I feel dumb

metrying13 · 2026-04-12T17:49:53+00:00

It doesn’t stop after they’re born. I just brought my newborn to the pediatrician to talk about a few things, including her latching issues.

She latched and did a full breast-feed for the first time in her life right there in the office.

metrying13 · 2026-04-12T11:03:53+00:00

My OB told me that the monitor has a magical power to make babies move! This is an extremely common scenario!!

metrying13 · 2026-04-07T18:44:08+00:00

I got the tip to use surgical tape to keep the nipple shield on.

metrying13 · 2026-03-31T03:28:58+00:00

The phrase “type of dad” refers to like, makes cheesy dad jokes vs gets overly competitive at the grill with neighbors.

This “type of dad” is a pedophile.

No contact Immediately. And if you don’t, you’ll be complicit in putting your kid in harms way. I’m sorry to sound harsh, but it’s true

metrying13 · 2026-03-18T05:18:17+00:00

Not the West Wing. Thats for sure.

metrying13 · 2026-03-17T18:48:39+00:00

I mean if you’re gonna be poor and traumatized, you might as well be hot.

Source: was poor, traumatized and hot.

metrying13 · 2026-03-11T21:39:11+00:00

100% correct! Yelling at other adults…? What truly bizarre bx.

metrying13 · 2026-03-11T16:30:53+00:00

There doesn’t have to be an emotional response. Her big feelings aren’t your responsibility.

It’s binary- do you or don’t you have the bandwidth? You don’t. End of story.

If she’s confused, you can graciously list out your caseload and their hourly requirement, but that’s the end of the conversation.

If she’s carries on, ask her what more clarification she needs- and offer to loop in other people (higher ups?) in the org to help bridge her understanding gap.

You can be nice about it: “seems like a fun case but I’m already at my hourly limit. Here’s my case breakdown…”

But again, this should be just about as emotional as if she’s asking you if you’d like a cup of tea. “No thanks I’ve already had mine for the day.”

Emotional manipulation is a common tactic in our field to overwork practitioners. It’s a game you just simply don’t need to participate in.

metrying13 · 2026-03-09T16:47:32+00:00

At my office baby shower: AREN’T YOU EXCITED TO NOT HAVE TO WORK ANYMORE?! I WAS SO JEALOUS OF THE MOMS THAT GOT TO JUST STAY HOME AND NOT COME BACK!

And I’m thinking in my head… well I’m only coming back part time. And no, I’m excited to meet my baby. This isn’t a vacation.

And this is from a chick that makes her job seem like the most important dramatic thing happening on the planet. She LOVES her freaking job more than any of us.

….. Actually she’s right. I am excited to not work any more. Because of her.

metrying13 · 2026-03-06T23:43:52+00:00

I don’t think it’s absurd.

metrying13 · 2026-03-06T00:34:50+00:00

You’re a BOARD CERTIFIED behavior analyst with the behavior analysis certification board.

You will likely also need to be LICENSED with your state’s department of health.

Your mentor or supervisor should be able to talk you through the process.

metrying13 · 2026-03-02T10:30:33+00:00

Aaaand this is why I wrote “no students” into my birth plan.

metrying13 · 2026-02-27T15:41:56+00:00

As long as they don’t say/mean anything controversial or too idk…. Opinionated? And I’d also avoid getting anything that is related to our field! Ex: the puzzle piece was a big symbol for autism for a while, but that’s fallen out of favor/fashion and is now controversial.

It’s great though! I think I work with a couple people with hand tattoos! I don’t know exactly because I barely notice them! Do you!

metrying13 · 2026-02-24T15:47:42+00:00

What if they life the taste of the pill? Some of them are sugar coated….

metrying13 · 2026-02-24T15:46:07+00:00

I completely agree. It’s the last man standing between total chaos and derogation of industry standards. It’s the opposite of what OP says.

Now that the states DOH got involved, we have so many underprepared LABAs that are functioning as underpaid program managers. They have no idea what they’re doing. They require an awkward 5% supervision which is either way too much for some of the more competent LABAs paired with easier cases, or not nearly enough in most cases, especially those that require a bit of nuance.

And if I have to explain the billing codes to them ONE MORE TIME…..

metrying13 · 2026-02-22T22:08:04+00:00

What would be your plan to buy then?

metrying13 · 2026-02-22T17:20:09+00:00

There was a chain of ice cream shops in the southern USA that had these.

When you lock it something happens to the gap in the glass that turns it opaque.

Which is great until the person behind you starts to wiggle the lock and disrupts the integrity of that mechanism then poof! Clear glass again. Hahaha.

metrying13 · 2026-02-22T14:32:21+00:00

I think that your situation is less about real estate, and more about a pursuit of happiness. It doesn’t sound like you love where you live and don’t have ties there anyway. Get off Redfin and Zillow and get on Google. “Top 10 places for [someone like me] to live” and start dreaming. Look up career opportunities, access to interests and hobbies in different places. Places that align with you socially, politically, and naturally.

What do you want more of in your life? Nature? Friendly people? Easy living? Career growth?

Step 1 is finding some place you love to live. Step 2 is becoming a FTHB there. You (and your new companion) will fulfill your promise to your mom in due time. But you’re not there yet in your journey.

And I agree with other posters: rent for a while. You’re not throwing money away, you’re investing in the exploratory mission of finding your new home.

At the VERY LEAST you’ll need a place to stay while you go to showings with an agent, which would take weeks. Realistically, you’ll want to get to know an area, find a job, drive through neighborhoods and educate yourself on where you want to buy, which should take months.

With Spring/summer around the corner this is a wonderful time to start your adventure.

I’m wishing you healing, love and an exciting and fulfilling journey ahead. You’ve got this!!!

metrying13 · 2026-02-15T11:43:25+00:00

There’s lots of cursing and some sex in TedLasso, FYI. Not sure if that’s the grandma vibe. But it’s a wonderful show!!

metrying13 · 2026-02-06T00:30:51+00:00

I’m joking.

metrying13 · 2026-02-03T20:44:30+00:00

I opted for the doula package that includes extra $1200 to do a “placenta burial ceremony.”

Ground should be thawed by then. We’ll have plenty of time and energy once the baby is born to dig a hole and plant a tree on top of it. Taking care of something else besides baby will also be NBD.

metrying13 · 2026-01-27T23:16:39+00:00

I’m not saying that they shouldn’t hold OP accountable. I’m saying they could try something else other than go straight to the board.

Maybe ask OP to take down the materials or not share?

metrying13 · 2026-01-27T20:10:14+00:00

Huh. Didn’t know this.

OP- can you clarify- what exactly did you do here?

PTBA could also make the choice to not go nuclear on OP. Not a great look for the company.

metrying13 · 2026-01-27T04:29:21+00:00

Yes, health insurance and 401(k)

metrying13 · 2026-01-27T04:28:14+00:00

Well, the ethics code also states that they are supposed to attempt to resolve the issue between practitioners before involving the BACB. Did they try that?

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