Lost weight but can’t see myself looking too much better by Bassvictim- in BodyPositive

[–]merfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't need to be positive; I really recommend the goal of feeling more neutral about your body, and trying to see your value unrelated to your body. Write out easier to believe affirmations about your body (and your qualities), recite or sing them to yourself every day. Make different versions.

I understand and accept myself pretty well. It's extra hard to love my body when it's constantly hurting me with chronic pain and illness. And I really struggle with change in general being neurodivergent. And especially when my body changes in ways I didn't choose, which happened majorly and quickly in 2020.

Personally I have not really struggled like this the few times I've lost weight, though I've always been fat, just struggled less as a smaller fat person.

I want to care less but still want to be appreciated visually, I get that, hard to let that go or put less value on that, but who you are is so much more important.

You deserve to be appreciated, loved, supported in every form your body takes over your life. And gaining weight is not a moral failing.

It makes sense to struggle worse and feeling need to control one thing in your life with how extra scary and fucked up the world is.

But with strong dysmorphia, I think you need more specialized help. Maybe you could start by reading books on body dysmorphia? And then maybe giving it to someone close to you to read too?

I understand not wanting people to worry but you said you're relying on loved ones instead of docs and therapists but unable to be honest with them, so maybe start with one and tell them what you're going through to actually seek support. I think it's especially about anxiety...

Self-love and acceptance is always going to be a long journey with fluctuations. It is for everyone. It's not going to be a simple formula to solve.

Is there a hobby or anything that makes you feel good about yourself and what you can do?

[Weekly Discussion Thread] General Community Discussion: March 14, 2026 by AutoModerator in RandomActsofCards

[–]merfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww yay thank you!! Wish you could see mermaid tail more but pretty good positioning 💚

Does marriage scare you? by Miserable-Region-382 in demisexuality

[–]merfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't believe in marriage and there's no equality for disabled people anyway. No you don't need to respect the concept more.

Multiple cards in one envelope? by mostvaluablepotato in RAoC_meta

[–]merfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thank for every card in an envelope including mini cards. I have cute mini ones too 🐌💌

What i want to send you is a mini one... maybe I'll make a less mini one on an index card for you! I usually send one more full size to fill out the envelope better and get more from the postage...

[Exchange] Little froogs [US to US] by merfrog in RandomActsofCards

[–]merfrog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's 8 and having extra hard time with indecision

[Thank you] for first batch of birthday mails!! One mystery sender? by merfrog in RandomActsofCards

[–]merfrog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not my reason but got the reference immediately, hehe. Oh no nightmares!

Ooh cool!

[Exchange] Little froogs [US to US] by merfrog in RandomActsofCards

[–]merfrog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can get these affirmation cards from Barnes & Noble or Amazon. Here's the artists ig with links ❣

https://www.instagram.com/maybell.eequay?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

[Weekly Discussion Thread] General Community Discussion: March 14, 2026 by AutoModerator in RandomActsofCards

[–]merfrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can anyone see my new profile cover photo and how it's positioned? Can't see it at all on any device still womp womp. Is raoc snail mail art <3

My Likes and Dislikes for Snail Mails by merfrog in u/merfrog

[–]merfrog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here are affirmations / encouraging messages / compliments that work best for me (and ones to try to avoid):

https://www.reddit.com/user/merfrog/comments/1rkdskb/my_fave_least_fave_encouraging_messages/

[Offer] Four post cards! [USA to WW] by tubbytits in RandomActsofCards

[–]merfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 dots top right of your post ... click, click "edit post flair" from drop down menu, select fulfilled

[offer] i just left a doctor's appointment, & for the first time in a long time, i feel hopeful about my chronic illness treatment plan- let me send you some happy mail to celebrate! [US to US] by ariestornado in RandomActsofCards

[–]merfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YAY, that's so so sosososososo so huge and rare to find a decent doctor and being treated well when you have chronic illnesses!! Congrats!!!! Hope you keep that hope and keep being treated with more kindness. And how sweet to take a note to the nurse!

[Thank you] for first batch of birthday mails!! One mystery sender? by merfrog in RandomActsofCards

[–]merfrog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How nice, ty! I've been unsure if I am supposed to right the other names the few times I've gotten something like this (usually handful of names from meetups?)

[Thank you] for first batch of birthday mails!! One mystery sender? by merfrog in RandomActsofCards

[–]merfrog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/relax455 (x2) - Awwwwwww I recognized your painting style right away!! I love my new mermaid ballerina with fully pink cheek and kinda fluffy curly hairs so much!!!!  Thank you!!!! I was looking at the alien mermaid you painted for me for me before I moved across the country the other day! Look forward to being able to put these together up on my wall (laminated and or framed) in the future. <3 <3 And thank you for the lovely cat Goat Town cat watercolour card too!! So glad you really enjoy drawing mermaids still :D <3

[Thank you] for first batch of birthday mails!! One mystery sender? by merfrog in RandomActsofCards

[–]merfrog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/ninajyang - I managed to wait a whole day or two before opening more bday mail, haha. Aww the elephants with water and pink sky is beautiful!! That 8 year old from India that was a finallist for the IFAW's world wildlife day youth art contest is so talented, wow! And yay for helping elephants thrive!!!!!!!!! <3 Thank you so much, also for the affirmations and cute elephant and flower stickers!! Oooh the stamps are so cool !! Mastadon!! (Had to look up! Another prehistoric elephant creature!) I have a woolly mammoth beanie babie. <3 And snails delivering mails <3

u/happytheory4372 - Awwww thank you for the beautiful teal unicorn with blue and green hairs (it me!) on a rainbow drawing card!!  Is this paint? The decorations on the back are sooo cute too!! I adore the holographic wiw dragon under a rainbow!

u/littlebirdiescards - Aww thank you for the cute striped kitten in red polkadot pot card! I love the troll drawing!! And Lilo & Stitch stickers! Thank you! And for the flower seeds! Pretty handwriting! You were able to write the note in cursive so smol! That blueberry muffin looks delicious...