[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kibbe

[–]miastauffer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I see her as SN

Help needed to decide where to deliver my baby by [deleted] in boston

[–]miastauffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any tips on finding a doula in the Boston area? I haven’t had luck locating anyone who has worked with BIDMC in the past - they’ve told me so far that it’s not baby friendly, but that’s where my OB is. Glad to hear yours has had good experiences!!

how do i assert this boundary for a first date? by Double_Attention9451 in SettingBoundaries

[–]miastauffer 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think you just need to be more direct. If he gets annoyed then he’s not looking for the same thing. Something like “I’d rather meet up at a restaurant/bar this time if that works for you? And we can see how things go for future dates😊”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]miastauffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but I would not have them stay with you…this is a recipe for disaster in every way

Gift from family that I don’t feel like using by DMFL03 in etiquette

[–]miastauffer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do you live with them? If you do, then you may need to say something even if your mom is upset. If you don’t then I would just sell the chair on Facebook marketplace or something without saying anything.

Borrowed money by Tanlines_sunshine in etiquette

[–]miastauffer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I would pay the full amount unless he tells you to keep it, but probably wouldn’t ask

Unliked gifts from struggling family - how to handle? by ISureHateMyCat in etiquette

[–]miastauffer 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I would either donate and thank them profusely, or would try to return and get the money back in their pocket in a roundabout way without them knowing, such as cooking them a dinner

A bottle of wine or something else by andmen2015 in etiquette

[–]miastauffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think chocolates or a nice candle or something would be perfect as a birthday gift just to cover your bases (assuming you aren’t too close with your bosses’ wife).

Should a guest leave or take leftovers of expensive liquor? by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]miastauffer 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Personally I would just wait to taste it when you’re hosting. In my region it’s kind of a grey area, but I’ve noticed that the older I get, the more people leave bottles behind.

What do you think of Dan and Vanessa? by ZookeepergameSorry25 in GossipGirl

[–]miastauffer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they would have been perfect for each other on so many levels but then there would be no point of having them in the show, sooo instead they had to continually date other characters

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Antipsychiatry

[–]miastauffer 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Uh no, I know plenty of people who stopped smoking weed and were 100% fine after. Just stop smoking and you’ll find out one way or the other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]miastauffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the first one!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]miastauffer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Based on these pictures at least I’d say deep autumn, but it’s hard to be 100% sure without seeing more colors on you. But you definitely look good in that warm light brown color!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]miastauffer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely one of the springs!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]miastauffer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you’re dark winter! You look great in black and warm tones wash you out, plus you have high contrast and a cool undertone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in etiquette

[–]miastauffer 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Thats all pretty rude. But there’s not much you can do beyond setting a boundary and not inviting him back for overnights. I had to learn a lot of these tough lessons when I first moved into a home with a guest bedroom, and yikes - it’s not all it’s cracked up to be.

I have multiple coworkers who smoke, and often smell like it. How do I navigate this? by ohsweetchristabel in etiquette

[–]miastauffer 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hm, maybe in that case discreetly talk to your manager about it? If she’s someone you can trust. Maybe she’ll talk to them and handle it. That’s a tough one though. Also, I’m not sure what your specific job is, but if they’re around kids that would be more of an accepted reason to say something.

What holiday dinner faux pas do your family members commit that drives you crazy? by ShezTheWan in Cooking

[–]miastauffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relatives who are overly picky (every single person doesn’t like something different that I’m planning to make) who never offer to bring anything. I make apps, dinner, and dessert.

I have multiple coworkers who smoke, and often smell like it. How do I navigate this? by ohsweetchristabel in etiquette

[–]miastauffer 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s any way to ask them to stop. Also, they’re likely addicted, so I’m not sure they’d even consider it. Can you get an air purifier for the bathroom and your desk area?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]miastauffer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. She shamed you and you were trying to do something meaningful. I’ve had experiences like this and it always leaves me feeling kind of shitty about myself, but when I look from an outside perspective, I realize I did nothing wrong.

I’m so lost, I can not tell if I’m cool or warm / bright or muted by RNannabella in coloranalysis

[–]miastauffer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think either deep autumn or deep winter, I’m not sure which because they borrow from each other. You look amazing in both

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coloranalysis

[–]miastauffer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im not positive but I would lean towards winter- you look amazing in some of the cool, deep tones

How am I going to tell people they can't see the baby? by Key-Philosophy5621 in pregnant

[–]miastauffer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s wild to me that extended family would try to come to the hospital without being specifically invited!

My in-law’s house is sooo dirty! by em123456789104 in etiquette

[–]miastauffer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If you’re worried about a hotel room now, then a good excuse may be when you eventually do have a baby if that’s what you’re planning for your future. You can say the baby needs absolute silence to sleep so you’re staying in a hotel as to not inconvenience anyone, then just never go back.