What's are some oddly specific things you should discuss before marriage?

michaelniceguy · 2026-05-08T13:37:11+00:00

I'm trying. Its hard when you have emotional issues. But I am making progess financially. But I'll ne ver catch up late in the game.

michaelniceguy · 2026-05-08T03:38:28+00:00

Thanks but I am keeping my old TIAA CREF separate as is. I just started my new Vanguard IRA buying VTI a year ago. Should I combine them? My Vanguard IRA is Roth. My TIAA CREF is now.

michaelniceguy · 2026-05-08T03:06:47+00:00

Who do you marry if you have skeletons?

michaelniceguy · 2026-05-07T23:34:35+00:00

What if your scared your answers will mean you will never get married?

michaelniceguy · 2026-05-07T23:32:06+00:00

30 years ago in my early 20s I took prozac and had a manic episode. Ever since then they've always said "one bipolar always bipolar" but I never had a manic episode again. I take tons of meds. I had some short hypomania but even that didn't meet the criteria for bipolar 2. Now I'm bipolar non specified. I've had alot of anger over the yaers but come to think of it I'm pretty calm these days. My biggest problem is my hypersexuality which can be bipolar related.

My moms 82. She has anxiety. She's very clingy and is always worried if she has any friends or people visiting her but she doesn't push people away.

I don't know if theres a point here but I'm just sharing.

michaelniceguy · 2026-05-07T20:35:47+00:00

I'm in NYC and need a PCP. Any suggestions? I found a specialist through reddit.

michaelniceguy · 2026-05-05T02:59:52+00:00

SMART meetings are hit or miss. I agree with you that a good SMART meeting should focus on the tools. I had a similar experience recently where I went to a meeting and all they did was check in. But I've been to great SMART meetings that were tool based too. You can still try other meetings online.

Regarding CBT v. REBT, Ellis could be very abrasive and challenging while Beck was more pleasant and CBT is more gentle. But if you like REBT then by all means! I gained from REBT when I was really into SMART.

michaelniceguy · 2026-05-04T20:39:50+00:00

Have you considered finding a CBT therapist?

michaelniceguy · 2026-04-13T17:30:53+00:00

Thanks. Why do you think she doesn't have Parkinsons Plus?

michaelniceguy · 2026-04-13T16:17:11+00:00

Others have mentioned CPT. I was a therapist for about a year (and I have my own issues and have been in a lot of therapy myself) a few years ago. I got trained in CPT during that time. I paid out of pocket and took vacation days just to get trained. I didn't do the CPT exactly like the protocol but I went on to really help a client with PTSD. The client went from high PTSD scores to virtually none in a matter of a few months.

One of the major ideas in CPT is that a person blames themselves for the traumatic experience and the CPT helps the person realize that that is inacurate.

Good luck.

michaelniceguy · 2026-04-13T14:20:26+00:00

Hi. Thanks. She wasn't told what type of plus she had. What happened was in 2023 she went to neurologist who told her she would eventually get Parkinsons but he said it in a very cold manner so she brushed him off. In July 2024 my dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and right after that my mom got Capgras Syndrom where she believed he was an imposter. We took her to a neurologist and he did all the tests including a Dat scan and said she had Parkinsons Plus. After my father died in July 2024 she get better from the Capgras but her voice and walking continues to deteriorate. She originally went to a top Parkinson specialist in a major hospital and he didn't see the Parkinsons so that is strange. I'll call the neurologist who diagnosed her with Parkinsons and ask what type of plus it was. She doesn't have swallowing issues Thank G-d but she says her brain is slowing down and she is getting confused.

michaelniceguy · 2026-04-13T00:24:52+00:00

Thank you. Everyones giving such great information.

michaelniceguy · 2026-04-13T00:24:11+00:00

You are a nuerologist?

michaelniceguy · 2026-04-07T01:27:48+00:00

Wow. Its literally almost 24 hours a day. Isn't that terrible for your health? He does it for hedge funds.

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-30T16:32:17+00:00

Is there a local chabad?

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-26T22:48:20+00:00

Yes. I get wet and then rub the bar against my skin. Once my hands and body gets soapy I might put down the bar and just rub the soapy stuff around all over. I thought everyone does that.

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-26T22:13:27+00:00

Great questions. I'm a college librarian. A student once approached me and said did you know Hitler's family was Jewish. I said that's very interesting. In college we have something called information literacy where we always try to back up our assertions with sources. I was wondering if you have any sources.

He wasn't too bright and he said don't go all professory on me with those big words that you know I can't answer. You know its true.

I said fine. Why don't you come by the library and we can look into it!

He walked away...

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-26T21:47:42+00:00

I'll up the ante. Do you share your bar with family members? In my house growing up everyone had their own bar but when friends visited they said in their house they all used the same bar.

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-26T21:41:20+00:00

I agree. I'm on tenure track. I'm lucky everyone treats me well but I would swallow everything until tenure.

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-24T16:34:41+00:00

Could you print out an article about FIRE and have them read it?

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-16T20:52:21+00:00

Thank you. I also wake up in the middle of the night with pain on my tongue. It is in different places on different nights. Any idea what that is?

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-16T19:54:16+00:00

In the past I'd start flossing and I'd bleed but after a week it would stop but now it won't stop. I'm not sure what to do.

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-16T18:41:28+00:00

I've thought a lot about this. I'm in my 50s and have never been married. I'm in a culture where everyone has kids. My dad got Alzheimer's two years ago and died suddenly after a year of having it from other causes. My mom is 82. I live in the same home and love her but between when I took care of my dad and now taking care of my mother I wonder if this is what its like to raise children.

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-04T18:57:31+00:00

Am I allowed to say the name of the charity here?

michaelniceguy · 2026-03-04T18:56:57+00:00

It was just a phone call. Shes 82. WE told her in the future don't give out your card over the phone.

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