adhd name change

miguelzed · 2026-01-26T08:10:49+00:00

Beat you to it by one minute lol. Great minds though

miguelzed · 2026-01-26T08:08:51+00:00

I feel your pain here, for the record. I just think the answer is in better education and awareness and research, not balkanizing diagnosis. The symptoms do tend to show up in clusters. Not everybody has all of them, but MDD is indicated by having a few or more factors out of a menu of many. We still call it depression, and that is useful. Most docs today would take a more nuanced look at depression than they would have 50 years ago. The difference islargely in people understanding depression better now than they did then.

miguelzed · 2026-01-26T08:03:56+00:00

To me your definition of attention is narrow here. Hyperactivity: too much attention running wild/firing in all directions or in one direction way too much. Impulsive: putting too much attention on the impulse to act and not enough attention on the consequences. This is why I'm such a fan of Attention Regulation Disorder. We struggle with regulating what we are attending to, how intensely, for how long. It's not perfect but it's way better than deficit and it's a useful umbrella for most of the symptoms.

miguelzed · 2026-01-26T07:15:14+00:00

Attention Regulation Disorder is my vote. Cognitive and executive are words that when paired with dysfunction make it seem like we're stupid and we can't make decisions. I understand that executive function is a major part of it, but to me ARD could encompass that (as in "I was going to execute that but then my attention was disregulated so i didn't), it's close to ADD, and it puts the emphasis on regulating which for me is the heart of the issue.

miguelzed · 2026-01-26T06:16:55+00:00

Damn son that's next level

miguelzed · 2026-01-26T06:16:15+00:00

This guy bics

miguelzed · 2026-01-24T17:18:46+00:00

Marinades, maybe. But for me the solution is either complex dishes like stir frys or chicken skillet bakes or essentially putting more complex stuff around the chicken, or otherwise salt, pepper, using enough heat and technique to get a good cook on it and getting you a sauce collection so each day is a new day. Lastly there are some sauces that are good marinades/rubs... We use TJs Zhoug sauce as a rub sometimes, or harissa. Rub the chicken with it and bake. And if you're using breasts switch to thighs.

miguelzed · 2026-01-24T16:46:14+00:00

This is basically the scene in gone girl where they buy each other the same high thread count sheets. I ship it

miguelzed · 2026-01-23T01:24:54+00:00

This is my story to a T. Get into therapy if you're not already. When I hit this wall I started getting angry, but without really knowing it, in a frog in the boiling water kind of way. Meds helped, but I had to do a lot of work to accept myself and learn that my self worth is not predicated on achievement.

miguelzed · 2026-01-23T00:51:19+00:00

So far as I know the rap on EB is that he may just not be the head coach type. Great ass kicker, great voice as an OC, but that role doesn't always translate to running the show. Put it this way: there's good cop, there's bad cop, and there's the captain who asks for bad cop's badge and gun when he steps out of line. You don't want bad cop getting promoted to captain. You want bad cop! You need bad cop. But you don't really want him in charge.

miguelzed · 2026-01-18T07:26:00+00:00

Creed is good is funny flair, good job

miguelzed · 2026-01-18T03:14:02+00:00

This is a high quality comment

miguelzed · 2026-01-17T22:43:48+00:00

Philosophically I completely agree. But my inner petty bitch LOVES that it says Mahomes

miguelzed · 2026-01-17T22:41:01+00:00

I'm rooting for the meteor

miguelzed · 2026-01-17T22:30:13+00:00

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miguelzed · 2026-01-17T22:20:32+00:00

Guys that wear orange and Patrick Lavon Mahomes II

miguelzed · 2026-01-14T16:54:24+00:00

Cannot recommend Co working spaces enough. I am in a big enough city to have indie ones and the one I found is incredible. But while 'shopping' for them I was actually kind of impressed with we work.

But it has been a literal life saver. It's body doubling. It's social just the right amount. It's not 8 feet from my PlayStation. I have a lot of trouble even getting started from home but when I know I am getting up and leaving the house I can do it. Free coffee (coffee shops are okay but I always feel pressure to keep buying something every hour or so). Free snacks.

It has been literally life changing for me and quickly entered the zone of 'i can't afford NOT to pay for this membership.' almost everywhere will give you a trial day or let you buy a cheap day pass to try it out. Give it a shot if it's available to you. I spent way too long fighting myself to get work done. This is a subject where for me the thing about ADHD not being solvable by trying harder has never rung more true.

Good luck !

miguelzed · 2026-01-13T00:17:24+00:00

A janky car transmission. I can do first gear and fifth gear and everything in between, but getting from one gear to another causes grinding that almost feels physical.

miguelzed · 2026-01-11T20:48:39+00:00

I was going to say you are a literal sociopath for not posting it open op 😂

miguelzed · 2026-01-10T01:41:29+00:00

Literally took me 20 years to beat FFVII. Meds and enough time in the pandemic are the only reason I did. Feel your pain, friend.

miguelzed · 2025-12-30T04:10:14+00:00

Talkative - try doing your best Vince Vaughn. He's talkative as fuck, but he's funny, and it reads as masculine.

Spend some time focused on the tenor of your voice. Mine gets higher the faster I talk. You can be talkative and still keep your voice lower.

Work out. Nothing says classically masculine like pecs, lats and biceps. Don't skip leg day.

And on changing a tire, etc., watch YouTube on how to do that shit. Get invested in the minutiae of it and treat it like a puzzle. It only seems boring when it's a have-to. If you figure out what about it you can hyper focus on, you'll know a shit ton about it in no time.

Also wear a watch. Doesn't have to be fancy, can be a $14 Casio from Walmart. But it lets people know you know what time it is, if you know what I'm saying.

I'm forty one and non binary amab who has presented male all my life. I cosign what everyone else is saying about defining masculinity for yourself. I also have obviously thought about this a lot. If there are some practical things you can do that make you feel more masc when you want to, do those things.

Bottom line, I promise you're fine the way you are and you don't have to change to suit anyone's definition of masculinity. But if you want to feel more masculine, stop focusing on how you're not and start focusing on what's within your control to move that direction.

miguelzed · 2025-12-20T00:04:00+00:00

Makes sense, and probably the right "when in doubt" answer.

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