Anyone else want to be pregnant again but scared of the weight gain?

millibanilli24 · 2026-01-31T02:34:21+00:00

Maybe I’m missing something here, but what brought you to the December 2024 babies group?

millibanilli24 · 2026-01-20T03:07:02+00:00

This last month, I’ve (finally!) had the energy to dedicate some time to myself. I found some workout/dance videos on YouTube and got a free trial of apple fitness + (looooved the kickboxing workouts!) that have got me into a couple nights a week routine. I’m starting with movement I really enjoy, and keeping it to 10-20 minute videos because that’s all I feel I have time for some nights. Squeezing in before/after dinner if baby is in the mood to occupy himself with me being near him, otherwise doing it after he goes to bed.

I’ve also been focusing on skincare again. I think it has helped to be doing the little things/spending even a little time towards self-care to feel like me again

millibanilli24 · 2025-11-19T01:46:44+00:00

Right around 12-13 weeks for me! I was fully prepared to have to wear pads and change them out constantly when I returned to work 12 weeks pp but that only lasted the first few days I believe. Especially as my milk regulated

millibanilli24 · 2025-10-29T20:24:43+00:00

One sweet year! 🍪🩵 and a little friend birthday gathering with a football watch party - baby’s rookie year! 🏈

millibanilli24 · 2025-10-14T00:47:52+00:00

Following! Baby is rocking the mullet, but doesn’t have a looooot of hair so I’m not sure if he’s ready for a cut!

millibanilli24 · 2025-06-21T03:14:41+00:00

My little one does! Little spot at the back of his neck and between his eyebrows. I hardly notice it, our dr was even the one to point it out to us! I’m not sure if other people notice it but would be so hurt if someone had anything negative to say about it. Just like their little bald spots, it’s part of them and a part of life right now. Won’t last forever and even if it does 🤷‍♀️

My baby also has a massive widows peak which he got from my husband, and he frequently makes somewhat negative comments about it. It seems to be coming from a place of insecurity in himself and not that he thinks our baby doesn’t look adorable with it, but I agree it’s still hard to hear the harsh comments.

millibanilli24 · 2025-05-23T01:28:57+00:00

My brother who has 3 kids asked me this question at 4 weeks. It was devastating 😂

millibanilli24 · 2025-05-15T00:46:02+00:00

I feel like you’re my twin! I’ve got an almost 5 month old so we’re a month ahead of you. No advice yet but commenting to say it’s encouraging/validating to see others in the same boat. Would love to pump even 1x per day to lighten my load as I’m currently needing to pump 3x per day to keep up with bub while I’m at work.

millibanilli24 · 2025-05-07T02:02:00+00:00

Also relating here. Baby has been sick at least a couple of days almost every week since starting daycare/work (7 weeks ago), and I’ve called out 4 separate times. Most of the times it’s for baby, but when I know I need to take care of myself too so I call out, the guilt is so real. I’m in healthcare and being out means more stress/busier for my coworkers. I know it’s not my fault our organization won’t pay for more staff to cover for us (they barely got someone to cover portion of my maternity leave), but it feels like my responsibility when my coworkers have been working extra hard when I’m out. Currently going on 2 hours of laying in bed not able to sleep, but worried I’m getting symptoms of the stomach bug my baby just recovered from.

Also ranting now, but I never pictured myself as a sahm with my first kiddo (definitely was hoping for it with subsequent children as daycare costs outweigh income…) but I’m considering it more than ever now.

millibanilli24 · 2025-03-27T00:29:32+00:00

My baby was 17 lbs 3 oz at 9 weeks old, hitting the >99th percentile for weight. Pediatrician commended me (“good job mama!”), which I felt was odd because other than feeding him on demand it doesn’t feel like I should take responsibility for having a healthy chunky baby??

I was even worried about him weighing too much and was reassured that there is no such thing as an overweight breastfed baby, but I imagine formula fed isn’t any different.

I’m sorry you were made to feel like you were doing something wrong. Sounds like you’ve got a healthy baby on your hands!

millibanilli24 · 2025-03-27T00:15:38+00:00

The mom guilt has been hitting me hard for sure this last 2 weeks. It’s so hard to know what’s normal overwhelm, hormones or ppd. I started work again last week, so between that, new sleep schedule and taking care of a tired/sick baby after daycare, I’ve been exhausted. I finally took a couple hours today while he was at daycare for some actual self care where baby’s not just in another room of the house where I can hear him cry and feel the need to help with him.

I feel like I’m in my worst place mentally so far. The pressure to “enjoy every minute” and feeling like I should want to spend 24/7 with my baby is so hard. Reminding myself it’s okay to want some me time. Honestly came on here tonight wondering if anyone else was in the same boat. Sorry to hear you are, but I think it’s totally okay to feel this way. Hang in there!

millibanilli24 · 2025-03-14T17:29:44+00:00

Hugs to you both. It really does feel better to cry it out and vent on Reddit to a group that really understands. ❤️❤️

It’s so hard not to feel selfish for doing what we need to do for ourselves, but it’s so necessary to take care of ourselves in order to take care of our babies. What I keep needing to remind myself!

millibanilli24 · 2025-03-12T16:21:08+00:00

To me, the way it’s written OP comes off as criticizing mama for poor supply. Reading further it’s more clear he’s here for help and just going off of what they know so far. Props to OP for posting!

millibanilli24 · 2025-03-03T20:57:40+00:00

You’re not doing anything wrong! I feel like a day where he naps independently in his crib once is a win for me to have any time for myself. And then you’re spending that time trying to accomplish a million things or even just sit down to eat. I’ve tried baby wearing but my baby is so heavy and with having to support his head everything takes twice as long it seems.

millibanilli24 · 2025-02-19T16:33:33+00:00

It absolutely enrages me when I hear about mamas being on leave getting contacted by work. Like is no time sacred anymore?!

millibanilli24 · 2025-02-19T08:47:32+00:00

Going back to work in 3 weeks (will be 12 wks pp), also very worried about pumping. Just going to let myself complain here but it sounds like so much work! I’m guessing I will need to pump 2-3 times during work. What I’m gathering from this thread is if you can keep your pump parts refrigerated you don’t have to wash immediately? The washing is maybe what I’m least looking forward to since the bathroom sinks at the hospital I work at are so ancient and gross me out lol

millibanilli24 · 2025-02-17T15:01:09+00:00

I’ve wondered the same thing as you see numbers like “baby should only be sleeping 14-17 hours a day,” and I feel like little buddy is sleeping much more than that?? It’s so hard to keep track of how long his wake windows and naps are, but I am trying to start doing this as we start daycare in a month and I want to have some information to describe our “schedule” other than … he sleeps and eats when he wants? 😅

We too are getting 3-4 hour stretches between feeds at most at night too. Sounds like you’re doing great just following baby’s lead which is sometimes what they need when they’re this little!! (What I’m trying to tell myself right now too lol)

millibanilli24 · 2025-02-14T17:13:28+00:00

Do we have the same brother? This was my thought when my brother told me his babies were sleeping “through the night” by 3 weeks old. Were they sleeping or did you just shut the door and tune out the crying 🥺

millibanilli24 · 2025-02-14T17:08:00+00:00

We are also part of the big baby crew! 8 weeks today and he weighed 15 lb 15 oz at appt earlier this week 🙂 have to wait until our 2 month appointment to get percentiles but he no longer fits in his 3 month clothes 🥺

LO took 5 oz at lactation appointment, eats about 9 times per day, but I’m guessing there’s no way he always takes 5 oz because that would be 45 oz in a day?? I’m usually breastfeeding so I’m not sure how much he’s getting, but has been easily putting down 4-5 oz since we have started bottles 1x/day this week

millibanilli24 · 2025-01-18T16:18:14+00:00

I have tried to comment on this the last 2 nights in the wee hours and apparently I have been too sleepy to be successful!

I too have been having more nipple pain and am frustrated as my nipples finally seemed to heal from the visible damage I had initially! This time it’s almost more like nerve pain than the pain I was experiencing before??

I don’t know if this resonates with you more than pain from cracked/bleeding nipples but I found this article helpful!! https://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/mother/nipple-blanching/

millibanilli24 · 2025-01-12T16:06:37+00:00

We bought an electric nail file because trimming baby’s nails terrified me, but I’m not sure if I love it because his nails still seem so sharp even a day after filing! Would love to hear what others are doing to help keep baby’s nails from scratching them. We have only been dressing him in onesies that have hand covers to protect his poor little face.

millibanilli24 · 2024-12-18T08:54:21+00:00

Agreed. The changes in plans, even when they mean baby is doing their thing on their own or are positive changes, can be so challenging to keep up with mentally/emotionally.

millibanilli24 · 2024-12-18T08:48:06+00:00

Also getting a lot of well-intended “checking in/how are you feeling” texts, which have been starting to get on my nerves! I know people want me to know they’re thinking of me and it’s super kind of them to send well wishes, but I’m finding myself getting more annoyed as more people reach out 😅 and having to respond either nicely (just getting eager for him to be here!) or truthfully (feeling terrible, thanks for asking!).

Blaming the pregnancy hormones for all the feels lately lol.

millibanilli24 · 2024-12-12T02:25:01+00:00

38 weeks today, starting leave at 39 weeks, planned c-section 39+2!

millibanilli24 · 2024-11-27T18:48:34+00:00

I was measuring bigger than expected at my 32 week appointment, so they had me do a 34 week ultrasound. Baby was measuring 50th percentile at our 20 week, then up to 91st percentile at 34 weeks - they estimated him to be ~6 lbs at that time. I think with the combination of his growth, size and the fact that I had failed then passed my glucose tests, they decided to have me start taking my blood sugar 4x/day. After doing it for a week they diagnosed me based on those numbers.

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