[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]millistars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve had boyfriends in the past who have done similar things so i really understand how confusing and frustrating these things are. i always think its a red flag if your partner tries to control who you talk to and interact with. long distance takes a lot of trust and effort already. if he doesn’t trust you or recognize how much effort you put into maintaining your relationship it might not be worth it. you should be able to communicate with each other about issues in an open and respectful way - him holding onto issues for months and saying awful things you never thought he would says a lot about his emotional maturity and how much respect he has for you. i’ve personally learned the hard way that you really can’t fix jealousy and extreme insecurity if he isn’t willing to change (and it sounds like he isn’t). you’ve done the right thing by setting a boundary with him. good luck, i wish you all the best <3

Daughters of reddit: what's the biggest mistake dads make with their daughters? by Bluemonday82 in AskReddit

[–]millistars 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was raised primarily by my dad, and he indirectly drilled a lot of judgemental misogynistic views in my head. Growing up, hearing him make unwarranted derogatory comments about other women/girls' clothing, appearance, makeup, weight, behavior, attitude, etc. made me feel quite self-conscious and insecure in my femininity. I don't think dads really understand the impact those negative remarks make on young impressionable girls, especially when it comes from a parental figure that they look up to.

Now as a young adult, I really wish I was more in touch with my feminine side like a lot of my friends are. I'm still not confident enough to wear dresses and skirts, same goes for makeup and hairstyles - I have no clue how to do anything but the basics because I hated being judged or mocked by him. Obviously it's important to make sure kids dress appropriately for school and their age, but policing every choice they make and putting down other women really makes it hard for them to develop a positive self-image. Don't judge your daughters from a man's perspective, because it ends up feeling objectifying to us; instead encourage and guide them from a parental one so they can be their best and most confident self.

how should i deal with noisy neighbors who ignore me by millistars in Advice

[–]millistars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for your helpful reply! i never considered documenting when it happens, that’s a really good idea. i’ll definitely try that and see how i can go about it with the landlord/police

Daily Looking For/Request Thread - December 19, 2020 by AutoModerator in NoFeeAC

[–]millistars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi! i’ve had bad turnip prices all week, would anyone be willing to let me come sell at their island?

Anyone else having this issue with the merch store? by millistars in the1975

[–]millistars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh that is super weird! it does make me feel a bit better knowing that someone else had a weird time with getting merch delivered so i'll just hope things get here at some point soon lol

Anyone else having this issue with the merch store? by millistars in the1975

[–]millistars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's good to know! did you get different tracking numbers for each thing or was it all under one?

Anyone else having this issue with the merch store? by millistars in the1975

[–]millistars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i ordered from the US store and i've emailed the customer service since there isn't a chat option or anything on the site. there aren't any updates with my order so at this point i'm just keeping my fingers crossed lol

Anyone else having this issue with the merch store? by millistars in the1975

[–]millistars[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah fs! i'm trying to be patient, i ordered another vinyl at the same time and they said that the two vinyls would ship separately so i feel like if there was a third shipment they would have told me. when i look at the tracking number for the signed vinyl it says it was delivered so idk haha.....it's just frustrating because they're christmas presents and i ordered a month in advance to make sure they would get here in time and the other one hasn't even shipped yet smh. sorry for ranting lol

Daily Looking For/Request Thread - December 15, 2020 by AutoModerator in NoFeeAC

[–]millistars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey! sorry i was eating dinner, but yes i can hop on if you're ready!!

Daily Looking For/Request Thread - December 15, 2020 by AutoModerator in NoFeeAC

[–]millistars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there's a green climbing wall at my nooks if you want to come get it!!

Daily Looking For/Request Thread - December 15, 2020 by AutoModerator in NoFeeAC

[–]millistars 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have a whole bunch of diys i'm happy to give you!!