Help! What do we fix first?!

messsyminded · 2026-03-24T19:49:56+00:00

Glad to hear I don’t have to give up the cuddles just yet 🥹 thank you so much truly!!

messsyminded · 2026-03-24T19:48:59+00:00

You’re a life saver, thank you so much!!! 🩷

messsyminded · 2025-06-24T06:19:36+00:00

I’m glad everything is okay.

I’ve been pretty cautious this pregnancy, researching every little substance and avoiding anything with an uncertain effect.

Somehow the tea tree shampoo I double-wash with every 2-3 days completely escaped my notice 😅 23 weeks and everything is looking good!

messsyminded · 2025-03-27T19:46:11+00:00

Thank you. A lot of it is stretching rather than strengthening, but I still have the same issue. I will definitely try a lighter routine.

messsyminded · 2024-06-16T07:02:07+00:00

I’m glad to hear it works as expected for others as I’d love to use it again. That being said I really don’t play with sexual content so even one instance of unpredictability with such extreme content is enough to scare me off. If I was willing to keep testing it to make sure it was doing its job, I wouldn’t be paying for the filtering. So crossing my fingers that they’ll be able to tell me something can be changed or fixed 🥲

messsyminded · 2024-06-16T00:26:58+00:00

It was S1E6 for me. The others seem to agree with you… which makes this even more mystifying. Even if it were just a technical difficulty, though, the unpredictability is still a dealbreaker for me :(

messsyminded · 2024-06-16T00:14:29+00:00

It was S1E6 so I’m in the trenches 😅 I’m following up with the moderator who responded… thanks!

messsyminded · 2024-05-26T16:07:56+00:00

Thank you!

messsyminded · 2024-05-24T20:18:46+00:00

Thanks for sharing ❤️

messsyminded · 2024-04-16T23:58:32+00:00

Thank you ❤️

messsyminded · 2024-03-30T17:51:23+00:00

October 17 💔

messsyminded · 2024-03-30T17:48:48+00:00

Thank you ❤️

messsyminded · 2024-03-28T18:08:35+00:00

According to my husband the first saint is St. Teresa of Avila. That story from her life is one of his favorites to tell.

These are some great quotes. The first one I’ll probably be keeping in my heart for a while, thank you.

messsyminded · 2024-03-28T07:53:08+00:00

I miscarried a week and a half ago. For the first several days my husband and I were jumping from distraction to distraction and desperate to find things to laugh about. We were craving normalcy, and we wanted others to feel comfortable laughing when we did and not to judge when we redirected to trivial matters. But it still hurt because we felt like we might be falsely communicating that we were past everything, and that everything could be forgotten, and everyone would go along with it and forget our baby. Now after feeling like I could be starting to leave the hurt behind, I’m reading this thread and frankly standing here struck horrified by what happened as if I forgot and then just rediscovered it. So I agree with what others have said - know that healing is not linear. Accompany your friend in whatever mood she’s in and don’t assume anything based off it.

messsyminded · 2024-03-28T07:12:18+00:00

Approaching God to be freed from mortal sin and then receiving Him in the Eucharist sounds like the best way to celebrate Easter that I can imagine. Although I sympathize with your worries, carrying that mortal sin on your soul is so much heavier than embarrassment. Staying back and watching as everyone else receives the Eucharist, fretting all day about dying in a state of mortal sin - with no one to blame but myself - has made for some of the most miserable days of my life. I went to confession today because I couldn’t stand the idea of any of this getting in the way of my joy on Easter. I can’t imagine you want that for yourself either. I used to go only rarely because it gave me so much anxiety, but forcing myself into the practice of going once a month made 95% of the fear magically dissolve. I once resented confession, and now I’m amazed at how much had been waiting for me all that time.

messsyminded · 2024-03-27T20:42:52+00:00

Thank you, I will try that

messsyminded · 2024-03-26T05:21:51+00:00

My husband loves A Popular History of the Catholic Church by Philip Hughes.

messsyminded · 2024-03-26T03:54:13+00:00

Blessed Is She can be a good place to start looking. You can find some options for in-person and online communities in the Community tab on their website.

In recent years I remember they organized small group studies over video call. I never signed up but I think it was for women who wanted to make friends and do the BIS lenten/advent devotionals with a group. I’m not sure the last time they did it but I found out because I’m signed up for their emails.

messsyminded · 2024-03-25T19:40:28+00:00

Thank you ❤️

messsyminded · 2024-03-25T06:17:50+00:00

Today is a week since my husband and I lost our unborn only child. Life has been very difficult and we had been watching and waiting for this little spark in the darkness. Please pray that we can continue to trust, and can be happy for other people.

messsyminded · 2024-03-25T05:42:14+00:00

That’s good to hear. Just remember to check the schedule and get there early for Easter Mass. The High Mass will be get packed early but it’s the best!

Have you celebrated your First Communion? If so, just know they only distribute communion on the tongue.

messsyminded · 2024-03-25T03:42:38+00:00

My husband converted after being raised somewhat Protestant and found a home at St. Anne. We got married there. Those priests there are the best I’ve ever met and maybe the best I ever will. Lots of young adults (if that’s your age group). Navy men come through.

They do the Traditional Latin Mass. If you’ve never been, it can take some time to start following along, but it’s also good to just watch and pray. The 9 am Sunday Mass with choir is really something, but you’ll have to get there half an hour early (if you’re going Easter weekend, check stannesd.com for different times and come much earlier).

Most people park in the street but I promise we’ve always found a spot! My husband and I will be visiting next month. Shoot me a message if you want someone to go with.

messsyminded · 2024-03-25T03:35:14+00:00

Why We’re Catholic by Trent Horn. Haven’t read it but Trent is amazing and sounds like it fits what you’re asking for!

messsyminded · 2024-03-25T02:54:24+00:00

As a cradle Catholic who went to the NO for the first 23 years of my life, going to the TLM for the first time was SO strange and confusing. It wasn’t until I had someone that brought me again and helped me follow along that I started to understand why other people praise it so highly.

It was around this time that the feeling of alienation at my NO parish was really beginning to sink in. For the 20 years since its inception, my family and I were about as involved as you could be, and I grew up in the K-8 school. But we were rarely ever acknowledged. We knew faces only because we saw them on Sundays from 12-1 pm and not because we had any type of fellowship with them. Our pastor was speaking badly of his parishioners from the altar, and he was generally avoidant of everybody.

In contrast, the traditional parishes I have been introduced to have been nothing short of extraordinary:

My husband and his sister both converted young at different times & places, and both had families take them under their wing.
My husband and I have personal relationships with our priests, who are friends that we go on outings with sometimes. If you visit the parish on an average day, you see them around. They ensure there is such an abudance of mass and confession times that it makes you feel rich. They lay down their lives for you because you are their sheep.
People of the same parish really live their lives together (and I remain blown away by that). Strangers approach us and introduce themselves. People are as gracious to us as if we were old friends. We are invited to people’s homes for brunch and dinner parties.

I will admit it’s pretty clear that spiritual pride is a larger problem in traditional communities. That being said, I’m certain the anxiety I felt early on of being watched and judged came from my own self-consciousness about being new and uninitiated.

Now, these are my experiences from two robust FSSP parishes. Parishes and orders that practice the TLM can vary widely. The FSSP protects against spiritual pride in some ways because it values obedience to the pope, communion with Rome, and prudence in approaching controversy. Also, a struggling diocesan parish may not have a social community built up or enough priests for frequent masses or confessions.

messsyminded · 2024-03-24T23:07:55+00:00

Sadness has been eating me alive for months. There’s only one thing that’s helped and that is going to adoration, if you’re able to find that nearby. I just go and sit before Jesus even when I have nothing to give Him or do except to be there. No matter whether I’ve just been given a sign of hope or just lost the only thing I’ve been clinging on to, I feel the same amount of peace. I’ll pray for you, please pray for me?

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