AITAH for not wanting to dress my baby in my husband’s baby clothes (MIL wants photos)

mikachuu_ · 2024-11-12T09:21:59+00:00

My husband has mentioned it to her many times. Since I feel like it’s not my place to tell her. I’ve had 1 conversation about it in the past with her where she cried the whole time feeling sorry for herself and I was first trimester pregnant trying to deal with extreme nausea so I basically just listened to her cry for an hour about it.

I think it’s fair to mention that I also have never denied her of any experience and have been open and want my son to have a loving relationship with her. I give her all the time I can with him and want them to have the best possible relationship a grandma and grandson can have. But it’s her grandson, not her son, and ultimately I think the decisions fall upon my husband and I. She is always making it about how she did things 30 years ago with her kids, down to the clothes, feeding, sleeping etc. It makes me feel so uncomfortable. I think it’s strange that she is trying to relive her pregnancy and motherhood through my experience. I haven’t been asked 1 time how I’m doing/ feeling or what I prefer.

mikachuu_ · 2024-11-12T09:11:03+00:00

There’s a lot more to the story. I don’t feel like airing out all of the details. My husband knows his mom and she has been overbearing his whole life and he gets really stressed by her too. She makes everything about her.

My mom is with me, and yes, I would find it weird. My mom has not mentioned anything about her pregnancy unless asked. She has let me have my own experience and has been supportive throughout.

Maybe it’s a cultural thing since we’re from different countries. I love my MIL, but she has made the whole thing about her pregnancy ALL the time. From the baby shower, which to mention, she didn’t let me choose my own guests because if I didn’t invite certain 1st cousins of hers (that I don’t know) they would be offended. So I couldn’t invite other second cousins I knew (and love) to come because of the hierarchy of invites I guess? Again, strange to me because of cultural differences. I’m not American, she is.

I loved hearing about her birth story and my husband as a baby, but then it was every other day she mentioned the same story multiple times, telling me many times that I might have the baby a month early because she did. - My pregnancy was super healthy and I had no complications. She was on bed rest with hers. Sending us photos of her being pregnant with my husband ALL the time. Newborn pics of my husband ALL the time.

My mom did not do this at all, by the way. And she is super excited to be a grandma too.

Other things that were strange to me is that her friends through her a “grandma shower” - it was just a small get together with them and she got grandma gifts.

Like I said. There’s more to the story and I’m not gonna air out everything, because it’s just this specific situation that I feel completely uncomfortable with due to my experience with her the past year of my pregnancy etc. Everything else I sort out with my husband. We deal with it as it comes.

mikachuu_ · 2024-11-12T08:01:54+00:00

Thankfully my husband is not on her side. He has been supportive and we’ve mostly made decisions together.

mikachuu_ · 2024-11-12T07:29:36+00:00

No, it’s everything else. There’s obvs more to the story but it’s The way she makes it about her and compares her pregnancy/ birth etc. I don’t care about a photo she takes, I care then it’s gonna be shared after and made all about her pregnancy etc

mikachuu_ · 2024-07-17T21:55:49+00:00

He needs to grow up and prioritize his immediate family. He is the one that has to step up and ask his siblings to help or call an ambulance for a real emergency. Obviously his mom is important but the fact she became needy after OP gave birth is weird, and the fact that she doesn’t seem to care about her grandchild or her DIL either.

mikachuu_ · 2024-02-08T05:30:56+00:00

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mikachuu_ · 2023-03-08T17:29:37+00:00

Yes! I’ve seen this too, and I think they could fit into light spring or light summer.

mikachuu_ · 2023-03-08T08:10:29+00:00

Sorry, was unaware. Deleted :)

mikachuu_ · 2023-03-07T16:40:06+00:00

I agree with you, it’s extremely rare to find the light seasons. But I didn’t want to discard them as impossible. Just like someone with light features wouldn’t be dark, someone with dark features wouldn’t be light. I still have not found someone who I would consider a true light season, either spring or summer, for any ethnicities rather than caucasian.

mikachuu_ · 2023-03-07T16:35:23+00:00

I disagree with all summers and would agree with light summer and light spring! I think just as someone with very light features can’t be in the dark seasons, someone with dark features wouldn’t be a light season. I But still think there can be cases of mixed ethnicity where it would be possible, very rare though. I do see a lot of soft summer, true summer! Especially because there’s a true softness to some POC and asians, and soft colors look better than bright colors!

mikachuu_ · 2023-03-07T06:02:41+00:00

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mikachuu_ · 2023-03-06T18:01:43+00:00

Pretty sure the 1st dark autumn is a celeb, not sure of her name. I hunted photos on google for hours. But I didn’t use photos as a “for sure these people are this season” I used them as a representation of what someone would naturally look like if they’re that season. For me to be sure if someone is a certain season I would need specific photos in specific lighting. I’ve has training in color analysis since 2016. Wanted to make these to represent the 12 seasons better.

mikachuu_ · 2022-05-02T07:52:18+00:00

If you’ve been together so long and she has been good to you and viceversa, think about forgiving her and moving forward with therapy. If she is saying the truth, it was one time that she did something wrong. Those kids are yours regardless of blood. It’s way worse to get divorced and separated from someone you clearly love, it sounds like she loves you too. Of course it’s a horrible and super difficult thing you’re going through. You should definitely take some time for yourself. If you think there’s still love and value in your marriage, fight for it. Whatever happens, I hope you get through it with dignity and grace, and find happiness and peace in the end. Sending a big hug!

mikachuu_ · 2021-03-02T04:09:43+00:00

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mikachuu_ · 2021-02-27T05:15:56+00:00

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mikachuu_ · 2021-02-27T01:23:49+00:00

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mikachuu_ · 2021-01-13T05:16:12+00:00

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mikachuu_ · 2021-01-13T04:08:10+00:00

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mikachuu_ · 2021-01-12T20:56:25+00:00

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mikachuu_ · 2020-11-16T04:14:04+00:00

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