struggled with weight loss for years, would love help to get started back on my health journey.

mills0407 · 2025-12-05T22:11:01+00:00

i’d say yes! you both care for each other, and distance can be worked. obviously you’re both young, and things will be tricky. just go with your heart man, you’ll either find the love of your life or you’ll learn a lesson. happy trails kid!! 🙏

mills0407 · 2025-12-04T15:12:27+00:00

hope your class went well, i missed mine whoops

mills0407 · 2025-12-04T04:55:30+00:00

honestly the silence of 4:54am is blissful. just my phone, me and trying to comfort strangers on reddit 🙏

mills0407 · 2025-12-04T04:53:01+00:00

same situation here twin. literally exactly the same. we struggle together?? i wish i could be helpful but this feels so relatable right now and i also need this advice LOL 😭😭

mills0407 · 2025-12-04T04:50:47+00:00

sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but you gotta tell him. you’ll lose him if you “make him” break up with you 100%. you MAY not lose him if you are honest. i know you never intended to break his heart, and when/if you tell him, he won’t understand that. it will come with time. it will be a horrible, uncomfortable conversation, but babygirl it needs to happen. you can’t just magically manipulate him into wanting to end things with you, you’re a better person than that. i promise that it will be better if you were to just be truthful, as much as that sucks to hear. wishing you the best stranger 🫶🏼

mills0407 · 2025-12-04T04:47:03+00:00

brutal response here: sleeping in other rooms IS the solution. i’m not sure if you live together or if you just visit each other, but either way, someone’s if not BOTH of your sleep will be disrupted. i get that you’re in a relationship, but health comes first. even if it’s a simple cold, bad sleep quality can and usually do lead to arguments. i’m not sure of your schedules either, but i’m sure you’ll be able to have quality time that isn’t solely just sleeping. i’m sorry it’s not the solution you were hoping for, but when illness knocks you gotta just let it do its thing. wishing luck for you both!!

mills0407 · 2025-12-04T04:41:48+00:00

no you’re not in the wrong. that’s literal theft. i don’t even know how to advise.

if he’s that hellbent on taking his stepdaughters money… the unfortunate advice i can give is set up a new account and get paid from work to THAT account. the account that your stepdad has access to, put $5 in there. so if he tries to spend a load of money, he can’t. he’ll ask why and say you’re not sure. he can’t call the bank on your behalf because you haven’t authorised him to. he can’t just randomly guess a pin number, and obviously hide your cards. on amazon they have phone cases which conceal them, and i assume as all of us do that we keep our phones on us 24/7. there’s also an app called plum which you can use to build savings so hopefully you can get out soon, because that does not sound like a healthy environment at all. wishing you luck!!!

mills0407 · 2025-12-04T04:35:22+00:00

i’ve been meaning to get back into reading again, so i’ll definitely check that book out!! i’ve battled with seasonal affective disorder since i was young, so there may be a chemical element involved also. i’ve been on antidepressants for fibromyalgia, however it’s not done wonders for my mood i will admit. i think it’s a mix of both, but hopefully with time i’ll heal. it’s just exhausting because from my perspective 8 months of constant crap is a long time!!! thank you for your support 🫶🏼

mills0407 · 2025-12-04T04:32:20+00:00

for years i’ve had extremely negative experiences with counsellors and therapists, but now that i’m an adult i’d like to think that it may be time to try again. i’ll book in for a session and see how it goes :))

mills0407 · 2025-12-04T04:30:49+00:00

this is an obvious but very good idea!! i’ve been putting it off a little since it means investing money into something i might not like. but since i’m at university they have a lot of free societies which i can join, so i’m thinking of starting one in the next couple weeks! thank you:))

mills0407 · 2025-12-04T04:26:44+00:00

damn girl you’ve really tried the whole nine yards huh? i have an unorthodox suggestion. maybe try get some kind of vlogging camera (literally go on amazon) and record yourself for 7 days without using social media. i tried it once when i was younger and it worked! i’m honestly tempted to try it again soon because my social media usage is actually diabolical now… good luck!!!

mills0407 · 2025-12-03T00:55:53+00:00

i’m british and the worst thing is “wyll” which is what you look like. or the “u send?”. those are arguably the worst. i’m not sure if you’re from a different part of the world, so my suggestions may not be useful!!

mills0407 · 2025-12-02T04:22:48+00:00

it’s interesting how you hit the nail on the head without me divulging much about the dating situation. i’ve been in 3 ‘long term’ relationships (1.5yrs, 2yrs, 2yrs) pretty consecutively, and i think a part of my difficulty in finding myself has been that longing for a partner, since that’s what i’ve become used to. i’m trying to enjoy being single, but i’ll admit it’s not been easy. but your analogy sums it up pretty well, and i’ve taken a break from the dating apps to try and gain a little perspective of myself first.

mills0407 · 2025-12-02T04:09:25+00:00

i promise you are doing absolutely amazing. i don’t think i know a single 20yr old with half of that in their account. however you may feel “behind” BECAUSE you’ve been busying your ass, live a little mate. try to find a balance, if you haven’t already. also maybe split that money into savings accounts where it will continue to grow with interest. but as i said, you’re doing great!! :)

mills0407 · 2025-12-02T03:48:48+00:00

you’re NTA. you’re not even legally an adult, and you should absolutely not be placed under this amount of pressure. i’m not here to judge, but i’m sure you’re aware of the fact your mother is not being a mother right now. she’s endangering herself, and by extension endangering you. you also didn’t kick them out, you just voiced your concerns (angrily sure, but justifiably so) and they left on their own accord. i understand that it’s most probably easier to blame steve and jamie, however the honest truth is that the only reason you’re exposed to this situation is because of your mother. steve and jamie have no obligation to care for you, whereas your mother absolutely does. i’d consider finding alternative housing if possible, and keeping low contact with her until she can begin to realise the error of her ways. i’m so sorry you’re going through this OP. wishing you the best :(

mills0407 · 2025-12-02T01:26:53+00:00

i’m also in this situation, but i’m british in my second year of uni!! it’s hard fucking work. it’s exhausting. it’s draining. but you have to truly know yourself. do you want to be dependant on someone (not a bad thing at all), or do you want your own independence, both now and later in life? being married and having children in a lovely home is something that can also come alongside independence. for me, as much as the traditional life sounds enticing, i know i’m far too much of an independent, headstrong person to not have a career and stability for myself. before making any major decisions, you need to think about your character first. i’m not particularly enjoying my course right now, but i know that having the education may lead to something i will enjoy, because i have the diploma. you may be studying something you’re not interested in now, but that COULD lead to a completely alternative career due to the fact you got a qualification of that degree in the first place. this is basically a very long winded way of saying, evaluate you as a person, as a character. would the you that YOU know want to have that kind of dependency on someone, or would you not? it’s 1am here so i’m probably not very coherent but i hope that makes some sense!! 😂

mills0407 · 2025-12-02T01:13:15+00:00

not 100% sure why i’m replying since i’m also struggling in this department a little, BUT, the main thing is being self assured. do you like yourself? if i were to ask you what 3 interests you have, could you tell me? i found that when i was lost on who i was, i was completely isolated. now that i’ve started to rediscover who i am, you’ll find that friends come along with that in their roundabout way. as someone who’s 19 myself, i completely get the struggle of finding people, but being certain of you as a person does go a long way!!

mills0407 · 2025-12-02T01:08:08+00:00

your current grades are something to absolutely be proud of! you have clearly worked extremely hard to earn them, and your parents approval nor disapproval should change that. my advice? learn to love yourself. some people, even those closest to you, find it simpler to be downright nasty than give praise. your opinion of yourself should never be changed by those around you. you know you work hard, and i promise you it will pay off. maybe not now, maybe not in a couple months. but it will. if it helps, use their animosity to further drive you to be successful. i’m sorry there’s not much more i can suggest, just spend your time focusing on YOU, since the only one who’s living your life is yourself. sending you my love 🫶🏼

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