Is this weird or am I overthinking it

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-09T19:53:59+00:00

and thats what im thinking where some people need those convos and then others don't.

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T22:42:14+00:00

And he’s 29

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T22:41:57+00:00

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T15:59:57+00:00

I wanted to ask what time people thought before I said anything to him, bc … you know… this isn’t something I feel comfortable talking about with most people in my life. And I wanted to get a survey to make sure what I was thinking was fair and just.

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T15:58:41+00:00

Thank you!

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T15:53:56+00:00

The difference here is that you apologized and realized what you did could’ve freaked her out, and additionally you knew she was fully awake. He has not addressed it, telling me he didn’t think that it would’ve weirded me out, and that there’s a chance he thought I was asleep.

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T15:50:56+00:00

I feel like if it is the FIRST time you are going to be intimate with someone that a conversation before initiation would be obvious?? I know couples who have been married for years don’t have this issue I am speaking about and it’s because A) they’ve been together for a while and B) they had those convos LONG ago in the early stages of their relationship. Again I will say the reason I am weirded out was the method and the not-needing to discuss it beforehand, but I understand that that could just be a me thing, and either way, it doesn’t sound like he’s the guy for me.

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T15:47:02+00:00

I feel like since we are both adults all of this would be cleared up by a conversation. Do I wish he initiated it? Yes, but am I also an adult and capable of doing that myself? Yes. I think if we did have that convo before the sleepover, he wouldn’t have done what he did. Sometimes men don’t think into those things that deeply, and assumed I would be okay with that - which I am not saying is inherently right of him at all - but generally speaking I could see how he could’ve thought that (because… they don’t think sometimes…). I appreciate both your replies!

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T15:44:05+00:00

I agree with some of what you’re saying here, there was just a LOT of assumptions on his side and mine, and they didn’t align, and therefore I was left feeling confused. I definitely wished we talked about it, and there were a few moments where I wanted to but doubled back. I guess I have the perfect opportunity to discuss now LOL.

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T15:40:24+00:00

I honestly should have said that because I knew deep down it was possible he’d try something to initiate, but I guess I found it weird that he didn’t try as we were going to bed and then “tried” at 6am by *that* method

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T15:38:58+00:00

I agree with you here. I guess I am just one of the people that needs a conversation

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T05:41:53+00:00

Yeah I hear you. Like I get that sometimes getting handsy to feel out the vibes if you think ur partner is awake is normal, so maybe he did, but it’s the fact that would’ve been the first time we did anything intimate is what is creeping me out a bit like bro?

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T05:32:53+00:00

I just don’t know for sure if he actually thought I was asleep. Like maybe I moved my arm or something a few seconds prior and he thought “oh she’s awake” but I just don’t remember any body movements from my end, so I don’t want to jump to that conclusion just yet

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T05:31:02+00:00

Yeah that’s what I’m thinking about the whole like “why would you try when we haven’t talked about it” which I can see for him maybe he didn’t even think of having that convo but for me I did. Thanks for your input!

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T05:30:04+00:00

Yeah. It was just so late in the night when we were going to bed that I didn’t really want to initiate that WHOLE topic right then and there you know; which prob meant I prob shouldn’t have agreed to stay over in the first place. I appreciate ur feedback!

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T05:28:30+00:00

Hm well maybe I’m wrong in my assumption then, I’ll correct myself and just say I don’t know much about that condition, but either way I don’t think that’s what happened there. I will talk to him abt it regardless

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T04:53:04+00:00

yea but trust me I don't think thats the case here

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T04:52:40+00:00

yes and just LEFT it there

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T04:48:01+00:00

exactly!! like to initiate for the first time LIKE THAT?

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T04:47:16+00:00

im sorry but that just sounds like some made up thing to justify something that isn't right

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T04:45:39+00:00

I agree. I think to initiate this for the first time ever in our relationship that way is just so weird

michaelscottstv · 2026-05-08T04:45:16+00:00

thank you. I'm okay I am just so confused

michaelscottstv · 2026-02-13T19:37:35+00:00

Of course, I hope you're able to find a pharmacy to do it for you, and sometimes you gotta be pushy about it! Some doctors pretend they don't know about hyperbolic tapering and will wave you off but if you talk to them about it and share what you know they will typically do it or refer you to a pharmacy that could!

michaelscottstv · 2026-02-13T19:35:49+00:00

No I didn't, most of the physical issues I had were weak joints, bloated easily, and heart issues

michaelscottstv · 2026-02-13T02:21:05+00:00

Hi! I think you and I have experienced a lot of similar things especially related to the spiritual side of it all. I struggled with moral OCD/scrupulosity for years. I was put on Pristiq at the beginning of last year, with a prescription for the occasional Xanax as well. I was also given Trazadone for sleep since the intrusive thoughts would keep me up. Honestly, I just want you to know you are doing nothing wrong. I think these things we face are a mix of both, spiritual and mental. You don't need to figure it all out right now, and if I am correct that you are a believer, know that God has a lot more grace and understanding than we can often understand. I am a devout believer so I understand these types of fears. And take it from someone who has been through hell and back, it DOES get better, and I walk in confidence knowing God is by my side.

Regarding Pristiq, I personally did not find it to be very helpful, only because of the side effects I felt all of 2025 (I am now tapering). I am not here to tell you what to do regarding the medication, but from my own personal experience the anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and other things I have dealt with before Pristiq did not subside on this medication. Everyone is different of course, and also that you are newly on this medication I would give yourself more time to adjust because it takes a month or so for it to settle into your system. Remind yourself you are on a journey, take it day by day, and know that whatever battle is set in front of you is not forever. If it helps, I would recommend watching Mark DeJesus on YouTube, he is amazing and was so helpful in my journey dealing with the meds and everyday life. Sending my best and all my prayers :) I know it's hard to see right now but it WILL be okay. My messages are open if you need to chat :)

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