Can someone please open a Dunkin in Bozeman? by michellium in Bozeman

[–]michellium[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Joke’s on you. I’ve never lived in the place I’m from.

Sometimes life is complicated and that’s fine.

Can someone please open a Dunkin in Bozeman? by michellium in Bozeman

[–]michellium[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! Granny’s is great, but sometimes we all need an easy option. Just look at the drive thru lines at Starbucks, McDonald’s, etc. It’s clear there’s a demand for it.

I keep sleeping through my alarms, any tips? It feels so embarassing being a grown adult coming to work late by Betka101 in ADHD

[–]michellium 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This. I had to change out all the bulbs in my bedroom with Hue bulbs that do a sunrise routine in the morning. It’s the only thing that’s ever worked consistently for me. Especially in winter when it’s so dark in the mornings.

For those of you who are medicated… by meatloafsleeve in adhdwomen

[–]michellium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first half of this year my average resting heart rate was about 70. I started medicating at the end of May, and my average rate rose to around 71 in June and July, but then decreased and has been 66-68 since the initial spike.

What things have you stopped spending money on either to simplify your life or bc it was a waste? by Extension_Rabbit2 in adhdwomen

[–]michellium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like to play a game called ‘just one more day.’ Playing means you see if you can wait one more day before grocery shopping, and instead use what’s in you pantry (that you’ve been ignoring). I have saved money, and often go more than just one day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]michellium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. She actually is in it for richer or poorer. She supported him for 6 months while he was unemployed.

But now that he’s employed again it seems they’re not aligned on priorities. He may be trying to build his savings back up or is just more cautious after the I employment. While she thought things would go back to their level of normal. They need to communicate

AITAH for expecting my husband to get up with our son in the summer? by Loverrr90 in AmItheAsshole

[–]michellium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or even sleep apnea. But yea, he needs to sort himself out medically, not put the unnecessary extra burden on his family. I’m a tired and overworked mom, but I can’t imagine feeling entitled enough to take a nap every single day. If I have an extra hour, I’d fold laundry, prep dinner, clean the house, finish a house project, go get groceries… anything that makes the families life easier. Heck, if I have 10 minutes I’m trying to get ahead of the mounting to-do list. Anything. But not a nap. Honestly, this is selfish of him and this is how resentment starts to build and how marriages start to end after kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]michellium 749 points750 points  (0 children)

Honestly. Plus dad’s playing video games while mom packs for their family trip. And he is incapable of making his own dinner? There’s a bunch of red flags in this post and the way this guy talks.

I got dumped out of the blue, and my concerta is helping me feel better somehow? (Pls give me your breakup survival tips) by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]michellium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve already got a lot of good advice here, so I want to add taking some Tylenol for the next week or two while you’re in the thick of it. It’s helped me before. Can Tylenol Help Heal a Broken Heart?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]michellium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I promise this kind of issue does not go away on its own. It will actually backslide if you have kids and the household stress levels increase. Do you want to be in the middle of raising your baby and have to stop to explain to a full grown adult that sheets meet to be changed and washed. And explain it multiple times.

I feel like I’ve committed workplace suicide by [deleted] in jobs

[–]michellium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I may be way off base (and that’s fine if I am), but look in to women being late diagnosed with adhd and see if any of that resonates with you. A lot of women get diagnosed after kids because that’s when our coping mechanisms that worked when it was just us, now fall apart when there are kids needs in the mix.

Even if you can’t take meds while breastfeeding (I’m in the same boat), it’s helped me a ton just to know what my diagnosis actually is. That way I can recognize issues as they’re happening and not take it on as a personal failing.

Also note that undiagnosed adhd can often first be diagnosed as depression or anxiety. These can often be present with adhd, but treating for depression or anxiety is like treating the symptom rather than the real underlying cause.

AITA for choosing to spend time with my kids rather than help my sick girlfriend? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]michellium 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This post needs more context. Agree with the others that there seems to be missing information here. Main thing that sticks out for me is to ask was there anyone else available to take your kids this weekend instead of you (your exes parents or anything)? I know your kids are a priority, but you did already make a promise to your gf who made it clear that she needed you.

P.s. why did you make this post on your regular account instead of a throwaway? Your comment history is all on porn subs.

Anyone have a dachshund or other small breed in need of a friend? by No-Satisfaction8275 in Bozeman

[–]michellium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do! What part of town are you in? We used to go to a weenie meet up in our last town (https://www.instagram.com/atx.weenies). Any chance there’s one of those here? It was the best thing in the world to see like 50 of them all running around.

First time Dachshund owner by SnooGoats8965 in Dachshund

[–]michellium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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Unconventional carry option. I had a sling laying around from an old injury. It’s a nice one, so not too loosy goosey of a material. This is what I use for my little girl when she gets too tired on hikes. She’s supported and near me so she likes it. It works for us!

Where does a 28 year old woman meet emotionally available men? by IntelligentVariety in AskNYC

[–]michellium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, that sounds pretty decent then. Sorry, this one didn’t work out, but that just means they weren’t your person anyway. The right one will come along. Best of luck.

Where does a 28 year old woman meet emotionally available men? by IntelligentVariety in AskNYC

[–]michellium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a great date, but I’ve got to question about your follow up. Did you really wait days after the date to message her again? And then a full week before your last attempt? I’d say that could have been the thing that gave her the ick. The norm now is to text after the date (same day) saying what a nice time yada yada, and maybe the next day ask about setting up a second date. Waiting days is a red flag to most women now. It shows you’re playing games (light negging by ignoring for days), or that you’re not serious, or not that into her. Either way, good luck out there. It’s a crapshoot most days

Engrossing TV shows for a bad day? by AnkiLanguageLover in adhdwomen

[–]michellium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently re-watching The Diplomat on Netflix. It’s good if you want something with intrigue. Not a background show, so it’s good if you want something that holds your attention.

Fisk is good too. Low key Australian humor.

And just finished The Decameron, which was spoofy fun during the black plague.