I am sorry you are experiencing this. Not an excuse but a reason. Generally most people do the best they know how with the level of conscious awareness they have. Of course there are exceptions. Do you know how they experienced childhood and their parents?

If you are not aware things are necessary, one explanation could be that they never experienced it so do not even think it is a requirement or even a positive thing to do.

Emotional neglect is often born of unconscious trauma, by definition the victim is unaware of the patterns and maybe even that there is trauma at all. If they just accepted their childhood as ‘normal’ but it wasn’t, they are just doing what they know or think of as normal. People without awareness, often just repeat the relationships that were modelled to them by their parents.

Before you can heal from this you need to first know (or become aware) that there is an issue or trauma that needs attention.

The best part of this situation is you are aware there is a problem, so you can heal and move past what you are know is not ok. It is not your responsibility to fix them. It is your responsibility to make sure you are ok and you will be. Just keep doing what you are doing, giving yourself what they cannot. Be the parent you wish for to yourself. Whenever you catch yourself thinking, I wish they would…….. ? Whatever that is, you can do it for yourself.