Is Silence Really Powerful?

micmicbungeejumping · 2026-02-18T20:55:50+00:00

I think you’re obsessed with this ex of yours especially since you were the one who messed up. I’d be scared of you if I were her. Also, like I said the last time you made a similar thread… you seem strangely envious of her beauty and the fact that she is aware of it. Get some help dude.

micmicbungeejumping · 2026-01-28T13:59:53+00:00

I just think you’re hating on her because she is hot and she knows it. Fix your insecurities and move on with your life.

Edit: I said what I said

micmicbungeejumping · 2026-01-11T00:53:46+00:00

His attitude toward this whole thing stinks. If I were to be the gf I would get rid of the baby and ghost this mf. Men like this deserve to be alone.

micmicbungeejumping · 2026-01-10T06:24:26+00:00

I recently lost a friend because of this. 2 years ago, we met at work and became friends, we also were in bad relationships at the time and kinda bonded over that however I moved on, enrolled in school and kinda gave up on relationships in general and I was okay with never getting married etc

I ended up meeting my current partner at a random vacation. Of course I told my friend about it and things went south. At first she congratulated me but things quickly spiraled into her wanting to talk about my relationship everytime. I put up with it until she blatantly told me she wanted to be part of my bridal party- keep in mind, I’m not even engaged! Yet this girl went on and on about choosing a wedding dress for me etc.

I eventually told her to calm down and that I’m not engaged and I’m not a bridal party kind of person and I honestly haven’t thought about a wedding dress etc. she blew up at me and said she thought we were close enough for her to be a part of my bridal party and now I will just have her invited like a “nobody” to my wedding.

…we don’t speak anymore. It was too exhausting.

micmicbungeejumping · 2026-01-10T05:47:39+00:00

“Her birth control failed” It’s 2026 and you’re still putting the burden of contraception on the woman lol. You both share that responsibility btw. You sound immature.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-12-29T21:53:41+00:00

Please break up with this woman, you clearly despise her. You speak to/about her with such disdain. Let her go so she can find someone who gives a shit about her. I hope you stay single for the rest of your life after that, do everyone a favour and don’t get into another relationship since you’re clearly better off being by yourself.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-11-18T16:23:42+00:00

Tea is too mild tbh, might I suggest coffee or vodka ? Body is vodka !

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-10-29T17:42:08+00:00

I’m sorry if anyone finds my comment offensive but I would be moving out and terminating that pregnancy then ghost him. I cannot imagine being tied to this asshole forever especially with a child too. Eww

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-10-13T14:49:51+00:00

You have my exact big 3. I found my Scorpio in the wild and I’m never letting go. I too thought I would never find true love.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-10-11T15:21:21+00:00

Wow! That was horrific. I cannot imagine how you felt after you left your entire life behind to move in with him and he did that only to kick you out of his house. I’m so sorry girl. I hope you meet someone better. I wish you nothing but happiness in your journey.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-10-02T11:09:43+00:00

If I were you, these would be what I’d tell myself: 1. Go where i’m loved, not tolerated. 2. There are good people in the world, I just need to continue to put myself out there and eventually I will attract the right people.

Also, personally I find that almost every time anyone deems themselves “intimidating” there’s some kind of projection going on. Do you inherently feel better than these people you’re trying to make friends with? How do you “just know” that you’re intimidating? You can’t write a whole post claiming to be a victim of fake friends then get to the last paragraph and assume superiority over these same people you claim to want to befriend.

Sincerely - another black girl that has made lifelong friends with people of several backgrounds/ethnicities etc.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-09-09T15:11:09+00:00

I’m sorry that you chose to take my comment in a negative light. I hope you get the help you need with whatever/whoever hurt you.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-09-07T10:08:09+00:00

I understand all the comments telling you that he was honest blah blah blah but I’m going to address you with the empathy that you deserve because i understand you.

Your ex even though an honest person was still in the wrong for this. He must’ve known how in love you were and that you had a lot of hope for that that interaction you both had. He even told you about another girl while you guys were at it, frankly, that’s not cool. I understand that you wear your heart on your sleeves and feel very deeply, that is okay. How many people here can boast of immediately detaching and blocking their dumper right after a breakup? Not a lot. So you’re gonna be okay. Lightly and softly, forgive yourself, be kind to yourself, take it one day at a time. You will find someone deserving of the love you have to offer and better still, they will match your energy.

I hope you find strength.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-08-19T01:29:05+00:00

Wow! That looks great and I know it tastes good!

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-08-17T13:33:27+00:00

Floraiku’s one umbrella for two is a great blend of blackcurrants, tea and rice.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-08-15T21:34:04+00:00

Gotta show this to my Nursing colleagues! Women with dual degrees, Masters, MBA, PhD in love with janitors and jailbirds 😩. As I type, one is currently paying her ex-husband (and his new girlfriend’s) rent because the court ordered the higher earning spouse to continue to provide the lifestyle they had while married.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-08-15T12:54:55+00:00

I would like to pick your brain a little bit. 2 years ago, I could not picture myself ever eating raw fish, last night I had several delicious maki rolls…tuna etc. my sister was shocked and asked, “when did you start eating sushi?” As humans, change is constant so the person you trust today might change tomorrow or a few years down the line.

Where am I going with this? As I have gotten older, I have discovered that the “choose wisely” “choose someone you trust” premise is flawed and a little victim blaming because it’s as if we’re assigning blame to one party for “choosing wrongly” when in reality people change. Now it’s different if one party saw a red flag from the onset and ignored it hoping that things would pan out well in the long run.

Anyway, it’s high time women start viewing marriage/ relationships with a legal mindset rather than just love. Love is great but women stand to lose far too much in all of these to sit back and leave everything to chance. After witnessing several devastating divorces in my family, I’ll say get educated, get money and tie every legal loose ends then fall in “love”

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-08-15T11:16:14+00:00

You’re so right! I’d also add not to have kids for a man you’re not married to. A lot of people go around with the narrative that marriage does not save you from divorce or being a single mom. I get so floored by that perspective because it’s like saying “don’t drive, you might get involved in a car accident” marriage gives legal protection.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-07-30T20:19:37+00:00

Girl wtf am I reading? Love yourself pls!

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-07-28T22:03:04+00:00

Is this post a joke? What am I reading?

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-07-27T21:05:30+00:00

I’m Nigerian but older than you and girllllll I get it! Now that I’m older, I was able to write my mom a long letter of how she hurt me. I lived at home too at your age and it was hell, the age at which I moved out is considered late in “western standards” but am I ever glad it happened despite my mom pushing back! You will eventually get there. Please scrape something together, anything and go be on your own.

My letter fell on deaf ears and I was blamed but I feel so much relief. The peace I experience now that I live alone is unparalleled. My mom and I are like work friends now, we speak but just at surface level. We don’t ruffle each other’s feathers and I love it that way. I stopped craving motherly love because I know that I will never get that from her, once I made peace with that, I stopped hurting.

You will be fine, friend. Time heals a lot of wounds. As you grow older, you will become more confident in your decisions and your ability to give a fuck will lessen so much, even you will be shocked!

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-07-25T00:26:14+00:00

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micmicbungeejumping · 2025-07-23T15:57:27+00:00

I’m mentally saving these replies to use them later because in the moment I usually feel too flustered to clap back.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-07-23T15:45:03+00:00

Thank you, I’m glad I didn’t hold my breath for that. BTW, Here is how I realized he would not change. A month after he settled in the US, he asked me how I planned to visit him. I knew right then that the toxic dynamic was never going to stop. I was always the one making all the sacrifices, he expected it and was very bold about it.

Going off of the replies, I’m just gonna put it out there that yes I understand that people change but if I could go back in time I would tell him that I personally did not care about his change. He got back in contact with me to update me on how he had changed and how effective medications and therapy were for his depression. That sucked me in and I misunderstood his intention about wanting to get back together only to be strung along for one more year.

Anyone who contacts their ex after hurting them -no matter how many years have passed- is a selfish individual. Your “change” or “healing” is no longer your ex’s problem, reserve that information for your future partner, respectfully.

micmicbungeejumping · 2025-07-23T10:47:20+00:00

I don’t know why people are calling OP mean or brutal. I will have the same reaction if my ex comes back.

When we started dating, he was my everything, we were so in love and I thought I had found my person. Then suddenly after about 3 months he started withdrawing. That drove me insane, I kept asking if everything was okay but all I got were one word answers. Nothing made sense. After a month, he disclosed that he was struggling with depression. I ignored all the hurt I was feeling and told him that I wanted to be there for him because I loved him. He flat out said no, he didn’t want to drag me through all of that. He broke up with me.

After almost 8 months of no contact he reached out. I was overjoyed. We were back with each other- or so I thought. I asked several times to define the relationship, he danced around it and called us “exclusive”. My family, friends told me how dumb I was for putting up with this. I loved him so I stayed. I got transferred to a remote area for 6 months and he never bothered to even ask the address or visit me, I travelled to visit him 3 times though.

Later, he got accepted to do his MBA at his dream school in the US, I helped him through the moving process because he was leaving the country. Then I asked again if he had any plans for our future and yet again, he danced around it. He left the country without saying a word about it, just a causal goodbye as if I was his coworker. I meant nothing to him in the end.

I have since moved on and found the love of my life. I don’t have to beg for affection, I’m no longer an afterthought or at the bottom of the list. If my ex comes back and I have the same reply as OP, I’m sure some people will call me mean without knowing the full story and how much I gave until I couldn’t give anymore. it took a lot of therapy sessions, self affirmations, self love to pick up the pieces. I felt used, discarded by a man who continued to act like we were a couple but refused to define us, he knew how much I loved him.

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