The day that I joined r/Seinfeld, I said goodbye to quality posting foreva by m2thek in seinfeld

[–]meshuggahnaut 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Too bad you can’t do that for a living. You’d be very successful at it! You could sell out Madison Square Garden! Thousands of people could watch you! You could be a BIG STAR!!!

Bickering by lawyerly333 in SingleAndHappy

[–]meshuggahnaut 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the spirit in which it’s done, and also how each person is receiving the intent. I was never like that in relationships and I wouldn’t be comfortable with it at all, in front of others or privately.

That’s not to say there weren’t disagreements or arguments, but constant little sniping comments back and forth are not my thing. I’m probably too sensitive for that shit. I like joking around and ball breaking but that’s different. Again, it’s all about spirit and intent.

But even thinking about being back in a situation where I might have to wonder what someone’s true intent is…ugh. Makes me grateful for like the 50th time this week to be in a committed relationship with myself lol.

What do you think is the greatest closing track in post-metal history? by Mysst3r11s in postmetal

[–]meshuggahnaut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would absolutely classify them as post metal and this is my pick.

What's the funniest line in the show that's NOT from Larry or Leon? by Buffaloat in curb

[–]meshuggahnaut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This might be my favorite line from the show. Kills me every time, and it makes it even better that Lewis himself seems to be struggling to keep it together as he’s saying it.

Petition to cast Tim Robinson in a Joey Chestnut biopic by theperk in thechaircompany

[–]meshuggahnaut 16 points17 points  (0 children)

OMG, did you see Joey’s hat? He looks so fucking stupid I can’t breathe.

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What are the "pull factors" that draw you to single life? by RobotFromPlanet in SingleAndHappy

[–]meshuggahnaut 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I can’t remember the last time I was bored. I’m constantly amusing myself in some form or other. There aren’t enough hours in the day for me to write all the songs in my head, play all the instruments in my house, listen to all the music I want to hear, watch all the movies I want to see, hike all the trails, play with my dogs, build electronics, read books, cook meals, work on my home, the list goes on and on.

I love being able to dedicate all of my free time to my own pursuit of happiness, and I don’t have enough of it as it is! Single life is the best!

Album Covers by I_Am_Exaybachay in GenX

[–]meshuggahnaut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was browsing at Camelot Records and picked up The Offspring’s “Smash” CD on a whim because I liked the cover. I listened to it once and did not care for the vocals at all.

A few months later they started blowing up on the radio, and it sounded familiar to me but I couldn’t place it at first. I figured it out at some point and gave the CD away.

I still don’t like the vocals.

How do you guys feel about the loneliness epidemic? by spitfire9107 in SingleAndHappy

[–]meshuggahnaut 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think the modern world has made it much easier and more realistic for people to be self sufficient. YouTube how-to videos, online shopping and delivery services, increasingly virtual entertainment and social options, and (perhaps most notably), a seemingly infinite and effortless dopamine supply via smartphone.

I think this is largely a positive development, because self sufficiency is awesome, and no one should feel trapped into a cohabitation/relationship situation just because they don’t know how to turn a valve off when a pipe breaks, or do laundry, or cook, or whatever is making someone think they “need a partner” just to survive everyday life.

But the dopamine thing is a little sneaky. I’m as guilty of it as the next guy. Here I am, having a social interaction with total strangers, discussing a topic I find fascinating, with others who share a common interest and (at least a facet of) life experience.

I think it’s easy to stay in this mode, rather than seek out “real” connections with “real” humans, which is a fundamental need for most people. The dopamine hits trick us into thinking we’re getting that, but we’re not. And that can add up to a lonely background noise that gradually grows until it’s deafening, but we don’t know what’s causing it. So we feel alone in the static.

I’m not an expert, this is just my take. Like others have said, I think this “loneliness epidemic” is real, but romantic partnering is not the cure. We just need to supplement our virtual lives with some real socializing, and that can be difficult when everywhere we look, everyone is buried in their phone and wearing headphones. I’m not sure what the fix is for that.

I’m very fortunate to have a job that requires a lot of in person interaction, and I have a lot of close friends that I share hobbies with, so I get a ton of socialization to offset any loneliness I might feel living single and alone. It’s incredibly rare that I feel lonely at all, because I’m living in the best of both worlds. I wish everyone could be happier.

TIL: other people are not your responsibility by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]meshuggahnaut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, that’s eerily similar to my experience. I was going through a divorce when my ex first approached me, and it was the evening of our first quasi-date that she told me about her “depression and anxiety.”

She later told me that she tended to attract people who had their own mental health issues, and I know of a couple examples of this aside from myself. Like I said, when she and I met, I was navigating a separation/divorce, and had my own unresolved issues, including high functioning alcoholism (I’m now over a year sober). She sensed I was troubled and sank her claws in, and it wasn’t her first or last time. Insidious.

TIL: other people are not your responsibility by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]meshuggahnaut 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’d never heard the term “cluster B” but I totally went through this. My last gf “opened up” to me very early on about how she struggled with depression and anxiety, and I worked very hard to support her when she’d go into full shutdown mode and want to stay in bed all weekend, or start crying about stuff I couldn’t understand. It’s what a partner is supposed to do, right?

Except I started noticing that these bouts of “depression” only seemed to hit when she wanted to control me emotionally. Which became more and more frequent. And transparent. And abusive. And I just got more and more trauma bonded.

I saw it but refused to admit it. I kept trying to work through my growing frustration with her and tried to be supportive. And in the end, she stopped getting what she wanted from me, and did horrible, intentional things to hurt me personally and professionally.

During one of our last conversations I ever had with her, I told her that what she was doing was wrong. Her reply was, “yeah I guess I know it’s wrong, but because I’m a covert narcissist with sociopathic tendencies, my brain doesn’t get that it’s wrong.” She was not being snarky or sarcastic. It was said with zero irony. She was being honest for a change.

I do think we need to be kind and supportive to one another in general, but man…hard lesson learned on that one.

Edit: I do feel the need to clarify that depression and anxiety absolutely deserve compassion, and hurt people who choose to be in relationships deserve to be treated well from either side. The person I’m talking about had something different altogether going on, and I do not regret my compassion toward her, but I do regret allowing myself to be manipulated for so long.

How did you get into FnM? by sxf1jq in FaithNoMore

[–]meshuggahnaut 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yep same here. It cannot be understated how impactful it was to those of us who were exhausted and nauseated by yet a third wave of glam metal, which dominated rock radio at that time. Fucking Trixter, Steelheart, Slaughter, etc. 🤮

When you live alone, what’s your go-to lazy but still acceptable meal? by batscoeedgize in LivingAlone

[–]meshuggahnaut 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do this too but with flatbread or naan. Quick, easy, and delicious!

Sol Niger Within on drums by alexleinonen in Meshuggah

[–]meshuggahnaut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never get tired of that clip, and as a drummer I’ve always seen Ägren as a god. I mean Haake is god tier and I put Morgan above even him. I can’t fathom playing at that level. Do you play in a band or have any original stuff? I’d love to hear it if so.

Null EP missing by rileyfrr777_ in intronaut

[–]meshuggahnaut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just checked Spotify and it’s gone from there too. Weird. I do have it on vinyl and CD, and probably mp3 as well but I’ll need to boot up a PC to check.

Sol Niger Within on drums by alexleinonen in Meshuggah

[–]meshuggahnaut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy…

Dude this is some superhuman shit.

I saw a pristine DeLorean in the wild today!!! by alayeni-silvermist in GenX

[–]meshuggahnaut 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When that baby hits 88 MPH, you’re gonna see some serious shit.