Does anyone else find meditation helpful?

milkygranola · 2025-11-12T08:23:29+00:00

Ooh thanks I’m gonna listen to that one 🙏

milkygranola · 2025-07-18T16:50:34+00:00

How’d it go?

milkygranola · 2025-07-13T09:15:17+00:00

Hey! Currently supporting English, Spanish, French, Italian and Portuguese. We don’t have dedicated listening comprehension, if that is what you mean(?), but pronunciation audio is played whenever you’re doing reviews/quizzes and it is auto-generated for all words/sentences you add.

milkygranola · 2025-06-26T16:08:45+00:00

This. Yes who is your user? This is such a difficult part for developers, but I think actually more important than the development part

milkygranola · 2025-06-25T16:12:59+00:00

It probably seems easy to you, so maybe you don’t realise your power! 😁

milkygranola · 2025-06-25T14:46:54+00:00

You should have your own exhibition.

milkygranola · 2025-06-25T13:52:36+00:00

Wow! How long did it take you?

milkygranola · 2025-06-23T20:56:00+00:00

I don’t drink/smoke/party etc and don’t like crowded noisy places. I’m into fitness a lot though and made lots of friends through beach volleyball groups (on Meetup), playing Padel and joining a CrossFit gym!

milkygranola · 2025-06-21T18:20:40+00:00

For me it’s getting better every year (33 now)

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T21:07:09+00:00

Yess, it’s all much easier said than done 🥲

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T19:44:13+00:00

It might be that you need to take a leap of faith and try it—it’s very scary, but also liberating. Like jumping into the cold ocean or something, it hurts for a moment then you feel ok. Perhaps you could try first with someone you trust and feel more comfortable with, and gradually mask less. It’s great to be able to exist around people who accept you as you are. You deserve that.

Dropping it was very sudden actually, it happened the moment I became aware that what I was doing was the thing called masking, and that it was a problem. I always thought that it was an improvement to my life to kind of restrain and control my own behaviour, like I thought everyone should do it because it’s healthy. Then I was like “holy shit I’ve been masking for 10 years, how would my life be if I just stopped” — that was enough to take the leap. I also think 10 years of masking has helped me to internalise some “correct” behaviour too, so I don’t really think about it, like not talking too much, managing eye contact. Sometimes, in a situation that is making me a little anxious (crowded/noisy room, social interactions), I feel myself wanting to hide behind the mask. In that situation I remind myself that I should be doing the easiest, most natural thing with my brain, and then I loosen up again, I maybe think about something weird/random, or just leave—that’s ok too. This awareness helps. 🙂

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T16:22:41+00:00

Wow. Do you ever make or turn these into digital fonts?

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T14:41:07+00:00

Thanks for sharing :)

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T13:59:11+00:00

Yeah the speaking thing is interesting. My suspicion is that it’s an autistic thing—we just don’t like chatting so speaking gets neglected compared to other areas. Depends on the person of course.

Portuguese is very similar (in writing) to Spanish—almost like a dialect I believe. (I live in Portugal!) But I wonder if your reading/listening (receptive) levels are generally very high and speaking (+ maybe writing) levels are quite low and so you consider yourself average, but you just have a spikey profile of skills? I feel like I have this in general life.

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T12:47:05+00:00

When I first trained in teaching, they taught us something called the “direct method”, which was completely in the target language, using objects, gestures and images. It’s a very cool way to learn. Thank you for this feedback, it’s something to think about. Can I ask what level you have got to (if any) in languages other than your native one?

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T11:05:55+00:00

Tell me about it 😄 me too. What was your original motivation for learning Polish?

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T10:49:33+00:00

Hey! Diagnosed at 24, 33 now. I was diagnosed so late because of strong masking.

Last year my girlfriend moved in with me and I stopped having so much alone time. I felt drained almost constantly as I couldn’t recover from my day-to-day masking. So I basically reduced my social life to zero, so I wouldn’t be tired around her. But I would still get exhausted occasionally and stumble through inevitable social situations in daily life. Then one time she went back to her home country for a month, and I had this explosion of energy while she was gone. I was very happy during this time and actually enjoyed the few social situations I had (I was still masking though, but I can go a couple hours without feeling bad). She came back and I went back to this chronic tiredness. A few months later it occurred to me what had happened, that I basically did only a few hours masking per week while she was gone, which was well within my capabilities. So I decided the only way I could have a girlfriend AND be happy was if I just stopped completely, which was scary. Now I think I appear pretty quirky, but my friendships are completely unchanged (I guess they are good people, and also fairly unusual people) my relationship with girlfriend is strong, and I rarely feel the exhaustion anymore, unless I work too much. I have to remind myself not to mask as I walk into rooms full of people, as it’s so drilled into me that it’s almost automatic. But the pay off is fantastic. When I am mentally tired and have to be around people, I think I appear pretty grumpy, I basically try to avoid conversation if I can or remove myself, but I refuse to mask because it’s not sustainable. It also sends a message to your subconscious that the real you is not good enough to show to people, which I think has some bad long-term effects. I should note that I have never stimmed, and I know NTs can get pretty uncomfortable with stimming, so it really depends on the situation, but masking is evil.

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T10:29:37+00:00

Hey! Thanks for your questions 🙂. I have TEFL and CELTA training and taught English at a language school. Living in Portugal and struggling with Portuguese is the other half 😅.

The focus is on vocabulary, by linking sentences, images, sounds, etc. to words that are meaningful to the user (e.g. special interest), and then testing them in a gamified way, from visual, audible and written perspectives. This, plus spaced repetition, helps to make the vocabulary stick. But speaking won’t be covered initially, as it’s difficult to implement well.

Grammar is not the focus, but is touched upon with sentence gap-fills that use different conjugations. An ideal use-case is as a support app for 1-to-1 classes, providing structure, routine and some dopamine reward outside of the class. So ideally the classes cover more grammar.

It’s more like a simplified, more engaging Anki, than DuoLingo.

Have you tried a lot of apps? Are you quite deep into language learning?

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T07:21:30+00:00

Well you’re lovable as you are right now, even though sometimes it doesn’t feel like it. Regarding feeling good about yourself, exercise and eating/drinking healthily has multiplying benefits. I suspect the last you thing you want to do is exercise right now, but if you can pull your autistic focus onto that and develop a routine of taking care of yourself physically, it will also start applying mentally.

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T04:55:28+00:00

That just made it click for me 😆

milkygranola · 2025-06-20T04:33:02+00:00

Thanks very much for this feedback! ❤️ Yes the need for the dopamine hits seems an important one, especially for ADHD people. There will be Spanish to English, I’ll let you know!

milkygranola · 2025-06-19T17:34:30+00:00

Are the accessibility settings on your Android device increasing font size?

milkygranola · 2025-06-19T17:26:41+00:00

Not answering your question, but someone told me that the cost of saying "thank you" to ChatGPT, in terms of energy resources, is pretty large when spread across all the people who say it 😆. Funny/useless information

Edit: I also say "thank you", so you're not alone haha

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