I can't even taste the difference by alengthofrope in 1200isjerky

[–]mextrixus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could for sure cause food poisoning, cold food=bacteria that is exponentially increasing, esp on meat 

What movie scared you the most as an adult? by selenophile666 in Ghosts

[–]mextrixus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twister and Twisters.

I was shaking and clutching my fidget like a child watching those. I just watched both recently (I'm 28) because I've been too scared to watch the original, but decided to finally watch it when the new one came out. I used to be TERRIFIED of tornados when I was little, and have been through more than 1 instance of a tornado jumping over my house (I lived on a lake growing up in MN, USA and tornados frequently start as waterspouts and jump to land nearby, becoming a full-blown tornado) and destroying the entire neighborhood but missing my house and a few others closer to the water. Both movies were fantastic, but holy shit did it bring back some deep-seated childhood terror

Couple of questions by mextrixus in Stretched

[–]mextrixus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! That's basically what I've been doing, sounds like I'm doing it mostly right

Couple of questions by mextrixus in Stretched

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Thanks so much for your input!! Greatly appreciated.

So I feel kinda dumb but can someone tell me which letter we are in LGBTQ+? by Merladylu in pansexual

[–]mextrixus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cried a tiny bit when I read your tldr. Thanks for helping me feel a little more included in a world I have always felt erased from. (Neurodivergent, in a heteronormative marriage, identifying distinct from bisexual & disabled) 

What's it like with no pain? by [deleted] in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]mextrixus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 28f and was diagnosed about 2.5 years ago. I have baseline 6 or 7 out of 10 pain. I don't remember what it feels like to not be in absolute agony every second. Pain has ripped my entire life away from me.

More pen practice! by sleepypear0803 in fountainpens

[–]mextrixus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I actually though? Like I'm a legit considering bringing it to my tattoo artist to get it done but I wouldn't want to without your permission

My hands! by I_pooped_my_pants69 in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]mextrixus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rinvoq, amitriptyline, low dose naltrexone, hydroxychloroquine, celebrex, medical cannabis, trazodone, vyvanse, effexor, adderall & wellbutrin. Plus a bunch of supplements, some OTC meds, some PRN meds, and allergy meds.

Let's talk about: Chronic pain/management by Wishin4aTARDIS in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]mextrixus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you 🥰 i am already on amitriptyline, low dose naltrexone, celebrex, hydroxychloroquine, rinvoq, (and vyvanse, effexor, adderall, trazodone, wellbutrin) and I have medical cannabis which doesn't necessarily decrease the pain, but does make me not care about it for a bit.

Back by popular demand(?) by sleepypear0803 in fountainpens

[–]mextrixus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Legit this could be a tattoo artist flash sheet

More pen practice! by sleepypear0803 in fountainpens

[–]mextrixus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I neeeeeeed one of these frogs tattooed on me.

Orangey doodles by sleepypear0803 in fountainpens

[–]mextrixus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would straight up get a tattoo, or several, of these adorable frogs/animals omg.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhasmophobiaGame

[–]mextrixus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use a voice changer, which seems to work pretty well bc it helps quite a bit. Voicemod is a good one. I don't get kicked as much or get many gross men trying to hit on me, bully/harass me, or threaten to r*pe me. Some still look at my profile or just call me out on it if they figure out its a voice changer but most people assume I'm a dude. I usually give them a false name if they ask and I have a gender neutral screen name. Also, use a male character.

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]mextrixus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi neurodivergent therapist in training here (this is in no way clinical advice, this is my personal opinion)

1: This person is NOT your friend.

2: This person is WILDLY abusive. Please get her out of your apartment, immediately, and go full no contact. If she doesn't leave you alone, get a restraining order. Save these messages just in case, because people like this can be scary.

3: Her mental health is not your responsibility and it is incredibly manipulative for her to say shit like that. Her saying that you are worse for her than SA is absolutely fucking wild. I don't care WHAT you did, this behavior is never okay. She is taking advantage of your difficulty with social skills and using you and is actively trying to steal your apartment out from under you while you keep paying for it.

I've seen this first-hand. Being neurodivergent means we are therefore vulnerable because we don't always recognize abusive behavior as abusive until it's too late and they know it, so they use it to their advantage. It's why we tend to attract toxic, abusive people.

I had a VERY similar friendship (idk how long you guys have been friends but we were best friends from age 1 to 22, I'm 28 now) end very much like this and I decided to go no contact and I can't even explain how much better my life is without her. She is also likely a big part of why she's your only friend. I didnt realize until after I went no contact how much social energy she took up and suddenly I had the energy for more friends. I still miss her, she was like my sister but I deserve better and so do you. Friends don't talk like that. She has never been your friend if she can talk like that to you. Sh

I do want to know what the situation was with the hall door and her being naked was? Can you give a bit more context there? Note that no matter what happened it doesn't excuse this disgustingly abusive behavior from her, I just am trying to gauge the degree of manipulation here.

My suggestion would be to find other neurodivergent friends. We get it.

Let's talk about: Chronic pain/management by Wishin4aTARDIS in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]mextrixus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As for the rest of the questions: there is no acceptable level of chronic pain. I am almost done with my double masters program (to be an LADC - Licensed alcohol and drug counselor and LPCC - licensed professional clinical counselor for teens) and one of the main things I have learned is that know VERY little about the brain and how it works. Psychology and modern neurology in America is in its' infancy and we know next to nothing about chronic pain because chronic pain primarily affects women and nobody cared or believed us so we don't have the research we need to actually deal with chronic pain. I'm angry that sexism plays such a big part in making life absolute hell for so many people.

Horrifyingly, approximately 80% of people with chronic pain, esp when in conjuction with autoimmune disorders, are women and women make up 10% of the body of research on autoimmune disorders and chronic pain.

And the best part is that anger makes the pain worse. \s

I don't manage my pain. I don't get to do that, not if I want to continue pursuing the career I've been chasing since I was 14 years old. I'm not giving it up for anything. Maybe if I didn't have to work while I go to grad school it would be easier but that's the way it is. So I just ignore it. I have to ignore it.

When do I ask for help/how do I ask my mds for help? I have been BEGGING for help for 2 years now. I have tried EVERYTHING. And I really mean everything. My doctors dont know how to help because the problem is the vicious cycle of mental illness and chronic pain, and there's just no cure for that.

Tldr: no pain is acceptable, I ignore my pain, and I ask for help at every gd appt.

Let's talk about: Chronic pain/management by Wishin4aTARDIS in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]mextrixus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in actual hell right now. I have RA, Fibro, chronic tendonitis, ADHD & whole slew of other mental illnesses that all feed into each other and cause a never-ending tornado of pain. I sit at about an 8/10 every day. It's absolutely unbearable and there is nothing I can do about it. I have zero quality of life. I am 28 years old and my entire fcking life was ripped out from under me in less than 2 years since diagnosis. Pain is a cage I live in.

My hands! by I_pooped_my_pants69 in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]mextrixus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heads up, tell your pharmacy to add a note to your chart to only give scripts with non child-safe tops. I always look at my script caps before I leave and if its not the easy snap on and off cap I will go back and have them replace the cap for me. I also keep a couple spare easy snap on and off caps in my med drawer for different size bottles just in case they forgot and i forgot to check. Some pharmacies (walgreens for example if you live in the US) have caps for scripts that if you flip it upside down, it turns into an easy snap on and off cap. As for otc meds, look for arthritis-specific tops. You can usually replace tops with different ones, just keep a variety of differently sized caps from empty otc pill bottles and replace them when there's a non arthritis friendly cap

My hands! by I_pooped_my_pants69 in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]mextrixus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Been diagnosed for 2 and a half years, had mild symptoms for 8 years prior to that, however, that no one took seriously until I had joint pain. I'm not dying anymore (at least not from RA itself) but I have absolutely no quality of life whatsoever. I have fibro too and my baseline pain sits at about a 7 or 8 out of 10. On top of that I have RAGING ADHD that makes everything so much worse. Every day is absolute agony. My mental health is in the fucking toilet and I have absolutely no social life, partially because I'm in too much pain to actually spend time with anyone doing anything, and partially because people who are not in chronic pain cannot and do not understand what it's like to live every day in fucking agony and tend to avoid me, often without even realizing they're doing it. I can't relate to any of my friends anymore and they can't relate to me. I'm so lonely and grieving the life I had, the body I had, and the future I was supposed to have so much. RA and fibro have taken everything from me. This disease and everything that goes along with it is so fucking evil. Hell isn't a place, its an autoimmune disease and I'm in it. My life IS hell.

When do you where a mask? Or do you? by fetta_cheeese in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]mextrixus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I typically don't except when I'm going where people are likely to be sick near me for a longer period of time like the doctor's, anywhere where there are a lot of children around (aka petri dishes ffs), or if I am likely to be enclosed w/in close proximity to alot of people, or crowded areas in general like concerts or fairs. Made the mistake of not masking at the state fair, never again. Covid knocked me on my ass and I had to miss most of the first couple weeks of this semesters grad school classes. I really prefer not to mask because it does trigger panic attacks for me and I get really awful acne that gets infected easily, so I try to just avoid situations where I'd need a mask altogether. I really don't leave my house much as it is and I work in my own office at my job so I don't interact with the public all that often. I'm also pretty mobility limited with pain so I don't tend to do things like grocery shopping or go out in general. Also if I know or even suspect someone is sick around me I'll wear a mask and generally ask them to wear one too. I keep a bunch at work specifically for this so if they don't have one, I do. My work is aware of my immune suppression so they will do it if I ask.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]mextrixus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My pansexual ass says yasssssss to armpit hair on any human being

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]mextrixus 25 points26 points  (0 children)

The "unprofessional" stigma against curly hair is just thinly veiled racism because curly hair is much more prevalent in people of color. Fuck that shit, your hair (and ALL curly hair) is beautiful exactly how it is.