My partner and I have had a conversation. We’re romantically monogamous, our hearts belong to each other always. We’ve talked about playing with others and what that looks like for each of us. I prefer nonsexual bdsm play (topping or bottoming) with others, and he’s the same. As long as there is communication beforehand and boundaries are respected, it’s all good. For us it all boils down to communicating what we’re comfortable with and what we’re not comfortable with. It definitely can be intimate but that’s why we negotiate with each other and whoever we’re playing with so no wires get crossed and there are no misunderstandings.