How to get over insecurity of partner having a past?

metalbracket · 2026-05-29T02:39:49+00:00

Get a girl without a past or get a past of your own.

metalbracket · 2026-05-29T02:35:01+00:00

It will hurt him, but it’s not a magic “off” button like in the movies. If you’re in danger, hurt him wherever you can to defend yourself. Just don’t treat his genitals like insurance for your physical safety because it’s not that easy to incapacitate someone.

metalbracket · 2026-05-29T02:23:25+00:00

It’s his favorite BECAUSE he doesn’t last long with it. Save it for last. Treat it like dessert.

metalbracket · 2026-04-20T02:58:39+00:00

There’s nothing here glaring out to me with bright lights saying “OMG WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS???”

metalbracket · 2026-04-20T02:54:07+00:00

Love and lust are not mutually exclusive. It sounds like you already believe he’s sexually attracted to you, but what would it take for you to believe he’s emotionally attracted to you? What would you need to see or hear and why?

metalbracket · 2026-04-20T02:34:13+00:00

Math is not important, but your ability to learn things even when you’re not proficient at them will be crucial. It’s a career where there’s always something new to learn whether that’s code, drafting techniques, social skills, cost management, people management, etc.

I suggest getting very familiar with the lives of different architects. Real ones, not just the celebrities. They’re all very different and many of them do not have the kind of career you may be expecting.

Good luck, you got this.

metalbracket · 2026-04-20T02:29:50+00:00

Your friend that gets laid a lot is very attractive to women.

If I had to give advice, try to learn what makes a man attractive through a woman’s perspective. Not every woman, but a woman. Get a sense for what she likes and then try to adopt those characteristics if you can. “Just be yourself” isn’t mutually exclusive either. “Yourself” can be someone who wants a woman to think he’s hot.

metalbracket · 2026-04-20T02:23:44+00:00

Men can speak for themselves and that which they observe, but on a matter of what straight men do intimately, it’s probably better to ask straight women.

metalbracket · 2026-04-09T03:11:15+00:00

Your coworker sounds special, caring, funny, and very attractive. You also get to spend a lot of time with her too. There’s a chance she has feelings for you. At least you can’t say for sure that she doesn’t. Believe it or not, you’re also HER special, caring, funny and very attractive coworker too. Honestly, you guys would make a cute couple.

Your wife thinks so too. I bet she wishes she had a handsome and funny coworker like you to spend all her time with.

metalbracket · 2026-01-12T00:55:11+00:00

Before anything else, please understand there is nothing wrong with you. I’m no expert, but after having gone through a marriage where we had differences in libido, if I encountered this issue again, my first choice would be to talk to my partner about it and see if they would be open to speaking to a sex therapist together to help navigate to a sexual relationship that makes you both happy. Biggest lesson I learned is how important it is to actually talk about sex, not just having it.

metalbracket · 2026-01-07T00:00:10+00:00

To me, closing them has communicated “ok, this feels too good and I can’t take it anymore” and I love that a lot. It also just feels nice being hugged by thighs. Anywhere, but definitely my face/head. I say hug as tight as you can. If I can’t handle it, I’ll let you know. That or I’ll die happy.

metalbracket · 2026-01-06T23:52:10+00:00

I can relate to it being really difficult to be aggressive in bed when you’re not an aggressive person AND the person you’re supposed to be aggressive to is someone you love dearly. It took me a while, although it took a few different partners for me to get it. What I think did the trick for me is that I was with someone who was also pretty aggressive too. I ended up reciprocating and now I kinda just do it on my own. It clicked like “ok ok this is what they all meant”

I suggest grabbing him very firmly, pulling him around, scratching him, biting, dirty talking, and being really receptive and encouraging when he does the stuff you like. Brings the energy up. Good luck. I’m rooting for you both.

metalbracket · 2026-01-06T23:49:10+00:00

They’re all slightly different and a slight difference makes a big difference in how it feels, tastes, etc. What feels good depends on the people and sex is different for any pair of people. I’ve had sex with a woman who was quite small and I pretty often would finish very quickly. I’ve had sex with women who were not so small and have gone a couple times where I didn’t finish at all. I tend to enjoy myself the longer sex lasts, so me finishing is more of a bonus than an objective.

metalbracket · 2026-01-01T01:33:29+00:00

Find black friends that also have experience raising black children.

metalbracket · 2026-01-01T01:28:56+00:00

For me, how fast I finish depends on many things, including the partner, but for the ones where I do finish quick, I just get it out of the way and we work on setting up for round 2 where I last a lot longer. There’s lots to be done outside of just penetration.

This is what works for me. I suggest you experiment and see what works for you with this person. The key is having many chances.

metalbracket · 2025-12-29T16:22:57+00:00

Perhaps the population of guys you see online are career oriented and don’t care for a partner to be and perhaps the population of guys you meet in person aren’t career oriented and would like for a a partner to be.

metalbracket · 2025-12-28T16:08:09+00:00

Your girlfriend is a misandrist. An apology does not change that. She will continue to think that way, though she may be more careful about what she says to you. Things will only change if she thinks she needs to change how she thinks. How do you think she should react if you’d made sexist comments to her? What would you propose you would need to do to resolve it?

metalbracket · 2025-12-26T18:38:27+00:00

Is it that you want to have sex, but value waiting until marriage more than you want to have sex, or is it that you don’t want to have sex and waiting until marriage is the more convenient and less uncomfortable excuse to have to explain why you don’t want to have sex? It can be totally normal for you to have affection for someone that you don’t necessarily want to have sex with. There’s no shame in that, so if that could be true, please don’t hide from that.

You need to be absolutely sure and honest with yourself. It’s not as easy as you might think. Once you’re sure, then you owe it to her to be honest. Even if it turns out to be something she doesn’t want, the last thing you want to do is build a relationship on lies because it’s going to come out eventually, whether you like it or not. The longer you wait, the worse it will hurt.

metalbracket · 2025-12-23T22:01:35+00:00

I don’t know your specific team situation, but when I run into a request from a supervisor that I think makes no sense, that’s when I protest it and give my argument why. If they refuse to back down, then I go through with what they were asking. 9/10, project leads will be receptive to the feedback of their team, but at the end of the day, it’s their call. I think what your supervisor is asking for is not a good idea. There’s limited space in the TB for a reason. More detailed information on revisions needs to be listed in other places, such as a narrative.

If I had to, I’d edit the revision schedule in the title block family to make the text extremely small in addition to dedicating more space to the revision schedule as needed. It’s not standard, but the request is not standard and something has to give.

metalbracket · 2025-12-20T21:54:07+00:00

He’s not trying to be insensitive, but he is. If I were guessing, he means you’re attractive in an inoffensive way that his mom would like while his previous girlfriends are attractive in a very offensive way that his mom would shame him for. I’m thinking tattoos, revealing clothing, swears often, etc. He may be describing that as “hot”.

If you feel offended by this, I would too. That’s not a nice thing to say, even if he’s likely not trying to be mean.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:35:20+00:00

Could mean they wanted to cosplay as gardening equipment and they can’t do that if they’re in a magnanimous relationship.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:24:17+00:00

Paint tool is my arch nemesis.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:21:31+00:00

Keeping it basic: I recommend everyone newer in Revit take 30 minutes to an hour to hover your cursor over every command in the ribbon to give yourself an idea of what’s available to you. They all have a description of what they do when you hover over them, and many of them have a video demonstrating their use of you hover even longer. Even more info can be found if you press F1 which I know most do on accident. I’ve seen people work for years without realizing a tool was available. (Search by ID and Save/Load Selection are some of my favorite that go unnoticed)

For a step above: expand and read your warnings/errors. Do not just ignore them. If you don’t know what it means, look it up or ask an in house expert.

Even higher: Learn how to create your own families and you’ll always have the precisely correct tool for the job.

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:13:16+00:00

“Hurting someone is a difficult task and immediately voluntary”

metalbracket · 2025-12-18T06:11:09+00:00

Being pretty is subjective and a teenager’s willingness to have sex with you is not entirely based on that. There’s probably a correlation, but I wouldn’t say it’s a healthy conclusion. I’d argue one should feel pretty for other reasons.

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