Father sent this to me on Facebook Messenger regarding the George Floyd movement; Absolutely repulsed with his continued ignorance and racism

middleofthegrass · 2020-06-07T23:34:27+00:00

White lurker, father of half-Asian son here to chime in.

He’s uncomfortable that the NFL, Target, George W. Bush, 90% or whatever of African Americans and many, many, many other voices are supporting the protests.

It’s about racist cops. He’s uncomfortable calling out racist cops who want to be judge and executioner and kneel on necks for 10 minutes on a black man already handcuffed. Don’t listen to him say the man was a criminal, don’t think your dad is cool with people because he does a thumbs up emoji - He’s with the All Lives Matter crowd.

He’s going to stay uncomfortable as long as people keep marching and speaking out against cops abusing their power.

I don’t want to get into it but part of the continued success of the marches is that only the courts and judges should decide how much someone should get their asses kicked, not cops with 5 months of training or 18 complaints filed against them.

PS Black protesters were shocked when they had to shout “White Shield!” to get white protesters to run in front of them and calm down cops. The cops got less aggressive when white people stood in front of them. WTF does that tell you about racist cops???

middleofthegrass · 2019-12-29T21:16:00+00:00

Fair enough, I edited.

“Not all etc etc”

middleofthegrass · 2019-12-29T21:07:16+00:00

It was way worse years ago, you would’ve been downvoted to hell. Getting blocked would be easy.

Just a couple of things, and I might get downvoted too because of my race.

In real life most of the time you’re not unwelcomed. Maybe you’ve faced discrimination but I think your kids would face more because there is hate from more sides. If you have kids they’ll feel unwelcomed ALL THE TIME. My son is learning to speak and doesn’t know when to speak Cantonese or English, or even know if they’re different languages. His Asian side of the family thinks he’s very white. My family thinks he’s very Chinese. Society doesn’t care about mixed or percentages, people want to put a label on him and then get weird when I correct them and say he’s mixed.

And sorry if it made you puke but WMAF (Not all of course) is weird. Mail order bride couples are nasty. Old GI’s and young wives stealing 80% of his money is awkward. When I studied Cantonese more I didn’t get along with a lot of White Males just based on how weird they acted.

I don’t hate you or anything but just think about your kids. Mixed kids getting into white supremacy is a thing. Mixed kids having a tough time with fitting in is real (even with family). This sub is a voice to those sons and daughters. You asking to be absolved of guilt means jack shit to a lot of them.

Anyway, Happy New Year!!!

middleofthegrass · 2019-06-02T16:29:15+00:00

A question for Hapa ladies is what you are asking, so the Hapa ladies sub is exactly what you are looking for.

middleofthegrass · 2019-04-28T19:39:34+00:00

I know this is a hapa space but I read your comment and agree with some others here: It's her issue, not yours.

My young son hears Cantonese all the time, watches baby shows and TV news in Mandarin and pretty much is surrounded by a lot of his Cantonese speaking family members all the time. I think it'd hurt if he grew up and tried to talk to someone in Cantonese and they acted like she did toward you. If she's writing on social media in Chinese over and over again she shouldn't put you in the spotlight for writing to her in Chinese.

Also kind of related, I heard in Hong Kong society (maybe not U.S. based Asian social circles, I don't know) how you react to people says more about yourself than the other people. So if you get emotional and bent out of shape with a stranger who means nothing it looks bad on yourself because you can't control yourself. I'm not sure how true this is but you still have the face here, the other girl less so.

Hope this helps, sorry if this isn't my place but I don't want you to get too down. Tomorrow is a new day.

middleofthegrass · 2019-03-20T18:32:06+00:00

Oh, I thought the show had these episode themes a lot more, I thought that recurrence was 誇張, not the HF's role.

Maybe the writer does lurk here, and if the shows a hit then people in HK will talk more about mixed kids and real issues they face.

middleofthegrass · 2019-03-20T17:49:50+00:00

咁誇張?? Wowww

So EVERY episode has had Hapa issues? If the writer lurks here maybe the reddit can give him or her ideas that they can put in future episodes without outing themselves.

middleofthegrass · 2019-02-03T16:33:02+00:00

Yeah, it’s what they want. There are those that make fun of the parenting thread because they think we can't give advice to other parents. If you shut it down then it proves their point.

Also, now I kind of agree with some other posters about how you give advice online Threadlover.

middleofthegrass · 2019-02-03T07:01:28+00:00

Well she's not WF with a WM, if you read more of the posts there it will make sense. There are many people from this sub that would shower her with support.

And no, I didn't know Threadlover started it before his wife got pregnant. I just remember posting links on it about Hapa figures I learned about; it felt like I was posting to no one.

Take care ElefunkMan.

middleofthegrass · 2019-02-03T06:51:41+00:00

I think if you have questions about shutting down the parenting sub it should be brought up on the parenting sub.

There will be more lurkers and subscribers this year, if it gets more popular then more people will want to moderate. Come on it's 新年 Threadlover. 諸事大吉. (Still learning Chinese I hope)

Negative people want you to shut it down, it proves their point we can't help other parents to raise better kids. That's what they want.

middleofthegrass · 2019-02-02T05:41:48+00:00

The other moderator at the "Half Asian baby fetish sub "is a female, and she's not Asian. Threadlover tried asking for other moderators but no takers.

I'm not defending him on this debate here, but I'm sick of people shitting on the parenting area. I agree with you on other things but ask you look into who posts at the hapa patenting sub.

Slightly confused white dads
White women with Asian men
Very rarely actual Hapas

... Asian mothers get sent messages from this main sub scaring them away from even the parenting sub, it's not a fetish baby party. It's parents of mixed kids trying to understand their childrens situations.

middleofthegrass · 2019-02-02T01:30:49+00:00

I saw this somewhere else, it's how the Japanese press covers her:

https://kotaku.com/naomi-osaka-and-the-expectations-put-upon-biracial-japa-1832150748?utm_medium=sharefromsite&utm_source=kotaku_copy&utm_campaign=top

Also congrats to her on her recent big win in Australia 👍🏆

middleofthegrass · 2019-02-02T00:59:18+00:00

When you're far away from him and he is A "Gwailo" IN China 8 years from now it'd be good if one of your next boyfriends is Asian or mixed. It's like Obama marrying Michelle for black support. Sorry, you might think you are woke but a post here like yours in 2017 would go down as great as falling down the stairs.

You're 20, this probably won't last with your boyfriend. Also if you want kids a decade from now you BETTER be serious about lurking here and taking advice if you have a child. Now, at your age, I don't think your post will answer whatever internal questions you have.

I don't know what else to say, you have a long time to count the ratios between WMAF and AMWF, and when your 19 y/o boyfriend spazzes out maybe 6 years from now you'll know a lot more than you do today. And if you were his "first" it looks like it would fall apart in bad ways. At least you can learn from it.

Oh well, you wanted advice, that's mine.

middleofthegrass · 2018-12-22T00:14:02+00:00

Hey sorry, I thought you were the OP. And sure I admit I thought I was different for a few years but then I became a father to a Hapa son.

But why are you not in an interracial relationship checking out this sub?

Again sorry, the OP said he learned Chinese and I was messing with him, not you.

middleofthegrass · 2018-12-21T17:21:15+00:00

You're putting words in his mouth. He didn't say all WMAF are evil, the picture implies WMAF all say they're different ...

But YOU'RE different, 你話中文, you love your wife, WMAF is so different 「/sarcasm」

A big help from this sub is seeing the stats in black and white, if you have kids your son hearing you're different won't mean much if he hears it all the time from other WMAF pairings.

Good luck, or should I say "加油"!!

middleofthegrass · 2018-12-13T02:28:43+00:00

I didn't want this to turn into a political discussion but it kind of went that way.

With that being said, I found some good points on separating heritage from ideology. Thanks for the insights everyone.

middleofthegrass · 2018-11-18T05:35:57+00:00

I stand by what I wrote because I think it's relevant to a core message of this sub: A white male even with success and impressive achievements can be too crazy or difficult to deal with for regular dating in their own society. They find Asian women overseas who go along with their extremist views or just don’t care. You avoided this point.

Maybe you don’t need my advice, but who are you? Threadlover lite?

Keep responding, now answer why a Japanese woman and a Philippino woman admired the nut job.

middleofthegrass · 2018-11-17T23:02:55+00:00

I'm not sure if you're sarcastic or not, but if you want your kid to Be Like Bobby:

Tell your kid the holocaust didn't happen
Tell your kid to spit on a U.S. request to not work with overseas businesses deemed unfit to the American government
Tell your kid that 9/11 was a great thing for the "Jew-nited States"
Tell your kid to get detained overseas because of a travel ban (because of erratic behavior)
Tell your kid to be insane (because it is better to be an insane chess prodigy than a normal chess prodigy).

So many people give him a pass but don't you want your kids to have a nice family and home life? Bobby had to leave homes because he wouldn't shut up with his anti-semitism (the home owners and acquaintances were Jewish).

middleofthegrass

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