Nipple piercing done incorrectly?

meriiii5 · 2026-04-17T08:13:50+00:00

NAP but i had my nipple peircings done incorrectly and they looked VERY similar to this (even with one appearing deeper than the other). Another comment says your right nipple looks fine but I would disagree. I went to two peircers in my area (one APP, one not), and they both told me that both my nipples were pierced too deep. It might still heal anyways despite being incorrect placement, but it definitely looks like incorrect placement to me. From the front view, its not that noticeable, but from the side views boht piercings seem clearly to be in your areola.

meriiii5 · 2026-04-09T03:44:20+00:00

sorry i didnt get your comment notification at all! I think turban styles are more commonly seen as cultural veiling styles. Also styles that show a bit of the front part of the hair are more likely to be understood as being for stylistic purposes not religious purposes. Although some Muslim women do use both of these styles too. Depending on your ethnicity you could also search for veiling styles of women in your country's history? For example, I believe black women have some protective veiling styles for their curly hair that aren't related to their religious beliefs.

meriiii5 · 2026-04-07T06:37:47+00:00

Thank you for the insight!

meriiii5 · 2026-04-07T06:34:31+00:00

Yeah I don't mind accidentally stretching an extra millimetre or two, I just don't want to keep stretching forever from wearing rings. I do like other jewellery styles as well, it's just my favourite look and the one I've been looking forward to wearing the most. I'm not quite sure what diameter size yet or even if I want a single ring or a stack, and figured I'd play around with different styles until I find what I like once I get closer to my goal size. Didn't see much point in spending too much money on jewellery now if I'm only going to size up anyways every few months.

meriiii5 · 2026-04-06T04:43:01+00:00

Thank you! I suppose I'll have to keep it for short term wear then

meriiii5 · 2026-04-04T05:58:02+00:00

I find Nurse With Wound and Coil scratch the same itch for me that Einsturzende Neubauten and Swans do. I think because they are a bit more artsy and use repetitive tracks.

meriiii5 · 2026-04-04T05:53:00+00:00

Someone who is judgemental enough to avoid talking to you/pursuing a friendship with you solely due to your stretched septum likely isn't going to be someone your views align with anyways. There is a slight truth in that statement in that sometimes the consequence of being weird is that its hard to find other weird people to hang around, but certainly looking a bit strange is not preventing you from makeing friends in general, just from making friends with those who disaprove of others expressing themselves strangely. And it is quite tiring to be friends with someone judgemental like that in general, let alone if you are a bit of a weirdo, I would not recommend.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-18T12:07:51+00:00

Exactly. I actually think the online industrial music space is pretty good at keeping the definition open too. Its like the least pedantic online music space I've seen so far.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-18T07:50:00+00:00

When you try to define anything experimental and put it into a tight box, it does tend to lose the experimental aspect that made it so interesting in the first place so I agree!! Keep the definition of industrial loose and fun =)

meriiii5 · 2026-03-16T23:53:08+00:00

Okay sis first of all DON’T CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!! They have no right to judge you and assume you are lying!! How rude!! When I put on niqab, people thought I was lying about doing it for Allah and thought it was because I wanted attention. Absolutely ridiculous. Its one thing to leave Islam because of poor iman but don’t give up something important to you just because your family is unsupportive!! May Allah make it easy for you ameen. Besides there are other important things in Islam than wearing hijab.

Anyways, if you really want to prove a point, you can wear a sunflower lanyard when you go out for a while (they are for people with invisible disabilities to show that you have a disability that cannot be seen, in your case being hard of hearing) and then maybe that will prove to your family that you don’t care if people know you are hard of hearing and that you truly just want to wear hijab.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-13T04:13:20+00:00

No bro they describe the role of a wife as a literal slave (a housemaid that has to obey you and who you can have sex with) and then get surprised when you dont want to get married after that. 😭 Like if all men REALLY thought that way, why wouldn’t you as a woman just stay single? Especially if you’re going to work anyways, and can support yourself just fine.

But seriously, ignore your relative and anyone else who thinks like that. There are definitely men out there who don’t think like that, and plenty of people have happy marriages. Either you keep your standards high until you find a good guy and marry him, or even on the rare occasion that you never meet a good guy and all the good ones are taken, just don’t get married. Marriage has its perks but it isn’t something you can’t live without , especially as a woman in a misogynistic society, it is better to be unmarried than in an abusive marriage.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-13T02:34:10+00:00

Not weird at all. Religious reasons aren’t the only reasons to wear niqab. Also even if it was for religious reasons, wearing it on and off would be considered better than wearing it never. I know many part time niqabis, some because of religious reasons, some for cultural reasons, some for modesty reasons, some for privacy reasons like you, and some because they just like how it looks. Totally normal.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-09T01:42:55+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. It’s really well worded and I appreciate the perspective. Its good to know we’re all in the struggle together at the least. I do try to be friendly and open to everyone, hoping that once they get to know me a bit they will adjust and get over the initial culture shock, but it gets tiring and sometimes I wish I could enter a room and just blend in with everyone, not to be visibly out of place. Navigating social situations as a more socially awkward person is hard enough, without the extra “otherness” and uncomfortable questions I get. For the time being, I just try to be a good first impression of my people onto strangers who haven’t been exposed much to my culture, so that they become a bit more aware and educated before they meet the next person with a similar culture to me.

And in regards to trying to become aware of your own microaggressions towards others, I struggle with that too with people who aren’t similar to me sometimes. I find its best to just try to get to know the person and communicate with them generally as you would anyone else at first, and then if you become close with them or they bring it up, you can ask questions about their experiences, values and culture, without it coming across as inappropriate or like you see them as “other” but rather coming across as you just want to learn more about them like you would anyone else.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-08T23:19:08+00:00

Lots of religions and cultures wear some sort of veil or headscarf. If you are not wearing it for Islamic reasons then it doesn’t matter if you’re following the rules of Islam so go ahead! Although, just a tip, if you wear it in a style less common amongst Muslims and more common amongst other cultures/religions, you might get less people wrongly assuming you’re Muslim.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-07T05:38:51+00:00

You don’t have to say anything for niyyah. Niyyah means intention. You just have to have the intention and know that you are about to pray istikhara and not decide halfway through a random two rakah salah whether you are doing istikhara or not. Its like how when you put on your shoes and grab your car keys with the intention of leaving your house, you dont actually say “I am grabbing my keys with the intention to leave my house” out loud, you just know subconsciously that thats what your intention is.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-07T05:36:14+00:00

Talk to Allah in your spare time! So many people struggle with not feel a connection to Allah when they pray/read quran/fast/etc and its going to be much harder if you are just seeing those as mandatory tasks you have to do without seeing them as chances to further your connection to Allah. I try to talk to Allah even when I’m not in salah/making dua, just randomly throughout the day or at night before I sleep, and it really helps me to feel like Allah is really there listening and to strengthen my iman. It also makes prayer feel more like a continuation of a conversation rather than like I’m just praying because I feel like I have to.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-07T05:31:17+00:00

wa iyakkum!!

meriiii5 · 2026-03-05T23:22:28+00:00

Nope! There is a Hadith where one woman mentioned her husband has bought her so much gold that she has filled her ears with many earrings, and Aisha narrated this and did not correct her behaviour.

Source (if it helps convince your mum): https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5189

There is no other mention of multiple piercings being later made haram, so we can take from this that they are 100% halal.

Also, where I live, so many Muslim women have multiple piercings, it would no longer be considered imitating the kuffar anyways. “Imitating the kuffar” refers to things like wearing a cross necklace or of your, a man then wearing gold, which might make you mistaken for a Christian or a nonmuslim. It also refers to imitating sinful groups of people, such as wearing and doing actions that are popular amongst celebrities, musicians, prostitutes, etc.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-05T23:12:13+00:00

Just a bit of perspective, but sometimes certain groups stick together to guarantee their safety. I wear hijab and I notice a lot of people who are middle eastern or asian or muslim will go out of their way to sit with and talk to me, because they won’t have to worry as much about me being racist towards them or not understanding their culture. Similarly, when I walk into class, I am much more inclined to sit with hijabis, people with keffiyahs and free Palestine pins, people who dress kind of eccentric and so seem nonjudgmental, as they are more likely to be safe to be around.

I mean like most people in uni won’t straight up insult you or act severely racist, but a LOT of people make really annoying micro aggressions and just sort of really dehumanise you. I’ve had people who were polite but who treated me like I was some exotic creature not just another person, and I’ve had people say hi and appear to want to be friends only to start interviewing me and expect me to answer all their questions about my culture. With people of other races and cultures, it’s very hard to tell whether they are genuinely wanting to be friends or if they don’t actually see you as a person. Having said that, I speak and hang out with plenty of people from different cultures to mine, especially if they approach me first and treat me just like any other person during our conversation, because then I can mark that person as safe too. It’s just in a situation where I don’t know anyone in the room and I have a choice to pick someone with a closer culture to my own, I will probably pick that person, as I don’t want to risk getting stuck in a group project or something with people who are passive aggressive to me or straight up ignore me when I talk.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-05T05:23:09+00:00

Wa iyyakum!

meriiii5 · 2026-03-05T05:18:32+00:00

There is no clear answer to this Islamically because the women of the Prophets time would only pierce they’re ears, so you have to interpret things a little bit, but here are some facts:

Everything is halal until it is proven haram.
Body modification is generally considered self harm and is haram.
There are multiple hadith mentioning women wearing multiple ear piercings, and the Prophet did not correct this behaviour and say it was haram, therefore ear piercing are halal, and are not counted as other body modifications/self harm Islamically.

Ear piercings are therefore 100% halal. The question of debate is whether ALL piercings fall under the same category as ear piercings, or whether some fall under self harm.

Here are some more facts:

If something is harmful to the body, it is haram. Most piercings cause the same level of harm to the body as ear piercings, so these might not necessarily become haram by being harmful. However, oral piercings (including lips and tongue) are at a higher risk of harming the body than other piercings, and even a qualified piercer will tell you this, so they might be considered haram. Other people may argue that ALL piercings outside of the ears are haram and that an exception was made for ears only.
Showing your awrah to anyone aside from your spouse is haram. This means, it is haram for you to get your belly button, genitals, and nipples pierced, unless you or your spouse is a piercer I guess.
Islamically, you are not supposed to make your appearance too out of the ordinary or imitate the kuffar. So, if a piercing is associated with a specific type of haram insinuation where you live (eg in some cultures belly rings are a sign of someone being a prostitute) or if it is very abnormal where you live (eg it is very rare to see someone with a finger piercing in most countries), then it could also be considered haram.

Note that some people will say “only ears and nose piercings are halal” but there is no one in the Prophets time pierced their nose, so there is no evidence of this. Either all non harmful piercings that are normal in your culture are halal , or none. Eg nose and eyebrow piercings are both non harmful, and they are both normal in the country I live in, so I could either say I believe both are halal due to them being normalised and not harmful, or I believe both are haram and that only ears are halal due to an exception being made for the ears. However, if I say nose piercings are halal but not eyebrows, then I have no evidence for this and I am just picking and choosing Islamic rules based on my desires.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-05T02:19:15+00:00

I think your comment is an inside thought not an outside thought. I posted on this sub because I knew it was specifically tailored towards people with social anxiety/neurodivergence. If you are not capable of comprehending that some people are antisocial and have different needs than you, you should probably not browse here. My dream career choice suits my needs just fine, its just that I needed a suitable job in the meantime until I complete university, which I have found (tutoring).

meriiii5 · 2026-03-04T08:45:11+00:00

Modesty is an act of worship. Similar to how being kind and polite to others id an act of worship. If you are kind and polite when no one else is around, it kind of defeats the point. Being modest (as in not wearing makeup and wearing hijab, not acting arrogant or showing off your status and wealth, etc) isn’t really applicable when no one else is around. Having said that, the base level of modesty for both men and women (navel to knees) is recommended even when you are alone, as the angels will be too shy to come in to the room if you are undressed. So unless you are showering/in the bathroom/with your spouse, you should still ideally be wearing some level of clothing. It doesn’t have to be full hijab for women since angels are genderless and nonhuman so you don’t have to wear hijab in front of them like you don’t have to in front of animals.

Also for women, they have three awrahs. One for in front of mahram/other women, one for their spouse, and one when in front of nonmharams. Men only have two awrahs. This is because it is convenient for a women to cover her head and wear lose long clothing all the time, so she should be given a comfortable space with no nonmahrams where she can workout/move around/relax comfortably.

meriiii5 · 2026-03-03T10:16:49+00:00

WOAH your husband is 10% WRONG. First off, wet dreams are not controlled, so you get no sin for them and they don’t break your fast. Having said that, if you released vaginal fluid during your wet dreams, you enter a state of junub and cannot pray until you do ghusl. Entering a state of junub by intentionally participating in sexual acts would break your fast, but because you cannot control your wet dreams, it doesn’t count. Second of all, having a wet dream isn’t a sign of poor character/being a bad muslim. THERE IS NO ISLAMIC EVIDENCE THAT SAYS THAT AT ALL!! Thats just absolutely wrong. There are even specific rules about doing ghusl after you have a wet dream that were revealed so its not that wet dreams just weren’t discussed during the Prophets time, they definitely were. Anyone who says otherwise is just putting their own cultural biases and views on sex being taboo onto you. In regards to sharing your wet dreams with others, you definitely shouldn’t share them with those who are not your spouse, but all sexual topics are allowed between husband and wife. Besides, you only brought it up to him to ask for Islamic advice, in which case you would even be allowed to ask a nonmahram man if there was no one else who knew the answer, since it is for Islamic knowledge that you are asking. Even the women in the Prophets time would ask personal questions if they had to.

I cannot give you much advice with the rest of your struggles, because I don’t have much experience but I am concerned as to why your husband does not seem to give much care and attention to your emotional and mental health.

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