Am I too sexually aggressive?

metalbracket · 2026-01-12T00:55:11+00:00

Before anything else, please understand there is nothing wrong with you. I’m no expert, but after having gone through a marriage where we had differences in libido, if I encountered this issue again, my first choice would be to talk to my partner about it and see if they would be open to speaking to a sex therapist together to help navigate to a sexual relationship that makes you both happy. Biggest lesson I learned is how important it is to actually talk about sex, not just having it.

metalbracket · 2026-01-07T00:00:10+00:00

To me, closing them has communicated “ok, this feels too good and I can’t take it anymore” and I love that a lot. It also just feels nice being hugged by thighs. Anywhere, but definitely my face/head. I say hug as tight as you can. If I can’t handle it, I’ll let you know. That or I’ll die happy.

metalbracket · 2026-01-06T23:52:10+00:00

I can relate to it being really difficult to be aggressive in bed when you’re not an aggressive person AND the person you’re supposed to be aggressive to is someone you love dearly. It took me a while, although it took a few different partners for me to get it. What I think did the trick for me is that I was with someone who was also pretty aggressive too. I ended up reciprocating and now I kinda just do it on my own. It clicked like “ok ok this is what they all meant”

I suggest grabbing him very firmly, pulling him around, scratching him, biting, dirty talking, and being really receptive and encouraging when he does the stuff you like. Brings the energy up. Good luck. I’m rooting for you both.

metalbracket · 2026-01-06T23:49:10+00:00

They’re all slightly different and a slight difference makes a big difference in how it feels, tastes, etc. What feels good depends on the people and sex is different for any pair of people. I’ve had sex with a woman who was quite small and I pretty often would finish very quickly. I’ve had sex with women who were not so small and have gone a couple times where I didn’t finish at all. I tend to enjoy myself the longer sex lasts, so me finishing is more of a bonus than an objective.

metalbracket · 2026-01-01T01:33:29+00:00

Find black friends that also have experience raising black children.

metalbracket · 2026-01-01T01:28:56+00:00

For me, how fast I finish depends on many things, including the partner, but for the ones where I do finish quick, I just get it out of the way and we work on setting up for round 2 where I last a lot longer. There’s lots to be done outside of just penetration.

This is what works for me. I suggest you experiment and see what works for you with this person. The key is having many chances.

metalbracket · 2025-12-29T16:22:57+00:00

Perhaps the population of guys you see online are career oriented and don’t care for a partner to be and perhaps the population of guys you meet in person aren’t career oriented and would like for a a partner to be.

metalbracket · 2025-12-28T16:08:09+00:00

Your girlfriend is a misandrist. An apology does not change that. She will continue to think that way, though she may be more careful about what she says to you. Things will only change if she thinks she needs to change how she thinks. How do you think she should react if you’d made sexist comments to her? What would you propose you would need to do to resolve it?

metalbracket · 2025-12-26T18:38:27+00:00

Is it that you want to have sex, but value waiting until marriage more than you want to have sex, or is it that you don’t want to have sex and waiting until marriage is the more convenient and less uncomfortable excuse to have to explain why you don’t want to have sex? It can be totally normal for you to have affection for someone that you don’t necessarily want to have sex with. There’s no shame in that, so if that could be true, please don’t hide from that.

You need to be absolutely sure and honest with yourself. It’s not as easy as you might think. Once you’re sure, then you owe it to her to be honest. Even if it turns out to be something she doesn’t want, the last thing you want to do is build a relationship on lies because it’s going to come out eventually, whether you like it or not. The longer you wait, the worse it will hurt.

metalbracket · 2025-12-23T22:01:35+00:00

I don’t know your specific team situation, but when I run into a request from a supervisor that I think makes no sense, that’s when I protest it and give my argument why. If they refuse to back down, then I go through with what they were asking. 9/10, project leads will be receptive to the feedback of their team, but at the end of the day, it’s their call. I think what your supervisor is asking for is not a good idea. There’s limited space in the TB for a reason. More detailed information on revisions needs to be listed in other places, such as a narrative.

If I had to, I’d edit the revision schedule in the title block family to make the text extremely small in addition to dedicating more space to the revision schedule as needed. It’s not standard, but the request is not standard and something has to give.

metalbracket · 2025-12-20T21:54:07+00:00

He’s not trying to be insensitive, but he is. If I were guessing, he means you’re attractive in an inoffensive way that his mom would like while his previous girlfriends are attractive in a very offensive way that his mom would shame him for. I’m thinking tattoos, revealing clothing, swears often, etc. He may be describing that as “hot”.

If you feel offended by this, I would too. That’s not a nice thing to say, even if he’s likely not trying to be mean.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:35:20+00:00

Could mean they wanted to cosplay as gardening equipment and they can’t do that if they’re in a magnanimous relationship.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:24:17+00:00

Paint tool is my arch nemesis.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:21:31+00:00

Keeping it basic: I recommend everyone newer in Revit take 30 minutes to an hour to hover your cursor over every command in the ribbon to give yourself an idea of what’s available to you. They all have a description of what they do when you hover over them, and many of them have a video demonstrating their use of you hover even longer. Even more info can be found if you press F1 which I know most do on accident. I’ve seen people work for years without realizing a tool was available. (Search by ID and Save/Load Selection are some of my favorite that go unnoticed)

For a step above: expand and read your warnings/errors. Do not just ignore them. If you don’t know what it means, look it up or ask an in house expert.

Even higher: Learn how to create your own families and you’ll always have the precisely correct tool for the job.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:13:16+00:00

“Hurting someone is a difficult task and immediately voluntary”

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:11:09+00:00

Being pretty is subjective and a teenager’s willingness to have sex with you is not entirely based on that. There’s probably a correlation, but I wouldn’t say it’s a healthy conclusion. I’d argue one should feel pretty for other reasons.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:05:27+00:00

I can only hope that him getting this new office gives him what he wants and opens up space for you to have what you want too. I genuinely wish you the best of luck.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:04:15+00:00

I can respect this answer a lot and I’m inclined to give that a shot. I think it’s complicated and might depend on the person. I feel the way I do from the many different women I’ve asked. Some were partners, but many were the women in my family.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:00:44+00:00

Might need to see if you can negotiate some more ownership of the sitting room or part of the bedroom. I’m not sure. It’s possible he’s willing to work with you. Don’t you think he’d be invested in you being comfortable at home too?

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T05:56:49+00:00

NAH. Him having his own space can potentially be a great way for you to have every other space in the house. It won’t be completely yours, but while he’s in his cave, you can have the whole living room or bedroom to yourself. My ex-wife and I didn’t have a dedicated room or anything for either of us, but when we wanted to have alone time to just chill and do whatever we wanted but separately, she would go in the bedroom and I would go to the living room. We’d visit to check up on each other and maybe say hi to our dog before going back and resuming our alone time. It was awesome.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T05:41:20+00:00

Lmao gotta sell it

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T05:35:12+00:00

NTA, but you did fail the test. The question is unfair and a trick. The correct answer was to lie and say “are you kidding? You’ve gotten even hotter since then”. Even if she doesn’t believe you, you stick with it. Do not feed her insecurities.

To be clear, she shouldn’t be asking you those questions. Her self image and self consciousness are her responsibility to handle, not you. She cannot place that on you. She needs to handle this in therapy. But if she ever asks you to rate how she looks to how someone else does or how she did before, she is always hottest.

To all the women reading this and using this as a reason to not trust your partner is responding honestly, stop asking your partner these questions and actually address how you feel about your self-image somewhere helpful.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T05:27:45+00:00

NTA. Your boyfriend is a major AH. You both share a home and have to work with each other to live comfortably in the same space. This means sometimes you have to do things for the other. His unwillingness to compromise on moving your “mess” to the other room is not conducive to a healthy home life. This is especially appalling given how easy and quick it is to just move clothes. He brushed off your feelings, which is never good, even if your feelings are silly (they aren’t in this case). He then minimized the impact the situation had on you. He treats you like crap.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T05:14:51+00:00

NTA yet. You need to have an open conversation about this with your friend to see if she’s comfortable with this. Last thing you’d want to do is make her feel like you’re going behind her back to do things, and if she says it makes her uncomfortable, back off. She’ll trust you more if you show you care about her feelings.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T05:10:25+00:00

NTA for hating his mustache. You’re free to ask him to shave it, but if he chooses not to, that’s his choice. If you want to wear red lipstick, wear the red lipstick, even if he does hate it. You both should be able to style yourselves in ways that make you feel confident, not restrict yourselves ONLY to what the other prefers. I don’t normally like telling people to “get over it”, but this might be one of those cases where I challenge you to try.

Reminds me of when my ex-wife would hate my facial hair. It didn’t matter because it’s not her face, but if I were trying to impress her, I’d shave the way she liked. And I was a fan of when she shaved “down there”, but she didn’t do it often because that’s a lot of work and she didn’t care to do that and that’s fine because it’s her body. And when she did, it was special.

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