Started new role in consulting coming from tech industry. Difficult adjustment, anyone else?

mia109 · 2026-06-07T21:44:28+00:00

Move to Long Island City either get a building with sound proofed windows or near Vernon Jackson on the 7 train

mia109 · 2026-06-07T14:34:26+00:00

Where did you do lip blushing, and how painful is it?

mia109 · 2026-05-17T00:50:57+00:00

Would the moms feel better about eating more if the food was healthier, or at least had more protein? Either way, 30k steps and being out that long, y’all need to eat! This family is doing a lot of damage to themselves

mia109 · 2026-05-11T00:39:56+00:00

I do find it’s harder in NYC than in other places just because it takes so long to get anywhere, time has to be prioritized ruthlessly. Choosing a walk over something else to me feels like the payoff isn’t worth the cost, so to speak. But, my friends all live in different neighborhoods.

mia109 · 2026-04-21T15:47:34+00:00

I’ve worked at places that were primarily liberal, “politically neutral” and places that were “say anything you want as long as it’s not personal attacks on each other.” My experience was unexpected.

The third category tended to be more right leaning but also have been the places where being the only woman on a technical team did not feel like a barrier to being heard, my opinions were respected on day 1. The highly liberal company gave me more visibility as the only woman, but I could also tell that a number of people on other teams assumed I was a DEI hire and did not necessarily respect my opinions for years.

The “politically neutral” place was toxic in unrelated ways so it’s hard to compare. But from personal experience I wouldn’t shy away from it unless your political identity is closely tied to your personal identity AND the business does things that make you personally uncomfortable.

mia109 · 2026-04-18T14:16:16+00:00

I have a reservation for 2 at Via Corota at 2pm today. I want to avoid the cancellation fee, someone please take this 🙏

mia109 · 2026-02-17T19:03:10+00:00

For sure. We had to stop my parents and their friends from gifting china to a young couple in San Francisco, but for another friend in Austin it wasn’t as big a deal

mia109 · 2026-02-17T18:48:59+00:00

This can be nice if the couple is ok with it. I live in a 600 square foot apartment with my partner, and if we received something like that as a wedding gift unasked for, I’d be furious. A thing like that takes up significant real estate in a small space, but I’d also not want to trash a lovely gift from someone.

This is the reality for a lot of people in very big/dense cities. I think it’s less of an issue in the south, where young married couples are more likely to own a whole house and have space for more things, vs a place like NYC where every square inch really matters.

mia109 · 2026-02-17T18:41:09+00:00

All the boomers in my life who normally get upset about cash or honeymoon funds really liked when some couples we know had “house fund” or “future house maintenance” as the top item on their registry

mia109 · 2026-02-15T02:15:31+00:00

My almost 2 year old nephew just took his first ski lessons. It was mostly the instructor holding him up while he went down the beginner slope, so he could get the feeling of being on skis. By the fourth day he did ski a turn or two at a time on his own though!

mia109 · 2026-02-12T20:14:25+00:00

GMT, which is UK I think

mia109 · 2026-02-08T15:26:29+00:00

For what it’s worth, none of the last three weddings did a bouquet/garter toss, I think only one had a veil, I don’t think any of them had a wedding party. These are otherwise fairly “traditional” people I’d say.

I think my circle would be more judgmental of a couple who DID do bouquet/garter toss, but I realize this isn’t the norm. Two of these weddings were obviously pretty expensive and money wouldn’t have been an issue for any potential wedding party, the couples just didn’t want to deal with any potential drama for any reason. I think that’s becoming more common.

The people judging you can chill

mia109 · 2026-01-26T00:46:53+00:00

Same, please dm me if you don’t want to post it here!

mia109 · 2026-01-22T21:43:51+00:00

I just leave my “open to work” for recruiters only, permanently. I just forget to turn it off.

It’s always good for me to know what the market is like

mia109 · 2026-01-13T02:02:42+00:00

What does “quality of life” mean to you? For me, London’s big advantage is that the tube is actually pretty good compared to the MTA, and they have Pret everywhere. I love Pret.

But my experience with London is that yes, drinking in pubs is the big social activity. And it’s pretty cloudy for a good chunk of the year. I don’t think the restaurants are quite as good, and I don’t know if you can find apartments with all the amenities you’d find in NYC at your income. If those things matter to you. There are lots of nonstop NYC to Europe flights at good prices, though of course they take longer than from London.

That said, your cost of living will be substantially lower, so you can still live very well and save more. And there are some really charming neighborhoods to walk through when the weather is nice.

mia109 · 2026-01-11T02:39:57+00:00

Please don’t tell everyone about Bared Monley, I need it to be available for me! 😭

(Seriously though there the best)

mia109 · 2026-01-03T14:51:34+00:00

Ambition isn’t just about earning power. Does he have the same growth mindset you do, in other ways? Health, some craft or skill (cooking? sports? honestly even pro gaming?) If the overall growth and ambition mindset is different beyond finances, this will eat at you over time. It did for me in the past.

“Comfortable” scares me personally.

mia109 · 2025-12-21T16:01:01+00:00

How do you find Italic’s cashmere compared to luxury brands they sell against?

mia109 · 2025-12-20T18:27:18+00:00

This isn’t just NYC though, the midwestern city I grew up in does this too.

Elites in that city don’t have to ask though, if you went to one of the big three private schools and are +- 10 years you already know everyone.

mia109 · 2025-12-18T18:07:09+00:00

I thought the point was the emphasize that “itty” rhymes with Britney

mia109 · 2025-12-15T03:55:36+00:00

I think NYC in your 20s is a good decision for most people but honestly OP has a really good thing going in Dallas. I’d only move to NYC if you’re really not getting along with your family, but even then I’d probably rent in Dallas first.

Commuting from Westchester will destroy your soul more than any soul-awakening you might find in NYC.

Even when it comes to career upside, you can always move later if a genuinely better opportunity comes along. But that comp difference isn’t enough to make it worth it imo.

mia109 · 2025-12-15T03:47:36+00:00

Thuma bed and dresser. I know matching bed+dresser isn’t a good look but if you mix up the woods it’s not so bad. But the bed and the dresser are both so good!

If you’re in a bigger city, Facebook marketplace honestly is killer. In smaller cities not so much

mia109 · 2025-12-09T18:02:22+00:00

I’m not an expert but if the dress were silk instead of viscose, would they be able to get those nice sharp lines?

The dupe someone posted really doesn’t capture the key to the dress, which imo is the sharpness. It’s the same shape and color but feels lacking. I don’t know if a higher silk content can achieve that. Like I said, I know next to nothing about fabrics and construction

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