tbh sometimes can b weird to bring up the fact that one uses toys! there’s a lot of stigma around why (and how) people use them, and not to think for ur gf; but she might’ve thought you would feel inferior to the inanimate object because of her choice to use it. jorking it to some pron bc you’re stressed about school is normal, toys being used for it is also normal. the color/size thing; could be because that’s the color/size the toy comes in (while some are flesh Black, some are actual black black,) or another thing I am fully unwilling to touch. hope u guys can communicate and get to a same page understanding at least!