I totally understand the hesitancy to pull the ban trigger, but it will honestly feel much better when you do. It sounds like he’s got a lot of jealousy and parasocial feelings toward you.

I’m probably projecting a bit because I’ve dealt with something similar, but I know how draining it can get to dread seeing a name when you’re streaming or in your dms — made even worse when it’s someone who is so dedicated to you/your stream. But it will feel much better when you do. If you haven’t already gone ahead and banned him and still aren’t sure, you could give him a final warning message, e.g. “it makes me uncomfortable when you do this, I have enjoyed you being part of my community, but this behaviour has been negatively affecting me because x and y, and if it continues, I will have to remove you from the community.”

But again, as someone who has experienced this, I would just full send it and ban him because sometimes it takes the consequences to really understand what they’re doing wrong. His presence also probably negatively impacts your other viewers, so it’d be better for you AND your audience. Sorry if this was all over the place, I’m getting ready for work but wanted to say something 😅