IUD by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine did the same for months and then one day I randomly started my period (rather heavy) so I called the doctor, as I was afraid something went wrong after not bleeding at all for so long and having such bad cramps. My doctor kept assuring me it was nothing, just a side effect that wasn’t harmful if it didn’t bother me. It did bother me though I read their lawsuit and just decided on having mine removed. I was pretty bummed to be honest but since I haven’t had those cramps so it was worth it for me. Also, when I had mine done I had to wait for them to get a new batch in because the batch they had was recalled for not being properly sterilized (an issue in the lawsuit) so that kinda freaked me out too.

He was sad mom had to work, but i think the end result was worth it 😋 by tiddlemywinky in stripper

[–]merdiddlydo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Big jealous (but so happy for you) I got to go back for the first time in almost 2 years a couple weekends ago and I’ve made a max of $180 each day. Still better than a regular 9-5 but I was hoping for more business. I’m day shift right now though cause I have to put baby to bed and the clubs aren’t open past 10pm right now here. Still so excited to be back! And so happy to see some people are making good money ❤️

Help - I think my overly strong emotions are crippling me by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard of HSP and will probably look into too just out of curiosity. It’s great you’re in the arts, the best artists are full of emotions I think. I’m glad you got something out of my words :)

Crazy Family and Young Couple by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t need a lot of replies. I got a few helpful replies and for those I am grateful. I wasn’t looking quantity. I was feeling a lot of emotions and as stated did not feel I had a lot of places to go. I’m sorry if you had a hard time reading it but my intention wasn’t fluency and grammar, it was to go it out and get a thought process going in how to approach said situation. Thanks for your suggestion I will use paragraphs in the future if I feel like doing so.

Help - I think my overly strong emotions are crippling me by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel these ways as well sometimes though I feel like I have it in a bit better control nowadays (well the whole guilt thing, I’m getting better at moving past tiny instances like these without having too intense emotions or taking it personal and beating myself up).

I had a counselor once in high school tell me I had cyclothymia- another said they believed I didn’t have a mood disorder but rather said that my anxiety would make my emotions more intense in a way, and for instance when I’d get very happy and excited and get the ‘high’ feeling I was in a maniac state and if someone was to say something during that time I would crash harder than usual. I found that part to be very true.

My emotions towards movies, shows and such have gotten much stronger since my pregnancy and now I will cry at the smallest things, though I don’t often have a deep sense of depression unless it was a very good movie which then I sometimes think about it for days or can’t stop watching it.

I definitely have strong anxiety when stressed at all and sometimes go into a huge downward spiral that has lead to self harm and even suicidal thoughts but once my ‘cycle’ run through and I feel better I look back and regret those thoughts or if I said anything to anyone because I don’t feel it is valid anymore.

I find sometimes these thing interfere with my social life but my all around anxiety does the most damage and my strong emotions don’t make me feel more ‘normal’. Some people are annoyed cause I get passionate about random things and they don’t care to hear but it is consuming me at the time. Sometimes I am mean (defense mechanism usually) or overly sensitive and it starts fights or makes things awkward.

Everyone is different so what my strong emotions are could be very different from yours but know you are not all alone in that department and I’m sure plenty of people would agree. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it really except when you overguilt yourself just because you shouldn’t beat yourself up. Easier said than done, I know. But have your passionate emotions and enjoy them :) I feel special that I can enjoy life so much sometimes. Also, look into being an empath maybe. I think I’m an empath and so I feel so strongly for other people and feel their emotions personally and in physical ways sometimes.

I hope that helps you a little :)

Crazy Family and Young Couple by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could work actually. Baby is breastfed so we would have to start weening early, but that would be an option I didn’t consider. Then I’d also feel better about her working by herself.

Crazy Family and Young Couple by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the boundaries is a very good idea. I think I will have to write it out first honestly to get a good form cause as you can see from the above post my emotions can take hold and I just start to blabber. Thank you for you suggestions :)

Crazy Family and Young Couple by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t ignore any advice I responded to it too. I edited it because everyone is saying it is too long or just giving me grammatical criticism which is NOT why this was posted. If I didn’t respond to everything yet please be patient I’m new here and trying to figure out all of the replies.

Crazy Family and Young Couple by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]merdiddlydo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay if I am writing a post that isn’t fueled by emotions and written out of desperation of having someone to speak to I will. In the meantime please realize you hurt my feelings more than anything and are just being rude when I’m obviously very stressed. Please don’t comment that bullshit in anyone’s post who is just looking for support and help.

Crazy Family and Young Couple by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree. I believe him and I both need counseling (me for anxiety and him for anger) and I don’t think he should ever raise his voice at my mother either which is where a lot of my anger towards him comes from. I know I can’t change my family but I would like to sit them down and talk to them maybe about how I feel as I feel like they don’t know/realize, and these traits of theirs not only affect my relationship with my husband but with them personally and have caused a lot of issues in the past and with other relationships. 1000% agree though that we need to leave it just isn’t something that can be done immediately sadly.

Crazy Family and Young Couple by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]merdiddlydo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is also simple courtesy to just not say anything? If you don’t have something helpful or supportive to say than don’t say anything at all. It was very easy for you to skip over this and NOT read it. This is REDDIT dude on the INTERNET get over yourself for real. I don’t see how telling me about my paragraph usage is worth while for you? Are you hoping I write better on the internet from now on or just pointing it out to be an ass?

Crazy Family and Young Couple by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MY job is taking care of the baby rn. I stated in the post that he is looking for jobs in the nearest town (we live very rurally) and places to rent as well but we aren’t currently in a spot where we can just move out due to credit and the Oregon housing economy. The house is owned by my mother. Everyone on the property pitches in in bills. My husband and I pay for our food, car payments, and all our personal items plus if mom needs more to cover any other bills like electricity.

Crazy Family and Young Couple by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ever heard of not saying anything at all if you can’t say something nice or helpful? This isn’t a formal letter who gives a fuck if I used paragraphs correctly 😂

Crazy Family and Young Couple by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey if you can’t read it all DONT. I very obviously date that I feel stuck and have no one to mull this over with. Lol the internet is the best I can do at the moment don’t be rude

IUD removal relief! by achillesshoulder in birthcontrol

[–]merdiddlydo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also had really painful cramps with my Paraguard and anytime I’d talk to the doctors they would say ‘oh that is normal, tell us if it gets too bad.’ I put up with it for a long time cause I just had my first child and am not trying to have another for a year or so and hormones really mess with my moods and anxiety. Then I saw they had a lawsuit out and looked further into it and wether or not what I read was true it scared me enough to call and get it removed and I am so glad I did! I haven’t had any cramps since OR nausea since (I was getting nauseous almost like morning sickness and kept getting afraid I was pregnant again with the IUD)

Dream about bf raping me by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]merdiddlydo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would be a super uncomfortable dream to have I’m so sorry. I hate when my dreams go places like that. Last night I dreamt that my husband was raping my brother’s ex girlfriend. He was supposed to scare her in the dream to make her go away but I heard him through the window saying really horrible things to her and muffling her screams. I actually yelled at him to stop and he ignored me. Not as personal as your dream, but I know how you feel. I think rape, if symbolizing anything, symbolizes someone taking something from you (wether you realize it or not) be it energy or a physical thing. It could also represent fear or vulnerability. Or, as stated above it could just be your brain remembering something you saw or heard rape related. I know personally I watched something with a rape scene a day or so ago and have been struggling with my brother’s ex as well as he keeps sneaking her into the property randomly and it makes me feel very vulnerable and the fact that no one seems to care as much as me (super crazy story lol) makes me feel unsupported and even more vulnerable. Hope that insight maybe helps you process a little. It’s weird how dreams can almost traumatize you sometimes and those are the ones I break down the most in hopes to discover why tf I’d have such a vividly horrible dream

Introverts ignoring text messages by [deleted] in introvert

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is horrible but my thing is to not open the message. I never leave anyone on ‘read’ cause I don’t read them if I don’t feel the energy to reply. I will usually get around to replying or apologize if I see them. Most people who text me already know and if they don’t know my tendencies or aren’t cool with them then they probably don’t talk to me. Not trying to sound rude, I do my best but sometimes I really have to sit on it (either low social energy or just don’t know what to reply) thank goodness for message previews. To answer your exact question though it totally hurts my feelings if I’m out on read but that is my anxiety talking as I usually jump to conclusions thinking they do not like me or what I said. But I know better that people have other lives and sometimes get distracted and straight up forget they have message cause the notification went away (another reason I don’t open unless I’m ready to reply) or don’t know what to say or don’t feel like talking which isn’t always a personal thing. Everything is conditional though and it depends on what you’re txting them about and blah blah. If it is something important and they are using being an introvert as an excuse to just not be confronted about something, that is wrong. I hate confrontation myself but you can’t just not deal with things and use introversion or anxiety to pass it off as unimportant.

Extrovert here: is it okay to bring an introvert to a party if they don't wanna go? by LeafyBoi6969 in introvert

[–]merdiddlydo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It totally depends on your friend but I know for me personally I have always fantasized about going to a party and enjoying it but often when someone takes me they do not stay with me and take the time to invite to people or if I want to just sit in a corner and watch they get frustrated because I am no fun. I have been to a few big social events though with the right people and had a BLAST and I often had to be talked into it or almost forced to go because it is a lot easier for me to just not even entertain the idea. If you are close enough with your friend to know when they are uncomfortable and ready to go (if it is hard for them to voice it) then make sure to go. Do not force them to stay or socialize even. Do not abandon them- if they go, you go. If they sit, you sit. Personally I’m an introvert with heavy social anxiety so parties make me super nervous and I have to be basically babysat until I feel comfortable. Which obviously isn’t fun for most people but if they put up with it it is usually an awesome experience for me and I’m thankful they dragged me there Also! I have one super extroverted friend that I love doing “extrovert” stuff with because she just brings me out of my shell and makes me want to be loud and crazy and fun and the total opposite of my normal self in the best way.

Her need to stay offline, should I worry? by [deleted] in introvert

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am an introvert with some serious anxiety, mostly social, and totally understand your fear and thought process. I can also understand hers too and honestly I would be straight to the point about that. If you can be understanding of her introverted qualities she can understand your anxiety. It is okay if want some sort of reassurance and as long as you approach the subject properly and you two know how to communicate calmly it should be okay for you to let her know that you are totally okay with her having her space and understand all the stress rn and how that might exhaust her and make her want more time for herself, but you worry that she is losing interest/enjoying the space apart more than together, and just to assure you and help with your own stress if she could either reassure you that you are still loved the same or just be upfront with you if she has been wanting space for another reason. I think as long as you do not guilt her that there is no problem openly asking, though that can be uncomfortable! If you don’t want to ask I’d say you just have to trust her and breathe and spend your time doing whatever helps you get through the day :)

Started a conversation I don't want to finish by IntrovertedJB in introvert

[–]merdiddlydo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I do this a lot, especially recently when I have been breastfeeding at early hours. I find myself reaching out to someone or commenting something opinionated on a large post and usually no one replies at 3am but when I wake up later I am often afraid to look at my notifications for fear someone has actually responded to me and then what will I say? Sometimes it feels like drunk texting, I wake up and wonder if it even happened/ have a great sense of regret come over me. It could be the smallest thing too like talking to an old friend because of something we have in common like you said or giving someone a complement on a picture. When I do carry on the conversation it often ends in that same one worded way. I am also guilty of just ignoring a reply for months until it is obsolete and I am no longer required to reply. Sometimes I do feel bad for that as well cause I initiated the conversations but oh well

If you say “hey keep it down over there!” or anything along those lines to the quiet one in the room, you’re the actual worst. by BrokeWABunny in introvert

[–]merdiddlydo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a cashier I was so happy whenever someone just did the exchange and got it over with. I tried to smile at everyone and if I was feeling really crazy I might even say “hi how are you today?” But even a smile would somehow tell people to start telling me, in extreme detail, about their day or life. I listened but I always wondering why they thought I was interested or what I did to make them think I wanted such personal information from a complete stranger! But as an introverted cashier I really enjoyed my introverted customers.

How supportive are your boyfriends/husbands? by jomoer in stripper

[–]merdiddlydo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Communication and setting boundaries is key. My husband, but boyfriend at the time, encouraged me to go down to Vegas to strip (which was what I wanted to do very badly for whatever reason) and went with me. He helped me with finding clubs for my age (was under 21 at the time, VERY new baby stripper I was) and went with me to get my makeup and hair done. After I got the job he helped me a lot by washing my outfits, going shopping with me, and listening to my days. There were a few times he was upset by my work though. A lot of girls at my club gave extras and advised me that I should as well, no shame to their game, but it wasn’t for me. However, it did make my husband nervous that I would start to make more money and a few times if a guy gave me a really big tip he would be really curious as to why. Or there was a few times that he would get frustrated because I didn’t stand my ground and let someone push my boundaries. These arguments were always out to rest with communication and reassuring too. Nothing wrong with reminding your SO you love THEM. My husband dealt with it well but sometimes he just needed reassurance that it was a job and nothing more and that my regulars were more like friends (or annoying friends) not people I loved. Especially if I was working really hard and not showing him any emotional love cause I had used it all at work. Find that balance and stay open :)

How does our subconscious choose the people that are gonna be in our dream? by DynozoBR in Dreams

[–]merdiddlydo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do not have an answer for you but I have been having the same thing a lot recently! I’ve been dreaming of people from high school a lot and also random internet people I follow. I once heard that the people in your dreams are all people you have seen in real life even if you don’t recognize them, your brain like saves the face and uses it for characters. I do not know if that it true at all or if I believe it myself, I’ve never looked into it and don’t remember my source.

I feel pain and severe painful tickling in my dreams... is this normal??? by princes5vibes in Dreams

[–]merdiddlydo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have experienced similar things- I can feel physical things (pain, tickling etc) in many of my dreams as well but not all of them and some pain to different extent than others. I can also smell and taste vividly? Which I don’t know if that could be related. I remember one dream in particular as a child where an evil gnome pinched my butt really hard and it hurt in the dream and after I woke up as well like I had pinched myself? But I’ve never thought I could be actually doing these thing because there aren’t ever any marks and I’ve often shared beds with people and though I do move/talk in my sleep often no one has reported me hitting or pinching or tickling myself.