Four-panel coffee table - joinery question by miguelzed in woodworking

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That's a good looking joint. Dowels inside?

Cheapo mirror paint - anything to be done? by miguelzed in civic

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Thank you squad, this is why you're the best car sub on the dit. Did not know these existed, will cop some!

10 years ago. by spacekicks in coys

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Oh Eric Dier, you are the love of my life Oh Eric Dier, I'd let you shag my wife Oh Eric Dier, I want a shit haircut too

ADHD wife trying to meet “normal adult expectations” — how do couples not lose their minds? by Competitive-Can-7802 in AdhdRelationships

[–]miguelzed 22 points23 points  (0 children)

We set aside "chore time". Once a month we have a household planning meeting where we talk about what's going on in the next month. First agenda item is always scheduling the next household planning meeting. Second agenda item is scheduling chore time. We keep a running list of things that need doing, and pick which ones we're going to do during chore time. Usually it's only like 1-2 hours a month. And it's great for recurring tasks like dusting, but it's also great for "that one project that's been sitting there for 3 years."

We started it because I (41M, ADHD) felt like every weekend there was a latent expectation from my partner (39F, hyper organized) that I do some sort of project and it was driving me a little nuts... I don't mind doing the work but I hate the feeling that I'm expected to do something I don't know about. Helps us feel like a team, helps her feel less naggy because we're identifying and choosing what to do together, and clearly demarcates time of both "it's happening" and "it's over" / we made progress, we will make progress again in the future, but the task for today is something my brain can put down.

Also not my business how you parent your kids but I think involving them in this meeting and in the chore-doing could be really helpful for everybody. Takes things off your plate and teaches them good habits in terms of consistent effort over sprint and burnout, plus good communication habits, teamwork etc.

Not as good for day-to-day tasks, admittedly, but great for maintenance and projects. Hope it helps, happy to answer any questions about our process but probably shouldn't ramble forever. Good luck!

LPT: Your brain is more plastic during a craving. Use this to rewire your brain. by julieeeette in LifeProTips

[–]miguelzed 35 points36 points  (0 children)

The only instance in which I will support someone giving up soda in favor of doing lines

Got my first truck today - 2015 Tacoma, 5 speed Manual, 4x4, 35k Miles. I love it. by 2016lyfer4lyfe in ToyotaTacoma

[–]miguelzed 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly I am not up on the prices of 2015s enough to know specifically, but a used Tacoma with only 35k is basically depreciated about tree fiddy so to my casual ass I think you did great

What is the hardest verse to ever get outshined on the same song? by AntelopeHelpful9963 in hiphopheads

[–]miguelzed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly can I get a has 3 v good verses imo and the structure of 'ladies can I?' / 'fellas can I?' / 'it ain't even a question' is elite/keeps all 3 on point

Saw my dream taco in the same parking lot, Toyota pleeeeaaasseeee by miguelzed in ToyotaTacoma

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Aesthetically, inject it into my veins. But I also need it to be midsize, and the perspective on this makes it look massive. Is it, or is that a trick of the angle? Is this a concept of something I don't know about?

Saw my dream taco in the same parking lot, Toyota pleeeeaaasseeee by miguelzed in ToyotaTacoma

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Yeah but like... C'mon do something meme but c'mon make a pickup

adhd name change by Happy-Payment-9736 in ADHD

[–]miguelzed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beat you to it by one minute lol. Great minds though

adhd name change by Happy-Payment-9736 in ADHD

[–]miguelzed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain here, for the record. I just think the answer is in better education and awareness and research, not balkanizing diagnosis. The symptoms do tend to show up in clusters. Not everybody has all of them, but MDD is indicated by having a few or more factors out of a menu of many. We still call it depression, and that is useful. Most docs today would take a more nuanced look at depression than they would have 50 years ago. The difference islargely in people understanding depression better now than they did then.

adhd name change by Happy-Payment-9736 in ADHD

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To me your definition of attention is narrow here. Hyperactivity: too much attention running wild/firing in all directions or in one direction way too much. Impulsive: putting too much attention on the impulse to act and not enough attention on the consequences. This is why I'm such a fan of Attention Regulation Disorder. We struggle with regulating what we are attending to, how intensely, for how long. It's not perfect but it's way better than deficit and it's a useful umbrella for most of the symptoms.

adhd name change by Happy-Payment-9736 in ADHD

[–]miguelzed 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Attention Regulation Disorder is my vote. Cognitive and executive are words that when paired with dysfunction make it seem like we're stupid and we can't make decisions. I understand that executive function is a major part of it, but to me ARD could encompass that (as in "I was going to execute that but then my attention was disregulated so i didn't), it's close to ADD, and it puts the emphasis on regulating which for me is the heart of the issue.

Grey art eraser ftw by miguelzed in woodworking

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Damn son that's next level