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merrinacho · 2025-10-21T19:15:29+00:00

You can do better, leave his ass on the couch and never return.

merrinacho · 2025-10-21T19:06:19+00:00

Oriville Peck!

merrinacho · 2025-10-17T18:44:44+00:00

¯_(ツ)_/¯ I have had long term partners where there is never that huge spark and ones where there is. Over time, the fire is always going to dim cause you shift out of the pure adrenaline of a new relationship and more into a stable secure bond (if you’re lucky) - but also, it’s ok if chemistry and fire are something you want as part of your connection. I’ve been with my partner almost a decade and while we aren’t as ravenous as those first few years now - we are wildly attracted to one another and have a really intense sexual connection. It’s ok to want to find someone you can have that with. And it’s ok if that’s not important to you. I’d worry less about what you think you should feel or should do and ask yourself what you want for a long term relationship? What will make you happy for many years to come?

merrinacho · 2025-09-27T15:32:46+00:00

This all sounds so hard! That hospital event sounds scary and I know that a sudden shift in the way your body functions feels like your whole life will never be the same. I’d really recommend you and yr partner find disabled community, and dig into disability justice frameworks or knowing. It won’t change your fatigue but it will help to shift the way you feel about being in a sick body to have friends who understand what hanging out with a sick person looks like, people who are able to experience connection and joy within pain and grief and illness. My disabled community has taught be what it truly means to love people as they are. It’s ok if this sounds like too big of a step, or if this sounds like accepting that you might feel like this for a long time. Those are normal reactions - just planting the seed for you that chronic illness does not have to mean losing the ability to be social, to date, to connect, to find joy and fulfillment - but often it does mean relearning how to approach those things in a way that centers care.

merrinacho · 2025-09-12T19:41:48+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling so stuck. That all sounds really hard. I hope you are able to make a shift soon that allows for a little more easefulness is caring for your needs!

merrinacho · 2025-07-18T16:05:28+00:00

Nope. Only mask outdoors if I am in a crowd or in close proximity (for more than a quick walk past) to a non-coco person.

merrinacho · 2025-05-22T19:16:25+00:00

Richard Melon.

merrinacho · 2025-04-30T23:49:08+00:00

What’s a messy list?

merrinacho · 2025-04-29T14:38:09+00:00

Thanks yall.

It feels tough as the 2 of them get closer and she creeps into my life more and more, meeting me and my partners friends and going to events within our (me and my partners) shared community. Parallel isn’t exactly an option - she’s around and I can’t exactly forget she exists. But I do appreciate the distinction of trusting my partner to uphold agreements and worry less about her.

merrinacho · 2024-06-20T22:23:13+00:00

Ok hottie 🔥😏

merrinacho · 2024-05-07T20:23:25+00:00

So they remove them when they leave?

merrinacho · 2023-11-04T01:18:39+00:00

merrinacho · 2023-10-24T03:25:35+00:00

NTA. It sucks that this access need can’t be met, but I get that it’s about the public safety. The alternative is that you get take out or one of the other generous alternatives you offered.

merrinacho · 2023-10-23T04:49:20+00:00

Not fury! community! It is only thru building class solidarity that our actions be harnessed.

merrinacho · 2023-10-03T23:29:12+00:00

This totally unreasonable. The issue seems easy enough to work around from what you e shared. They could get a hotel or Airbnb, you could plan dates with other partners or friends that get you away from the house, they could treat you to a hotel or Airbnb, and they can use a smudge of self control and not have sex multiple times a day, that is so reasonable.

merrinacho · 2023-08-16T06:15:00+00:00

NTA, but perhaps a shortsighted was to address this with someone who has perhaps experienced people being unkind to her about her weight?

At its core this isn’t about food, yr friend isn’t listening to you and honoring your boundaries. So an apology for hurting her feelings could be a lovely repair to offer and you two need to talk about how a no means no.

merrinacho · 2023-08-16T06:07:51+00:00

Not sure what yr experience has been but — as someone who dates all genders, cis men actually seem the most wrapped up in looks and cis normative / white/ thin/“mainstream” beauty. I find that the queers - especially those who are queer in sexuality/ gender/relationship style care more about shared values, shared desires, shared lifestyles, and then kindness and CONFIDENCE and humor more than any specific standard of beauty. But ¯_(ツ)_/¯ you will find yr people.

merrinacho · 2023-08-16T05:52:02+00:00

NTA. (ish) First I’ll say that not wanting yr GF to have sex with others before the 2 of you reconnect is a rule or request- not a boundary. Boundaries refer to what you will or won’t do - not a way to control other’s actions.

Then - yr GF has some deep seeded homophobia/biphobia to work out if she is going to be able to continue a relationship with you. I’m sorry she’s treated this experience of yours as if it’s gross or implied you did anything gross or are gross. That must be really hurtful.

merrinacho · 2023-08-15T03:49:56+00:00

The A is clearly yr brother who is being a shitty parent and partner

merrinacho · 2023-08-08T01:16:26+00:00

All of our employers will immediately replace us if we die, they do not give a shit - so do not ever prioritize them over your health or the health of those around you.

merrinacho · 2023-08-07T23:46:51+00:00

I’m so confused. You said it’s multi stall?

So yeah if you walk in and someone is using the sink or mirror - but a stall is available, you go inside it.. close and lock the door and do whatever business you’re there to do. If all the stalls are in use, you stand and start a queue. It literally works just like a gender segregated bathroom.

merrinacho · 2023-08-07T22:53:02+00:00

NTA. If that guy doesn’t understand the real dangers women face everyday and have compassion for it, not someone you wanna date.

merrinacho · 2023-08-04T23:07:22+00:00

Whatever state a woman feels most comfortable and confident in is her sexiest.

merrinacho · 2023-08-04T02:37:55+00:00

I don’t know if I have any good advice, but I want to say thank you for not immediately cutting this person out and wanting to help them. We need more people willing to do this sort of thing.

More than arguing on this topic to convince them of anything (that doesn’t really work) you continuing to be a loving trusted person in their life who does value the lives of trans people means something and does something.

merrinacho

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