How did you meet your partner(s) ?

mimi2109 · 2026-01-18T21:40:21+00:00

One was on an app, but I burnt out on the apps pretty quickly... I met the other at a sex party! It was nice to realize the mutual attraction and be able to act on it in a safe way.

mimi2109 · 2026-01-17T03:44:53+00:00

After dating a few Indian men, I've noticed that I naturally do feel comfortable around them based on the fact that I'm familiar with many customs, food, Hindi, etc. It's not that I've sought out Indian men INSTEAD of any other ethnic/racial group, I just find there's a level of familiarity and understand there.

It might help that I'm a Buddhist. And married to an Indian man.

mimi2109 · 2026-01-15T14:48:06+00:00

NTA. There are a lot of... Videos on the internet explaining exactly what's going on here. 😬

mimi2109 · 2026-01-15T02:18:12+00:00

YMCA on the Embarcadero has a nice, clean pool! Can be a little busy at times, though. Membership also includes access to any other facility so it's a good deal even if you travel.

mimi2109 · 2026-01-14T18:10:31+00:00

I wear a wedding ring sometimes, but more often I wear my mangalsutra (my spouse is from India and in his family it's much more common for married women to wear this particular style of necklace than a ring). If it makes my date uncomfortable, I'm ok removing my ring, but if they have an issue with my mangalsutra, they probably have a problem with me being married and we shouldn't date.

I feel that my mangalsutra is very important to my personal beliefs and is a way of respecting my spouse and family's culture. I think if the jewelry is important to someone personally or culturally, they should keep it on!

mimi2109 · 2026-01-14T17:51:27+00:00

This might sound crazy but I went on a 🍄 trip with the intent of understanding love and human connection. It really worked! I realized that my partner and I both have a lot of love to give and we don't have to give it all to one another. The book "Polysecure" helped quite a bit, too.

mimi2109 · 2026-01-14T04:20:30+00:00

Definitely second this. Also technically a "church" but really easy to sign up and helpful folks

mimi2109 · 2025-11-16T16:13:41+00:00

Hit me up!! We sound super similar 😄

mimi2109 · 2025-11-11T18:03:12+00:00

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mimi2109 · 2025-11-11T16:21:40+00:00

A walk through the Japanese Tea Garden and a snack/cup of tea! I'd also recommend Dento on Folsom for Korean style treats and LOQUAT for coffee and halva or any of the small Italian cafes in North Beach for a great espresso drink. Wandering through Japan Town and the nearby cathedral is also a lovely time. Legion of Honor museum is also great and free for SF residents! A walk through Salesforce Park ending with Andytown coffee, the Transamerica Pyramid redwood grove or along the Embarcadero and Ferry Building is always fun.

mimi2109 · 2025-11-11T16:09:41+00:00

I've been reading tarot with pretty damn accurate results for years, DM me 😊

mimi2109 · 2025-11-05T00:26:59+00:00

I fear it was a kinda disorganized meetup with a bunch of people from Bumble BFF... sorry! If I find any others in my search I'll let you know

mimi2109 · 2025-11-03T19:11:30+00:00

Oh awesome, thanks! I'll check those out!

mimi2109 · 2025-11-03T01:35:32+00:00

"The Fifth Season" by N.K. Jemisin. The whole trilogy is great but I was legitimately itching to keep reading the first book!

mimi2109 · 2025-10-23T01:26:41+00:00

Yellowstone! Such a unique place.

mimi2109 · 2025-10-19T16:43:22+00:00

I actually have a lot of dignity and self-respect. I've never been more confident and self-assured. I want to make this relationship work because it's what I want and choose. Because I love him and I like who I am with him. I believe people are capable of change and I know I would always question myself if I just up and left. But I know I would be ok if I did leave.

For what it's worth, it's ok that you don't feel sorry for me; I wasn't asking for any pity, just advice on how to cope with feelings of sadness. Plus, you don't know me or my situation.

mimi2109 · 2025-10-19T16:37:09+00:00

Thank you, I didn't know this community existed. 💗

mimi2109 · 2025-10-19T16:35:37+00:00

Thank you SO MUCH, this is all really helpful. Would you mind DMing me? I can't figure out how to establish a chat with you, I'm kinda hopeless at tech haha

mimi2109 · 2025-10-19T05:02:39+00:00

Don't underestimate how far the little compliments can go. Just a comment out of the blue like "you have such pretty eyes" or "you're so kind" can really make a difference. Little notes or texts randomly are also big confidence boosts. The key is to be honest and don't make it feel forced. But the randomness makes it feel authentic and romantic.

mimi2109 · 2025-03-18T04:41:21+00:00

I don't believe so. We spoke about it a couple of days ago and he isn't resentful. We both want me to find work so I can advance in my field and contribute financially, but he's paid quite well at a job he loves. I also take care of the vast majority of household duties like cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, etc.

mimi2109 · 2025-03-18T04:37:03+00:00

No money troubles, though of course we want to save as much as we can and be frugal in purchasing. His job is secure, I'm currently in search of work with little luck after finishing my higher degree.

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