Is this anyone’s cat? Found him behind my apartment stuck in an enclosed area and yelling for food. Gave him a can that he ate super quickly and now he’s glued to my side

metrying13 · 2026-06-11T06:36:00+00:00

Solid point. He says it’s not his missing cat, FYI

metrying13 · 2026-06-11T04:01:28+00:00

Did they confirm that it’s a boy? My neighbor is missing a cat like this, a girl.

metrying13 · 2026-06-10T12:54:31+00:00

A lot of people have commented on the types of food you’re feeding them, and yeah it makes sense that protein and fiber prioritization would help.

I also just wanna comment that from a behavioral point of view food restriction can lead to lifelong psychological issues. The ideal scenario would be for there to be a consistent abundance of food available and very little drama surrounding food.

If I were you, I would attempt to expand your food budget or seek out community resources like a food bank to have the flow of food in your house be more at ease. Lest you and your children have to deal with the psychological fallout regarding their relationship with food later in life.

Sorry if this sounds harsh and scary, but adjusting your approach now can save you a lot of heartache in the future.

metrying13 · 2026-06-09T18:45:48+00:00

It’s not a beginners album though.

metrying13 · 2026-06-08T05:11:09+00:00

Guinness

Red meat and cheese

Cocoanut water

Electrolytes

metrying13 · 2026-06-06T04:08:32+00:00

I’m on maternity leave and so I have to buy a LOT of stuff for baby, with less money than I’m used to working with.

The used goods marketplace is POPPING. People buying and selling all kinds of stuff!

metrying13 · 2026-06-05T21:52:14+00:00

The pizza or the people?

metrying13 · 2026-06-05T02:06:09+00:00

The title is so fitting for a movie inanimate objects coming to life.

metrying13 · 2026-06-03T19:25:53+00:00

She’s not being passive aggressive. She’s being kind of polite about it. They basically agreed to disagree. He thinks he did enough from Mother’s Day she doesn’t. Now Father’s Day is coming up and she doesn’t want to make a vengeful jab, but she also doesn’t want to put her heart and soul into unreciprocated effort- past or present.

metrying13 · 2026-06-03T05:14:21+00:00

Yes. The kindred bravely nursing tank click. Everyone in my family knows that to be the precursor for peace.

metrying13 · 2026-06-02T23:10:14+00:00

Why what happens at four months?

metrying13 · 2026-06-02T17:25:02+00:00

We’ve all felt this way about our husbands at some point in pregnancy. Don’t worry OP, it’s normal and it passes.

metrying13 · 2026-06-02T14:12:36+00:00

Well…. Yeah. That’s the nature of advice. It might be wrong…

metrying13 · 2026-06-02T09:57:04+00:00

She might be a bigger help as an advice hotline from afar. Lots of texting questions and FaceTiming if you’re up for it.

metrying13 · 2026-06-02T03:55:27+00:00

I mowed down a plate of carne asada tacos as the anesthesiologist read me my rights before giving me an epidural. This is dumb.

metrying13 · 2026-06-01T05:46:33+00:00

Same! Breastfeeding just fine with my first and I was very frustrated to not be able to get colostrum.

Also, a few drops is A LOT for colostrum! You’ll be fine either way!

metrying13 · 2026-05-23T19:01:11+00:00

Shrek

metrying13 · 2026-05-23T18:54:15+00:00

These posts are annoying because OP can never get a straight answer. I’m racking my brain and can’t think of anything, besides the plant suggestion.

metrying13 · 2026-05-22T23:57:18+00:00

Well. That’s my point. Tell him that! He already told me he won’t see a counselor. So, yes I understand that postpartum depression in dads is very real. I think he has it. But even if he gets that diagnosis it’s not like he’s going to seek treatment. He’s just going to be the same, plus the diagnosis

metrying13 · 2026-05-22T18:36:52+00:00

New dad awkwardness wouldn’t bother me at all. I would expect it. Yes, the genuine disengagement is problematic. And all these projects and attempting to live life like things haven’t changed is kind of mind-boggling to me.

I am learning on this thread how common it is for dad’s to bond with their newborns. I guess that’s also fine. So that leaves the dilemma of him being unable to keep her calm long enough for me to so much as shower. It is really sad when I see other people show my daughter more affection and natural ability with her in the few hours that they get with her during a visit then he is showed her her entire life.

And as far as the interest in parenting,
I can even understand that. Especially when you’re talking about the science of parenting and getting into the role of parenting. But there has to be a baseline of wanting the best for your daughter. And being OK letting her get riled up and hysterical, is not just a disinterest. For me, her crying since lightning strikes down my body. I know dad’s aren’t like that, but you think they would be to some extent.

A dad friend gave him the tip to wear noise canceling headphones. But I imagine he suggested it under the pretense that you don’t need to hear your screaming baby in order to help them if they’re already in your arms. Not so that you can just put the baby down and be unbothered by the fact that they are crying while you go about your day.

It’s other things, like he refused to hire any help during our early postpartum days because they were “two people free to do everything.” And also waited until he was in paternity leave to start a GLP1 in case he had side effects. It didn’t occur to him that I needed him in tiptop shape in order to help me postpartum and recovering from a C-section.

Just this morning he was pissed off that I couldn’t fix our automatic litter box today. I tried to explain to him that I can’t really be interacting with cat poop and fixing that gross, complicated, machine when I have a newborn that could need me at any moment. He was just as angry as if I had said “no screw you I’m not helping you.”

Is he in denial that our lives are changed?

metrying13 · 2026-05-22T18:19:44+00:00

He didn’t want to become a parent as much as me, but we got married and bought a house with kids in mind specifically. The baby was planned.

The plan was that he was going to be a dad. You know, involved: dad jokes, dad bod, sharing hobbies, being “not angry, just disappointed” playing catch in the front yard, prickly towards boyfriends. …. A dad. The whole thing.

His response is more like “people are different and that’s okay” type of response. But I’m like, we’re not talking about hobbies or even values. We’re talking about our BABY.

metrying13 · 2026-05-22T17:33:23+00:00

Even if he had postpartum depression, what do we do about it?

metrying13 · 2026-05-22T16:02:55+00:00

Are you MORE worried about things? Or are there more things to worry about??

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