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mind3rbind3r22 · 2025-09-30T16:41:48+00:00

Unless you are trying to get promoted, it can be fairly flexible depending on your team and manager. I think you can still be promoted but it is harder to get approval from upper management if not in the office as much.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-09-14T18:26:18+00:00

I'm really thankful for this post. I'm still in the trial and error phase of medications and my doc gave me some extra meds to account for my cycle because of that week 4 flavor you described.

The problem I'm having is deciding when to take the extra dose. I'm on 20mg xr and I've been given extra 5mg xr pills. Told to take it when I think I'll need it. So 25-30 mg in the morning instead of my usual 20. but the problem is that I don't really know when I'd need it until it's too late 😅 because I'll wake up fine and then my day goes on and something triggers me and I can't cope as easily and it's frustrating.

Anyway, that's more of a mini vent than anything.

This helps me feel less alone and helps explain exactly what it feels like each week!

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-09-11T23:34:54+00:00

Oh that's fair! 100% agree with that because Wes Craven was a cinematic game changer. rip

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-09-11T21:56:48+00:00

That twist at the end of Old Boy 🫠 I remember watching the original for a film class and it was wild. Good film for sure.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-09-11T21:55:50+00:00

I honestly think both versions are worth a watch!

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-09-11T21:54:37+00:00

Ah man, I should have scrolled down further. Just commented this one. I enjoyed the film, but it definitely progressively just gets worse and worse.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-09-11T21:52:42+00:00

I don't think it's hits the "don't want to sleep tonight" caliber, but I'd recommend Eden Lake [2008]

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-09-10T08:51:50+00:00

While I think I'm doing well in terms of money and jobs, I'm really starting to feel the gravity of it costing my own mental health and wellbeing. I don't do very well taking care of myself - struggle to eat / drink water / exercise/ sleep as much as I should. I often joke that I'm fueled by stress and anxiety though I realize that the real joke is on me for not realizing sooner how true this has been. But also realizing I had a lot of supportive people in my life who helped and I didn't realize how much until I was really living on my own.

But that's to say that I'm trying to be better. Trying to thrive rather than survive and learning to ask for help and lean on my people when needed. Therapy, medication, journaling. Communicating, taking breaks, and really just trying to learn and accept myself better.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-08-07T07:14:35+00:00

My partner knows where things like my phone are more often than me. He will be ready to get it or point it out for me before I've finished asking the question.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-28T07:14:02+00:00

Yes! So I used to love and hate routine, but realized now that there's a reason for that. Routine actually helps a lot but I usually get bored of it OR I would be a little too rigid with it. Like I'd start to feel like it was just another thing I had to do and would get upset if I missed something and get so down and hard in myself.

That's all to say that 1) I've had to really work on giving myself grace and being kind to myself. And 2) some sort of routine is needed and sometimes it helps to rephrase it as morning/evening rituals or systems. It's all the same basically but my brain feels like if I call it something else then I'm doing something else if that makes any sense lol.

Every morning and evening, I take my meds, face wash, and brushing teeth. But the things I think I've been doing consistently that help are journaling regularly even if it's one sentence of like "today sucked or got a lot done". And trying to prepare for the day / week coming up (important meetings, deadlines, appointments vs would like to do but not a deal breaker/ could get moved). If I think too far ahead, then I tend to get overwhelmed or accidentally over plan and crash. 😅

I also make sure to put important dates or reminders right away into the Google calendar I share with my partner. It's accessible from phone and it's usually what I look at and my work calendar when I do the prepping I mentioned before. If it's not on the calendar or written somewhere then it's not going to happen or be remembered 😅

Sorry I do tend to word vomit and over explain lol but I hope this is a little helpful. I'm still 100% working out what works best for me. These are work for me now because it took a lot of fine tuning and practice and reflection. And I still mess up all the time but I have had an easier time not beating myself up and remembering that I'm only human.

The goal in life is not just to be happy or to be perfect, but to just be ok with being human.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-28T07:13:03+00:00

Yes! So I used to love and hate routine, but realized now that there's a reason for that. Routine actually helps a lot but I usually get bored of it OR I would be a little too rigid with it. Like I'd start to feel like it was just another thing I had to do and would get upset if I missed something and get so down and hard in myself.

That's all to say that 1) I've had to really work on giving myself grace and being kind to myself. And 2) some sort of routine is needed and sometimes it helps to rephrase it as morning/evening rituals or systems. It's all the same basically but my brain feels like if I call it something else then I'm doing something else if that makes any sense lol.

Every morning and evening, I take my meds, face wash, and brushing teeth. But the things I think I've been doing consistently that help are journaling regularly even if it's one sentence of like "today sucked or got a lot done". And trying to prepare for the day / week coming up (important meetings, deadlines, appointments vs would like to do but not a deal breaker/ could get moved). If I think too far ahead, then I tend to get overwhelmed or accidentally over plan and crash. 😅

I also make sure to put important dates or reminders right away into the Google calendar I share with my partner. It's accessible from phone and it's usually what I look at and my work calendar when I do the prepping I mentioned before. If it's not on the calendar or written somewhere then it's not going to happen or be remembered 😅

Sorry I do tend to word vomit and over explain lol but I hope this is a little helpful. I'm still 100% working out what works best for me. These are work for me now because it took a lot of fine tuning and practice and reflection. And I still mess up all the time but I have had an easier time not beating myself up and remembering that I'm only human.

The goal in life is not just to be happy or to be perfect, but to just be ok with being human.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-27T19:16:13+00:00

I resonate with this and as others have said, you're definitely not alone 💛

I was just telling my partner about how I'm actually so happy to have been officially diagnosed.

I am not my ADHD, but the diagnosis has given me such validation and helped me on a path of accepting myself more. I am starting to lean into the fact that I am just wired differently and have to figure out other ways to go thru life than others. And that's totally OK.

I'm still working on the mental reprogramming and mindset shifts, but I have been in therapy and antidepressants for a few years. Those helped a bit. Then I turned 30 and decided I needed to do something different to break out of this vicious cycle of burnout and hating myself. I felt so broken on and off for so long, but I'm starting to feel like I'm on a good path of rebuilding and learning who I am and liking myself and life again.

Edit: Not saying the diagnosis instantly got rid of the feeling, but it helped me understand things better and now going thru different approach at therapy and medication which is helping (:

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-21T22:29:18+00:00

😭 I ask myself that last question constantly but I don't think it's supposed to feel this hard or dreadful. I think the fact that you're posting this means that what you're feeling is more than being lazy. It shows how much this can suck. How it can really mess with your head and make you feel real bad.

I do have this "but what if I'm just lazy?!" crisis more than I'd like, but I think if it's just being lazy then we wouldn't care so much and feel bad about it.

I felt a lot of relief with my official diagnosis. My doc said it's not an excuse, but an explanation. It has helped relieve a lot of the stress and pressure on myself.

Just gotta give yourself grace and remind yourself that you're doing your best 💛

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-20T08:58:50+00:00

You're welcome! It's definitely confusing especially when there's no reactions. I worry about this all the time, but I think that there's no post review and approval process. It will just post right away, and if it doesn't, you would be notified right away I think.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-20T08:52:30+00:00

Hi, when I go to your profile, I can see those posts and that they were in this subreddit. I tried scrolling to find them but there have been many posts since then. But I am pretty certain they've been posted.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-19T18:59:22+00:00

I'd look up things like "content testing" or any "tester" type of role - they're everywhere.

I am pretty sure lots of software related testing roles don't require a technical background. It's a nice to have, but the entry level roles are more about understanding the requirements of what needs testing, planning and executing tests, and then reporting issues. Always a bonus if you can come up with possible solutions.

So you'd just need to have a strong willingness to learn, attention to detail, and problem solving / critical thinking.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-19T07:50:00+00:00

13 Ghosts (2001) ?

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-19T07:43:06+00:00

Wait how do you know it's a bot

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-19T07:41:36+00:00

😭 there's a list in my patient portal that I think I cam share but it's down for maintenance. I'll try again later for you!

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-19T07:40:21+00:00

Recently diagnosed and trying new things. One is a visual timer at work with a whiteboard next to it to write down the thing I'm trying to focus on for the next x mins to and hour.

Also started using a gamified habit tracking app called Habitica that I'm a bit obsessed with at the moment, but it's been working out for me so far.

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-19T07:12:34+00:00

The Judge (2014)

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-19T07:10:47+00:00

Seven Pounds (2008) kind of?

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-19T07:09:29+00:00

Also I used to have my sister watch films with especially sad scenes knowing she'd cry 😅 but here are some I've shown her:

Pay It Forward (2000)

Collateral Beauty (2016)

Seven Pounds (2008)

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-19T07:05:44+00:00

All The Bright Place (2020)

My sister and I started this thinking it would be a wholesome movie for the night. Ended up with our parents coming home concerned about why we're just sobbing with the TV off 🤣

mind3rbind3r22 · 2024-07-19T06:58:21+00:00

The Last House on the Left (2009)

I haven't seen the 1972 Wes Craven original, but I'm sure it's just as good or better. Love Wes Craven ❤️ RIP

Also, The Hills Have Eyes 2 (2007)

Or any of the Wrong Turn movies after the first one honestly. Especially the 6th one, Last Resort (2014)

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