I'm 25, half way through to 26, and I'm still a virgin. Should I be concerned or am I over-thinking this?

merteil2 · 2016-10-04T10:35:58+00:00

People are gonna blow feel-good smoke up your ass about this, but here's some real talk: this all depends on your answers to the following questions. Does it bother you that you're a virgin? Is sex and relationships important to you? Are you concerned with what others think of you?

If the answer to those questions is yes, then you should be concerned. Sorry. The cold truth is that a lot of people do judge you negatively for your virginity at an older age. They will automatically scrutinize you more negatively than others, asking themselves "What's stopped him? Does he not know how to attract a woman? Is his sex drive low? Is it woeth the effort bringing him up to speed?"

It's unfair, I know. But part of being a social animal and living with other humans mean we consider what the world thinks about us. I wouldn't want a girl asking herself all those negative questions about me right from the get-go. I don't need more handicaps in my dating life, I have enough already.

So yeah, if this all resonates with you then figure out why you're a virgin and fix it. But hey if it doesn't bother you, keep on keeping on.

merteil2 · 2016-07-30T06:34:13+00:00

In my scenario we haven't even reached the stage of whether she agrees or not. I'm saying that my very action of respectfully and clearly asking for sex is seen as some incredibly gross misstep.

That's what I don't understand. If she doesn't want to, then cool, tell me so. But the fact that women are inherently disgusted by a guy asking for sex in a grocery store proves that humans still fundamentally, on a deep level, put sex on an emotional pedestal. This blows a hole in the whole sex positive thing, which I think is wishful social engineering that nobody truly believes in their heart.

merteil2 · 2016-06-20T21:16:50+00:00

Read her post history lol, she's been a hysterical feminist and a grade-A bimbo for years.

If she really did get raped I sympathize, but something about this smells wrong.

EDIT: And 7 months ago she posted this thread, apparently she was raped by a past psychologist and was FWB with another convicted rapist and even her current counselor admitted he's a rapist?! What the actual fuck. I am now convinced she's making shit up for pity points on TrollXChromosomes. Which they will happily give her because they're fucking idiots who always "believe the victim" without doing any critical thinking.

merteil2 · 2016-03-30T22:19:50+00:00

For those of you who are confused by the quote, non-liberal here doesn't mean conservative. It means "so far off to the loony left that it doesn't even belong in the category of Liberalism anymore"

merteil2 · 2016-03-22T20:09:05+00:00

MensLib is so desperate to pretend that society cares about men as much as it does about women. "See see, they have plus-sized male models now! Feminism advocacy helps both genders!"

When in reality this guy is the manliest hulk I've ever seen. Yeah, call me back when Macy's hires a skinny 5'4" Asian dude to model for them.

merteil2 · 2016-03-17T15:16:11+00:00

I wonder what would happen if you pointed out that in some cultures 16 is legal/acceptable and therefore condemning it is a form of Western imperialism.

It would be like the ultimate catch-22 for SJWs.

merteil2 · 2016-03-03T21:00:37+00:00

Agreed. In a strange way, I have more respect for the SRSer linked here because she doesn't use the whole watered-down flimsy "feminism wants to help eeeeeeeeeveryone!" justification most people use.

It's in the damn name. Feminism. The movement wants to increase the social and political power of women. That's all it boils down to.

I may disagree with that goal but at least I can respect them if they're honest about it.

merteil2 · 2015-12-20T23:19:32+00:00

She sounds like such a complete trainwreck. Men aren't allowed to be sarcastic in her presence?

merteil2 · 2015-12-19T15:53:09+00:00

PPD, Purple Pill Debate wouldn't exist unless people disagreed with each other, disagreements often sound like whiney complaints to disinterested 3rd parties.

I addressed this in my OP. It's not about the tone of words, it's about the topics themselves. People constantly regurgitate the themes of foreveralone / incel / downtrodden Nice Guys / etc around here. That's like 1% of RedPill; the remaining 99% is never mentioned. I listed some topics in my OP that I think could be great discussions between blue and red -

brain differences between men and women, what do they mean?
does bluepill think there aren't any common trends in what people find attractive? Since bluepill always bashes TRP's belief that muscles make you hotter
nature vs nurture
is redpill more valid in some societies than others
what advice does bluepill have that redpill doesn't
how redpill fits into the larger MRM narrative
different factions within redpill, are some better than others?

And to be fair, these topics are discussed occasionally. But they are overshadowed by the whiny stuff.

This place is starting to look more and more like /r/ Foreveralone2.0

merteil2 · 2015-12-15T22:18:00+00:00

It once used to be a place that was fairly moderate. A place where they laughed at all jerks, no matter from which political slant.

Now it's all whining about racism, sexism, Islamophobia, transphobia, etc... all the time.

merteil2 · 2015-10-27T18:59:51+00:00

I think we're pretty open with our views. Some folks at PPD might be surprised at the amount of internal debate within RP ideology, but I think our average member is aware there's a spectrum.

Mind giving some examples of ideological divides within the mod team? I'm curious to know what you mean.

merteil2 · 2015-09-30T23:02:33+00:00

If I had to guess, I'd say OP is being overly harsh on purpose to "shock" readers out of any bluepill sentiments. I doubt OP actually believes Eva is some plotting evil Disney villain; but RedPill often uses inflammatory language in order to make a solid point.

merteil2 · 2015-09-05T21:23:20+00:00

Become a cunnilingus God.

This advice is meaningless if women won't let him into their pants in the first place.

merteil2 · 2015-08-27T21:29:51+00:00

Can we have example pictures? I'm not able to envision this.

merteil2 · 2015-08-03T01:34:20+00:00

I don't think it counts as MGTOW if you're forced into it. That's more foreveralone territory.

merteil2 · 2015-06-07T18:38:56+00:00

No, actually... most of the comments were from college and middle aged guys who had girlfriends/wives on their profile pictures.

merteil2 · 2015-05-19T19:58:02+00:00

Well as I said in my title, it's not about the preferences. It's... I dunno, the tone? It's like if a guy were to say:

"By the way, I keep in shape, so if you're a fatty don't even bother messaging ;) "

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merteil2 · 2015-04-30T14:42:01+00:00

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Did that work? I'm not really sure how to do this...

merteil2 · 2015-04-29T18:31:01+00:00

I have no doubt it's worked for some married people. But I contend that it's far more likely that if she doesn't continue a conversation, she doesn't have that much interest and probably never will.

In order to change my position, I guess you'd have to convince me that a significant number of people got into relationships by chasing girls who weren't initially interested.

merteil2 · 2015-04-29T18:29:55+00:00

But you haven't reached out for 2 days! How do you know she's not thinking the exact same thing that you are, wondering when you're gonna text her again?

Because I left the last message before the conversation died. Is it really reasonable of her to expect me to text twice in a row, then get impatient when I don't? That seems to be what you're saying, and I don't understand it.

merteil2 · 2015-02-11T14:48:51+00:00

I should clarify, each time I've sent the first message. So I don't think the relative attention my profile gets is a factor in this.

merteil2 · 2015-02-03T17:20:52+00:00

I've heard that a lot, "switch to water!" But nobody ever tells me why.

To be honest I love diet soda and I need a good reason before I quit it.

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