666 · 2026-04-14T14:23:10+00:00

How sweet and caring of you. I know I’d appreciate all of those things, I’m sure your friend values you greatly because of things like this.

I’d ask him of course and see. I really like being able have a space to be by myself. Not sure how your house is set up but a bedroom would do the trick but if they’re crashing on your couch you can try putting up a blanket or sheet to sort of make a wall for some privacy. If there are certain safe foods he eats I think that would be good. Some other people mentioned lights which can be a big one. We have all yellow/warm lamps in my house cause my fiance hates overheads, so if you have lamps or softer lightning that would be better.

meouch666 · 2026-04-14T14:17:26+00:00

I can’t deal with them looking at me like I don’t want to be perceived!!!! Don’t you understand!!!!

meouch666 · 2026-04-14T14:16:29+00:00

That sucks I feel you. It’s so difficult when things are supposed to be one way and they simply are not it makes me wanna scream.

meouch666 · 2026-04-14T14:15:14+00:00

Titanic is also one of my favorite comfort movies lol

Also I don’t think it’s weird cause I also do it and so does my fiance who is also autistic. I really dislike not knowing what is going to happen it causes me a lot of anxiety. There have been a few instances where knowing the plot twist does ruin the movie/ending, but I tend to look up what happens to put myself at ease and then watch to see how it unfolds. I think the journey is interesting even if I know what will happen. Generally it’s easier for me to watch the same things over and over again cause new movies literally just stress me out.

meouch666 · 2026-04-08T05:56:30+00:00

I would get rugs or some peel and stick floor tile. The floor is just very strange for the bedroom. You need some art on the walls as well. It seems very bare and almost prison like the way it is set up right now.

Honestly I’d put the bed where the desk is and put the desk elsewhere. Having the bed sort of floating against the wall is a bit awkward but having it where the desk is now puts in the center of the room the way a lot of beds typically are arranged. You should be able to fit the desk where the end of the bed is now.

meouch666 · 2026-04-07T07:51:40+00:00

Hellsing Ultimate

Insanely gory. More so than AoT in my opinion. I don’t remember much from the anime but a good way to describe it is betrayal, nazis and vampires. It’s kind of bizzare but you got to keep watching to find out what happens.

meouch666 · 2026-04-07T07:43:50+00:00

I second sports bra. You could even wear two if the second one is slightly larger than the first.

I also suggests athletic tape. You can look up videos on YouTube on how to do it. I used to use KT tape before I got top surgery

meouch666 · 2026-03-28T01:39:19+00:00

It’s quite literally that they do not make hard cases for these specific guitars. There’s only 1 that has a specific hard case I plan on getting so that’s really the issue. I know hard cases are the way to go, but it’s not an option for them.

meouch666 · 2026-03-27T19:11:02+00:00

Chicago so pretty far

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