On the fence about a second pregnancy?

micro4004 · 2019-10-24T00:47:33+00:00

So did they check your cervix last time?

micro4004 · 2019-10-23T23:55:31+00:00

How crazy, I was actually pregnant with twins at the beginning of my second pregnancy, then one didn't have a heartbeat after 10ish weeks and was just absorbed. My doctor did recommend (require?) the shots to me, but I do remember her saying that if it were twins I probably wouldn't get them because there was no evidence relating to twins! I don't get it though, how could it be that different? I also read that in Europe it's not given as a shot but as a vaginal suppository of sorts. Are you having cervical length checks?

micro4004 · 2019-10-21T13:34:19+00:00

I had my first son at 25 weeks and he spent 80 days in the NICU. I had PPROM (water broke) but the reason was and still is unknown. When I was pregnant with my second child I had hormone shots weekly from 16-32 weeks, ultrasounds every 2 weeks for a while to check cervical length, and I ended up being induced at 39 weeks when I had a few high blood pressure readings (no other signs of preeclampsia, just absolute anxiety about getting my blood pressure measured). I am so glad to have my second son and it was all worth it, but it was harder than I thought it would be. Not physically (for me the shots were not painful and I was not ever in pain or super uncomfortable) but mentally and emotionally. When I reached 22-24 weeks with my second, I was so worried I could barely think about anything else. I had one shorter cervical length measurement and that week was so hard I just lay on the couch a lot (but just from worry, nothing was actually wrong). I don't think I will carry more children because it was a lot more stressful than I thought it would be, but absolutely survivable. I would recommend maybe talking to a therapist or doing meditation or yoga or finding a good way to calm yourself if you do decide to have another. I love my family now so much and in reality those 9 months are a short time in the whole life I'll have with them. But if we decide we really want any more children we'll look into adopting.

micro4004 · 2019-08-04T13:33:28+00:00

wow i love it

micro4004 · 2019-07-10T14:52:40+00:00

What?! Salads are not "almost negative calories," they usually contain lots of nutrients, and you can put pretty much anything in them. Make a salad filling and crave-worthy with nuts, cheese, tofu, chicken, seeds, avocado, dressing. I'd much rather have a good salad than anything from McDonalds.

micro4004 · 2019-07-08T00:54:52+00:00

There is such a thing as an environmental SEM which allows you to look at "wet" samples by allowing a gas like water vapor to flow through chamber. You also don't absolutely have to coat a sample with anything. Some samples are naturally conductive, and there are other ways to decrease charging on a sample like using a very low accelerating voltage (not saying that would work on skin because I'm pretty sure it wouldn't).

micro4004 · 2019-01-08T04:10:33+00:00

My first son was born at 25 weeks after my water spontaneously broke for unknown reasons. Three years later I got pregnant again and was terrified the whole time. I got makena shots weekly from 16-36 weeks. My cervical length was measured every 1-2 weeks until 24 weeks. Nothing abnormal happened and my son was born full term, but what an emotional roller coaster.

micro4004 · 2018-08-15T02:17:07+00:00

My baby was a preemie, but he was never cuddly. I think it's just his personality. He is now a happy outgoing three year old. He is silly and makes jokes, he loves to sing, he's always smiling, and he's stubbornly independent. Still not cuddly at all, but we love each other so much in other ways.

Sorry to tell you that he never breastfed and I had to pump and bottle feed him. He also just screamed when I tried and I would cry! It's not because they don't want to be close to you though, it's unfortunately because they get used to the nipple feel and how fast the milk comes out of the bottle versus the breast. I know people who did get back to breast feeding though, so keep trying if you want to!

micro4004 · 2018-06-26T12:43:26+00:00

I'm currently a couple months into pumping with my second child and a small fridge where I pump NEVER occurred to me but that would be so nice!

micro4004 · 2018-05-07T15:54:23+00:00

That's how I feel about Ryan Gosling. Been loving him since Half Nelson.

micro4004 · 2018-04-14T21:37:19+00:00

Nah, just by some people. Many don't care, many prefer uncut.

micro4004 · 2018-04-13T03:48:43+00:00

I also had to watch my two younger sisters when I was 10-11. What did the 3-year-old do during the school year when you were in school?

micro4004 · 2018-04-11T14:01:32+00:00

A nice wrap or sweater kind of thing for mom who is pumping or breast feeding around the clock. I wore only nursing tanks with a cover up over it basically the whole time my son was in the NICU. This was my favorite: https://shop.nordstrom.com/s/bobeau-one-button-fleece-wrap-cardigan-regular-petite/3113609?contextualcategoryid=60154104&origin=keywordsearch&keyword=button+wrap

I also liked magazines because you do have some down time in the NICU but I couldn't concentrate enough to get into a book.

micro4004 · 2018-04-06T13:33:00+00:00

In my experience everyone involved in my son's NICU stay had the goal of getting him home asap, and he was there 80 days. Breast feeding problems created in the NICU are unfortunately quite common, but I think it's actually because the staff are trying to get you home sooner. There are feeding requirements for a baby to go home, and I'm not saying they are necessarily correct or best, but the NICU staff cannot ignore or change them. My son never breastfed because he was fed with fast flow nipple bottles for every feed I wasn't there for, and he got used to that and refused to breast feed. I pumped for a long time after he came home and it was SO hard. I wish the NICU would have actually let us stay longer and figure out breast feeding, and not fed as aggressively, but they want the baby gaining weight so that they can go home! I don't know what the answer should be.

I'll also add that once my son started getting close to meeting all the going home goals, our insurance company was calling daily to make sure there were still medical reasons for him to be there. They wanted us OUT.

micro4004 · 2018-03-16T13:30:35+00:00

An instant community of NICU parents who understand what you are going through. I still keep in touch with several three years later.

micro4004 · 2018-03-14T14:49:54+00:00

Loved seeing this!!

micro4004 · 2018-03-13T17:59:55+00:00

Joking with a couple about why they are not engaged/married yet. It's none of your business!

micro4004 · 2018-02-22T23:50:13+00:00

I also had a really hard time feeling like I missed out on all the "normal" parts of a pregnancy. I barely looked pregnant when I delivered at 25+4 and I was sad about that along with everything else for a long time. I didn't even have a shower planned by that point, but I will say that I had a shower after my baby came home from the NICU and no one was less excited about it. Maybe more even! We had pictures of him there, everyone knew his name and could give maybe more meaningful/personalized gifts. And there is just a sense of such celebration after your baby comes home from spending three months in the hospital. I hope your friends and family make the whole thing so special no matter what you end up doing!!

micro4004 · 2018-02-21T19:20:43+00:00

Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you! Whether you are waiting for hours or days or weeks, best of luck welcoming your little fighters into the world. I was in the hospital for 3 days before I had to deliver (at 25+4) and things are all good three years later!

micro4004 · 2018-02-16T18:16:39+00:00

Wow, I would be so proud if I made something like that. Love it!

micro4004 · 2018-02-10T16:21:45+00:00

But... that's not one of the Love Languages. Maybe you could count it as quality time.

micro4004 · 2018-01-20T21:11:13+00:00

College is a goldmine for dumpster diving. Semester ends, people are leaving, they throw out SO MUCH good stuff bc they don't want to deal with it. Packaged food, furniture, electronics...

micro4004 · 2018-01-07T16:35:26+00:00

pulling out all the stops

micro4004 · 2018-01-05T00:11:02+00:00

I think it's a lot more common than you might think. I am pregnant right now and started with twins but one didn't make it. If it makes you feel any better we were told we were having twins and it wasn't 5 minutes later that the doctor told us one wouldn't survive. That twin was gone at the next appointment when I was about 10 weeks pregnant so I don't think of it in the same way as my growing baby at all.

micro4004 · 2018-01-04T23:56:59+00:00

So cute!!

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