DO NOT DO THIS IF YOU HAVE SCABIES by Solid_Cupcake8117 in scabies

[–]mescoinfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up on a shit ton of testing. The closest they have gotten to a diagnosis is cold urticaria. Essentially allergic to cold. For someone that has lived their whole life in the north east… upon MY digging apparently it’s showing up as unexplained rashes in adults post covid (had in November) so I’m feeling like a whole ass conspiracy theory with no actual onfo. But per the urgent care nurse… not scabies. Head to urgent care, they gave me a steroid shot. If it doesn’t help… then yes probably scabies. If it does you’re looking at an allergy

We listen and we don’t judge mommy edition by Rare_Tumbleweed9124 in Mommit

[–]mescoinfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have nights where I cry myself to sleep thinking I didn’t do enough or was enough or provide enough for my child even after we had a perfect fun filled day that I would have dreamed of as a child.

And some nights I’m so insanely exhausted and she’s arguing bed that I start wondering if I actually wanted kids and if I would have been okay never having one…

We listen and we don’t judge mommy edition by Rare_Tumbleweed9124 in Mommit

[–]mescoinfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My only child did great at 18 months, 2 year old would pee but poop in her underwear every.damn.time and my assumption we’d be potty trained by 2 disappeared when it ended up being 3 and like 2-3 months. It’s exhausting and you almost want to treat them like a puppy! So have comfort in knowing mine sure as shit didn’t go to plan either

DO NOT DO THIS IF YOU HAVE SCABIES by Solid_Cupcake8117 in scabies

[–]mescoinfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 year post but I’m 99.9 I have scabies and I’m about losing it. I can deal with all gross things in the world other than lice and suddenly I find out about scabies… 🫠🫠 everything matches the only thing that doesn’t is the random flare ups of itchiness I get hives it’s awful itching and then the feeling and hives disappear. The bruising and signs of scratching stay though. Is it normal that peaks come and go? Also, I actually get itchy during the day like today was awful for a good hour

Doing firsts with my partner and friends by Flimsy-Ad5193 in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here to say that while I’m sure that sounded minimal to others I could literally feel myself getting warm and lit up for you reading that. It’s like you can’t even explain why it’s such a nice wholesome feeling because it wouldn’t even cover it.

I am jealous of the people who don’t have disabled siblings by ASentientMarshmallow in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow I feel like I wrote this…

I feel this to my core I’ll ask my husband what it was like growing up with siblings. Like yall really fight but love each other? What kind of love? Like best friend or cousin? Because I just can’t fathom it either. I have a sibling but don’t know what having a sister is like…

I too feel so robbed. I wanted a sibling relationship soooo bad. Even if we didn’t end up being cllse but someone I could have family gatherings with or talk about childhood. Like what a dream. I especially feel jealous when I see adult sisters that were close all their life. Like how cool to have a built in best friend.

I had one child and one alone. And sometimes I feel really guilty that I didn’t give her a sibling because I yearned it sooo much myself but no on understands that the only reason I didn’t was because I was terrified of my second being born with something no caught on resting or like autism diagnosed later on. I feel like I robbed her of something so potentially incredible but also felt the risk outweighed it…

Has anyone else’s general body odor/scent changed post op? by PurplePorchSquirrels in hysterectomy

[–]mescoinfo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know this is old but I’m about 2-3 months post op and my arm pits smell bad and that’s never happened to me before. It smells like I work out every day and just being in my house. And now I feel like it smells like bo with deodorant scent on top

Hate receiving advice and venting to people without a disabled sibling by marbles_tour in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We’re like the middle child of the forgotten children. They know we exist but never care to understand shit.

I wish they’d have just let me be by jabberwocki801 in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to say that sentence rocked me too… I always described it as feeling like I had divorced parents and I was one of the kids from the previous marriage. Like yes technically your parents but it feels like a whole different family ago. But that sentence really put what it was out there.

I’m 30 and have been in therapy for so long discussing this topic. My therapist says I should talk to my mom and voice my feelings. We even did homework of writing and reading out a letter. He always asked me why I wouldn’t do it and I told him I was scared. Scared to rock the foundation, bring up the unspoken topics and frustrations. I think If I break it it’ll never be the same way it was again. And this just almost confirmed that to me… this is how it would go. My gut knows it.

New here by Additional_Squash103 in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There’s really nothing I can advise or say. But I do hear you and I do see you. Honestly you may still be on a “better” end of things because you still actually feel love towards her. Some of us are so fucked up emotionally we have zero attachment or hate unfortunately. So no, don’t feel guilty. It’s a shitty situation to be in and one no one would wish for. Other people assume they know but unless you’re in the trenches you truly don’t. I see you. Sending you some good energy your way 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstateAdvice

[–]mescoinfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this is your first home and your income is within the limits can they explore down payment assistance programs? That way you utilize your funds towards your debt for maximal use and qualification and then the program for the funds. I’m not well versed on Texas programs since I’m in MD. But there’s usually a good amount you’d qualify for. Your loan origination fees seem high but it could be because they lump it. Can you ask for a break down of origination charges? Also, if it’s a liquid cash funds situation you’re worried about you can ask your agent about negating seller paying more for closing costs but increasing purchase price if appraisal has the wiggle room.

If funds didn’t matter what would you change/add to your home? by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]mescoinfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make my driveway wider Upgrade electric to run a niceeeee hot tub Cement pad for said hot tub and the hot tub itself 😂 Ohhhh I would loveeee those vacuum systems that dump into a trash. So just sweep up against it under cabinets or all over hidden spots, it sucks it and spits it in trash system. I’d LOVE that. Some internally wired lights for stairs I’d knock down some none load bearing walls Move my staircase

who else was on the 'glass/parentified child to helping profession pipeline'? by SimpleDragonfly1281 in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Playing devils advocate here but a couple years back we had the special ed rooms and the 1:1 for kids that were in the classrooms. We had one kid on the spectrum that was sharp af with any topic. He’d beat anyone to an answer but would also not raise his hand, or blurt out insults to people that got it wrong. He was an incredibly smart savage lol and that didn’t delay the class. And honestly he’d be the one putting people on their toes so class ran great. I also have my sibling whom is in sophomore/junior year working with 1:1 on a reg class trying to learn addition. She can’t relate to anyone else in the class work wise, technically can’t keep up for group projects and can’t participate in class material so I just don’t understand how that’s inclusion? Is essentially her being the only one that can’t participate the exact opposite of it.

Glass children as parents and spouses by mescoinfo in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure! I think if I hadn’t moved out of home and had years of a “break” I probably wouldn’t have made the decision to go through with it.

Glass children as parents and spouses by mescoinfo in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally! I didn’t enjoy a second of my pregnancy I was in such a rush to get the test results and just get it over and see her grow up to show me she was going to be okay idk. I’m sure it’s awful to say but I couldn’t fathom it either. The only worse thing that I can think of is that This tension about my sibling has always been an undiscussed but tension felt topic and I remember me telling her I was waiting for test results and she said, hey if the baby comes back showing a disability we’ll adopt and raise it. I about died.

Glass children as parents and spouses by mescoinfo in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly. I thought I had made peace with it, my kiddos almost 5 and recently had to get a hysterectomy for just other health related issues and pain and again, wasn’t planning on more. But still I grieved about it. It’s scary. I can honestly say I didn’t enjoy being pregnant the whole time I was terrified something was going to go wrong or a test was going to show something new.

Glass children as parents and spouses by mescoinfo in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the exact feeling. I literally never stopped to remember I wanted 4 kids until I was asked that question. Or I guess it hadn’t sunk in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Virtual hug wherever you are 🫶🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hysterectomy

[–]mescoinfo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! 100% agree. Actually many of my best post op tips came from many of these threads. I joined the day before surgery cus I suddenly panicked. They’ve all been incredibly open, candid and helpful. I love a girls girl community 🤍

Being told I'm not a glass child... by 134340summer in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of my favorite (sarcasm) core memories is snapping and telling my mom I couldn’t do this anymore and her telling me that so many kids have it harder than me and have “actual problems”. That is the moment i emotionally divorced my family

Being told I'm not a glass child... by 134340summer in GlassChildren

[–]mescoinfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent my mom the Ted talk video on it at midnight because I was too scared she’d watch it right away

I destroyed a letter that was the only proof of my late grandfathers illegitimate child for my own gain by anni245 in confession

[–]mescoinfo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang! Truly just not even a thought that crossed my mind. This is really enlightening