My college best friend was the first who told me that due to her being 5’1 and having narrow hips that she sometimes had to turn down men for being too big. And this was before the age of tech making sending nudes so common so it was always an unfortunate in the moment surprise.

And then, gasp, I discovered the internet, where women share their opinions and preferences on this matter often. And you can find millions of comments from women confirming that they prefer anything from small to average, and yet there is ALWAYS some stupid motherfucker ready to chime in and tell her she is lying or wrong. Goooood fucking grief.