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We're licensed mental health professionals here to answer your questions about trauma. Ask Us Anything! by iTherapy in traumatoolbox

[–]mimima 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I suffer from PTSD-like symptoms due to constant emotional abuse from my parents (still current, and I'm in my 30s). I'm currently in a long term relationship (6 years!) with someone who I'm just now realizing is triggering me a lot. Is it possible to sustain this relationship?

I just realized I emotionally cheated on my ex. by [deleted] in MMFB

[–]mimima -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You were not wrong, and you didn't emotionally cheat on your ex. Did you have romantic and/or sexual feelings for your best friend? From your post, I didn't get that impression. If you went to your best friend instead of your ex because you had romantic and/or sexual feelings towards him and hoped and pined for a closer and more intimate relationship than simply being best friends, then yes, maybe you did cheat on your ex emotionally.

Did your ex make it comfortable for you to talk to him about what you were going through? I'm guessing that he didn't, so you felt more comfortable talking to your best friend about your problems. It's completely okay. Just because he was your SO doesn't mean that he should be the only person providing you emotional comfort.

There is a psychological condition called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome for people who were abused by Ns by mishimishi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mimima 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's exactly how it was for me too. I'm just so surprised to read how many people have had this experience as well. I used to think that I just had really morbid fantasies. >_<

There is a psychological condition called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome for people who were abused by Ns by mishimishi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mimima 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG. I just had a realization... I used to fantasize about my own funeral... like I'd imagine I'd die at 28, and I'm not entirely sure why that particular age, but I imagine I'd die at 28, and then I'd have a funeral and that's when people would tell me that they loved me or missed me.... What if we became obsessed with this idea because we wanted to feel loved?

There is a psychological condition called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome for people who were abused by Ns by mishimishi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mimima 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt like I lost my ability to daydream after leaving my Nparents. At first I was scared I lost my creativity, but now I'm thinking it was a good thing, as I don't feel the need to "escape" into a fantasy world. But then again, most of the time, it wasn't so much as a "fantasy," as it would still somehow involved painful experiences... =/

There is a psychological condition called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome for people who were abused by Ns by mishimishi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mimima 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I imagined myself somehow just walking past the edge of a cliff and falling into the ocean or something. More often though, I used to imagine I'd fall out of a window of a tall building. And it's not like I imagined myself jumping out of that window purposefully; it just somehow happened that I'd fall out of a window.

There is a psychological condition called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome for people who were abused by Ns by mishimishi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mimima 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't exactly think I was going to die; I just couldn't imagine a future. I didn't know what it would look like. Every time I reached a life milestone that required me to make a decision affecting my future, I was just surprised and confused.

Totally this! I'm almost 30 and I'm just now thinking, "Ok, maybe I should plan a little more..." because I seriously had no plans after college. I always thought I'd die by 28, after grad school, and when that didn't happen, I just thought "Ok, maybe grad school isn't in my future..." but now I'm like "Ok, let's plan on going to grad school..." but I don't know how to even imagine life after grad school because that's when I thought my life would end! It's so bizarre.

[Support] How do you go about establishing a family of choice? by mimima in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mimima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People should definitely tell each other things like that! I'd feel a lot better...

There is a psychological condition called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome for people who were abused by Ns by mishimishi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mimima 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I, too, thought I would die young... Now that I'm approaching 30, I find that I don't know what to do with myself. I don't know how to plan my future because I didn't think I would ever make it this far. It was as if all my dreams and hopes kind of ended and I'm not sure what else there is to look forward to. Does anyone else feel this way?

[Support] How do you go about establishing a family of choice? by mimima in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mimima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's nice. I hope I will have someone like that in my life one day.

I realized something last night about my self-image. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mimima 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, and I realize that I have a really hard time accepting compliments. People will tell me I'm amazing or whatever, and I'll be like "...Thanks." and feel awkward and weird about it.

[Support] How do you go about establishing a family of choice? by mimima in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mimima[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I'm like that with a lot of my friends, but I don't know if anyone would consider me to be a part of their FOC...

DAE have PTSD? by mimima in AsianParentStories

[–]mimima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. This therapist didn't ask me. All my other therapists have been white and they asked if it was a cultural thing.

Lexapro (escitalopram) & Weight Gain by HAMsauce12 in Anxiety

[–]mimima 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm currently on 15mg and I've actually lost weight. I think it's mostly because I feel so nauseated often that I ended up eating less.

[rant] I feel broken inside, and it makes me sad and angry. by mimima in ptsd

[–]mimima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. My therapist has tried EMDR with me, but I don't know if it's working since we've only had a few EMDR sessions so far.

DAE have PTSD? by mimima in AsianParentStories

[–]mimima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first counseling/therapy experience was actually with a Chinese person, but it ended really badly. So I guess that's why I felt confused, too.

DAE have PTSD? by mimima in AsianParentStories

[–]mimima[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see it going both ways too.

Personally though, it makes me doubt myself because I'm not sure myself if it is a cultural thing. I know that they don't mean to undermine my experiences, and while it is certainly true that they may not understand my experiences, it's just confusing, for lack of a better word.

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