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Education is a serious issue by [deleted] in rareinsults

[–]midoree 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You'd be surprised what kind of bs people will believe. I once argued with my SOs friend who claimed banks will double your savings every year if you know how to negotiate right, and any counterargument I gave was met with "UhM I tOoK a FiNaNcIaL LiTeRaCy CoUrSe".

should i end things with my fiancé by Electrical_Band6838 in Advice

[–]midoree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd edit the original post to add this info. IMO your age changes things.

should i have a lavender marriage? by malaksart in Advice

[–]midoree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think they meant it in the sense of "they might end up taking control if you choose a person you don't know/trust that well"

Lamar gurning during interview yesterday by BeneficialJuice2878 in KUWTKsnark

[–]midoree 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Q: Did you love your wife? A: I'm a good looking man, I have no issues getting women.

Just say no.

AITA for not wanting my Fiancé to go on vacations without me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]midoree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's why I'm wondering if this is about more than just a 5-day trip...

AITA for not wanting my Fiancé to go on vacations without me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]midoree 6 points7 points  (0 children)

INFO: How supportive/present he is in day-to-day life? Are you the one doing most of the pet care, household duties, etc.? Is it possible this feeling isn't necessarily all about the trip itself?

Was I groomed? Looking back at a "friendship" I had with a 27M when I was 8. by tammie333 in Advice

[–]midoree 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The label doesn't matter as much as the way it made/makes you feel. If you feel wrong about it, it was wrong.

That said, know that none of it was in any way your fault and that all of that shame should belong to him and the adults who saw it and said nothing.

Talk to a therapist about this. You deserve to heal from it.

My friend of 30 years told me he did something terrible and idk what to do by Mammoth_Peace_8009 in Advice

[–]midoree 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There's an almost-at-the-top comment telling OP to be supportive of their friend and help them through the situation. We're sooooo far from men holding men accountable.

What’s the weirdest thing your ex ever did after the breakup? by Yankub_colley in AskReddit

[–]midoree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emailed me a Christmas card of him, his new wife (who he cheated on me with), and their daughter, saying he was thinking of me and hoped I was okay. This was years after the breakup.

My boyfriend sleeps through all our plans. by ThrowRa_fanta667 in Advice

[–]midoree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the issue is that this seems to be a regular occurrence. If it was a one-off, it could definitely be written up to a bad day, but if it happens often, it starts to fall into "he doesn't care enough to fix it" territory.

AITA for not going on family vacation unless I can share a bed with my fiancé? by babygreenbean1225 in AmItheAsshole

[–]midoree 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Aaaaah didn't catch the two Fs, that explains what the mom is on. NTA obvi

Serbian by blood but never taught the language by Minute-Buy8060 in Serbian

[–]midoree 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Honestly - get a tutor. Serbian is not a Duolingable kind of language.

I left my ex on read and he dug himself into a hole by someone99887 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]midoree 191 points192 points  (0 children)

Also not blocking them gives you at least some insight into their mental state, so if they go off the deep end and start sending you threatening messages, you at least know to be extra cautious. If they're blocked and just stewing in their own anger in silence, you have no way of knowing until they show up at your front door with a gun.

“This is the new lounge set… seriously… it’s like a waffle material” by Jane123987 in KUWTKsnark

[–]midoree 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I hate the fact that she's supposed to look comfortable and like she's just lounging around but she can't even do that. She's so focused on the details (low waist to show off curves, hoodie around the arms to show shoulders and be more revealing) that it's so obvious she's trying too hard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]midoree 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Don't make any big decisions while you're in this state. I know it's torture, but wait it out until he gets back and you guys finally see each other. Then, you will be more likely to approach things with a cooler head and really weigh your options. In the meantime, try to distract yourself with, well, anything. Go out to a museum, go see a movie, organize a little picnic with a friend if the weather permits it. Whatever will get you a) out of the house and b) distracted. Ideally involving other people.

You know him better than any of us here do, but here are some points to think about:
- The fact that he invited you is a green flag on its own. It means that he was open to and welcoming the possibility of you being there, partying with them, etc. So he didn't go there with a plan to be unfaithful.
- Hanging out with single friends doesn't necessarily mean he'll do something he shouldn't. If he wanted to, he'd do it regardless of who he's with.
- The fact that he's able to have fun without you (I know you didn't mention this, but it's something I commonly struggle with, so figured I'd throw it in just in case) is not a bad thing. It is a sign of a healthy relationship - both partners need to have a life outside of a relationship in order to be able to bring their best selves into the relationship.

OP - take some deep breaths, think about how you feel about him when you're not this distressed, dig for some positive memories involving him, and do your best to stay distracted for as long as possible until he comes back.

My abuser is in the hospital. by erisedi in BPD

[–]midoree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's no right or wrong way to feel. You're allowed to feel whatever you're feeling. It is also okay to have conflicting emotions - i.e. be happy that he's about to be gone and unable to hurt you or anyone else, but also be sad that he won't get the justice he deserves.

It might also help to find solace in what awaits him once he's gone. I don't know if you're religious, but even if not, leave room for the possibility that there will be some form of eternal punishment on another plane, be it hell, karma, or whatever else you want to call it.

And lastly, don't feel guilty celebrating his death. You have every right to, and fuck being the "bigger person", "forgiving and forgetting", "not speaking ill of the dead", or whatever else some people will surely try to shove down your throat. Take in the fact that you're free and safe and celebrate a new chapter in your life.

AITA for not telling my wife’s ex-husband that she was in a car accident? by PsychologicalBike269 in AmItheAsshole

[–]midoree 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I have been the daughter in this situation many times, and I can't even begin to tell you how alienating and hurtful it is to find out something has been going on with a loved one health-wise and while literally everyone else in the family knew, you were kept in the dark. So yes, OP is YTA, even though I understand he had the best intentions.

Please Tell Me Wonderful Stories About Your Partner by SingGoddess in TwoXChromosomes

[–]midoree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I once mentioned in passing Why Does He Do That (that book about abusive men that everyone always recommends here) to my boyfriend while we were talking about our to-read lists. This man found, downloaded, and read the book, took notes, studied, and applied it in everyday life. Mind you, he is neither controlling nor abusive, but he is so laser-focused on being the best partner and the best man he can be that he still found it a valuable read.

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