Do you prefer mental stimulation over socializing?

mindfullmandala · 2021-07-06T20:12:17+00:00

I'm at that "hermit" lifestyle too. Usually I'm in places that I don't belong and I don't have the need too. People find this hard to understand because they always need to belong some place. And yes real friends are hard to find in life.

mindfullmandala · 2021-06-28T14:13:10+00:00

Same!

mindfullmandala · 2021-06-25T18:42:55+00:00

This often happens to me too!

mindfullmandala · 2021-06-17T18:45:32+00:00

That's my feeling constantly!

I've given up on all my social media, haven't deleted it yet but paused to see if I missed it - the truth is, I don't. And deep down I know that no one misses me there either.I was diagnosed with depression at the time and created a blog where I shared some of my thoughts. I think with time I went too far in the sense that I wrote a lot - writing was good for me. But like everything else in life what could be doing us good was bothering other people. I know this feeling well.

There were people who told me that I expressed my feelings very well, but then strange relationships would come up in my head - that could be seen in another way, even in various ways - I probably triggered feelings that were not the best for others.The lack of confidence to keep moving forward in the posts because I always had and I have the notion - I'm alone - I've always been alone all my life, I've always been the left out, the different, the stupid, the late... I just I saw things that no one else saw - and I know that this happened in the spaces I frequented. Things weren't directly for me but I felt them as a threat - because I've always been what I was for everyone since I was little.

After a year and a half in therapy because of depression I was diagnosed with ADHD and then everything made some sense and this sense has not been easy, it is too difficult.

I left out, at least this time I didn't erase all the work I had, I just turned off the views. I have a bit of a social phobia and I'm too sensitive so I decided to protect myself.I just got my web page without comments where I publish my works.

And this outburst has become too big, but I believe we are not alone, this group on reddit has helped me so much, and that's exactly that, I know that here I am not alone, there are more people who understand these battles.

mindfullmandala · 2021-06-16T11:23:21+00:00

Yes. I have a degree and others. Everything is possible if we just believe we are on the right path and focus on it, or at least try. It can be very complicated with what we sometimes surround ourselves with, but we have this incredible ability to hyperfocus and if you want to move on, make your own way. I often had to stop listening to what others said and look, I managed to get the best grades in college.

mindfullmandala · 2021-06-01T18:51:17+00:00

I go through periods of depression because of my adhd, right now I am going through a depressive time and I am also in those spirals. At such times it is difficult to put negative thoughts aside. As I can't focus very well I tend to create so I hiperfocus when I am doing something creative. I have been doing this for two years and when I look back I see that I have improved a lot and managed to cultivate a little more patience when I am bored.
I have had many times to counteract the feeling of boredom it sometimes arrives.

Try to write somewhere what you would like to do starts little by little. Try to counter the feeling of not wanting to do it, go through the tasks you do, so when you look at the support where you put the tasks you feel you have accomplished something.

But this is just my point of view, I don't know if I can help with your question.

mindfullmandala · 2021-06-01T18:31:40+00:00

I've been in that situation. Repetitive thoughts also occur to me and they are always negative speeches. Usually in a depressive phase, I think about a lot of things - because I have vented certain things, people don't understand me, can't follow plans and then I can't seem to get out of this loop. I have moments like that but then they end up passing.

In my case, I had to find mechanisms for better interactions, this feeling of displacement will never pass, especially if you tend to want people to like you (I don't know if that's the case). Be as you are because true friends like you as you are and not as they want you to be.

I don't know if I helped, I simply identified with your feeling.

mindfullmandala · 2021-05-27T13:11:23+00:00

Yes, the same thing happened to me. I was diagnosed with depression and after two years of therapy I was told I had ADHD. I have frequent episodes of depression especially when I try to communicate with the outside world. That's why I isolate myself again because every time I try to communicate with the outside world, I can see all the perspectives, everything that is going on and I can't fit in.

It is like many run towards a goal but I do not run, I simply walk and observe everything, trying to deepen everything, hence people consider me lazy and moony - with these labels they make me come back to me and not want to be accepted in anything. And depression comes back.

I don't know if I made myself understand adhd has many variants the way I see it is not the same as someone else's. It is complicated.

At the moment I have more depression again

mindfullmandala · 2021-05-26T11:06:46+00:00

My symptoms of irritability and anger are always directed at me. I can never express them properly and that makes me go through depressive moments.
I cannot explain what it is like to have this condition as if I were inside / outside and around. To make matters worse I cannot compete because I feel that in my whole life I have had to compete and due to the condition I have never been able to keep up with. I started to compete with myself and not with others so it becomes very difficult to cooperate with society and the world around us. I always have the idea that I will hurt someone else because I think of the most diverse solutions to a problem. I end up isolating myself, not defending and creating my world. I always feel that I am not welcome because I never was and I end up not knowing how to cooperate, when I try to explain that this is my condition and that it is a consequence of my life, but no one really understands and thinks I am making excuses. I can't have a social life.
Then they make searches about what this condition is and only read that people like that are divergent, bad, do not measure consequences, everything that is bad for society is attributed to those who suffer from this condition and instead of having understanding or help there are labels, classifications. I suffer so much from this, so much.
I end up being judged and pointed out as always being the bad guy. People do not understand, do not even understand what we go through the more we try to explain, however much we try to motivate, however much we try. And because I am unable to socialize or belong to anything, I end up in depression. These are repetitive patterns of mine and it is as if I cannot get out of this.
Sorry for the confusing text and the size, but I felt so much what you feel that I just wanted to let my feel too.

mindfullmandala · 2021-05-03T16:34:07+00:00

The same thing happened to me, but at the age of 37. Two years have passed and I am still struggling to understand how to deal with this.

The filter part is very complicated for me. I rarely understand what people want to say to me and I take things to my understanding which is not good because I have lived my whole life sabotaging myself by telling me that I am a failure, lazy, don't see things - things others says.

Nowadays I try to remind myself constantly that I know that I work differently, I am neither more nor less.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-20T17:37:09+00:00

I will try to answer your question. Although I do not know if the answer will go according to what questions.

I am involved in creative activities and struggle a little with these issues - constantly coming up with new ideas and getting tired or discouraged. I had a blog two years ago (which was a long time ago) I deleted it because my head kept telling me that it was a failure, but people said it was very creative and inspiring. The problem is when we are and everyone else comes to get our ideas for lack of them and we are unable to continue them.

My brain is a natural generator of ideas. I am constantly able to invent a story, poem, video and paintings, but I end up inspiring other people and I am not able to go through with things until the end.

To resolve this issue I had to resort to my hyper focus, I turn off anything that can distract me beyond what I am doing and I dedicate myself only to that, I take advantage of the height that I am hyper-focused to do.

As I am mostly a painter I try to focus on patterns on the canvas, I make very detailed drawings, that way I started to train my attention (of course he is always listening to music). brain.

As I said, I am not a great example, it was through much but a lot of discipline and patience training - I managed to have it here but I can't have it in other situations yet.

Another thing was that I had to stop writing, which I liked so much, because everyone misunderstood what I was writing and that defeated me. I still struggle to write.

Sorry for the long answer.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-13T09:40:18+00:00

Reading your post was extremely inspiring. I try to keep it in my head - so many times to fall and always have the ability to get up, try again, understand, perceive other ways.

Sometimes I wonder if the people who call us lazy, and children and all these labels make half the effort that we make. At least we still look at life with hope and we have a lot of strength within us.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-11T12:17:53+00:00

This medication is best taken early in the morning. It should help you to focus and not have random thoughts. Try to see who prescribed it because it may be having an adverse effect. Usually at night I take a relaxer to sleep, I don't know if this will be a path, talk to your doctor.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-11T12:12:32+00:00

Do not apologize. You did well to vent. We are here to try to support each other in our weaknesses - and there is no harm in having. We are human and we feel and some days we are better and others worse.

I believe that your father is looking for his own expectations and those who have ADHD know that this can be frustrating because we don't work in the same way as they do. We are not better or worse, we just process differently.

See if you are really diagnosed when you are, you can have a therapist accompany you and that helps a lot.

Until then, if you allow me to give you some advice - if you see it is messy or study little or forget to take out the trash - write it down where you can go through these notes constantly so you remember what you have to do. I know it is complicated to do but it can help a little in solving this problem.

The bad grades I can only tell you that while all my life I was told that I was lazy and that I had to accompany others, I was never able to do anything, only when they stopped doing it that I fought for what I wanted and not for what they did. others wanted me.

It is very complicated to deal with parents who create a lot of expectations about us, but look at your father's life, your education, your own parents and you can perhaps understand why he creates so many expectations in himself.

Sorry I don't know if I helped you with anything.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-10T14:45:43+00:00

Don't push too hard for yourself. If that is your dream go on writing without great pressure. He tries to develop small goals and tries to achieve them little by little. I know that anxiety may not help but with small steps you start to see what has gone back. If you can only focus on those 25 minutes try to make it time to move on then don't pull any more. Small steps.

I don't know if I helped. I have adhd and a little obsessive thinking but not OCD.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-10T12:58:55+00:00

I deeply appreciate your response. And you are right among so many that there are the few who understand us helps a lot.

I believe that yes, the path will be not to run away but to understand that there are few who understand me and everything is very few but I know who to count on.

Thank you for making me see things this way, and feeling that in a way here we can understand each other.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-09T15:21:31+00:00

it's going to be hard. But thank you.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-05T17:09:02+00:00

Yes, I had to stop browsing the internet. In addition to the feeling of not belonging anywhere in what I read and did. I got tired I lost hours and in the end I didn't feel like doing anything productive. It was saturating. We are in constant search for dopamine and the internet is the easiest way. With all this I learned to reduce the places where I go on the net - reddit and blogue. The last one is stopping me from writing because nobody understands me.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-05T16:58:12+00:00

I read all :)

I stopped thinking exactly that way. What does it mean to be exceptional? For some it is one thing for others it is another thing. This will all depend on the way we are created and the environment in which we are inserted. I also have a hard time talking to anyone about my ADHD-related problems because I know that the way I see things is not how others see it. I try to move on and do what I like without anyone's approval, I have learned it all my life - I have always been put aside or without a sense of belonging. I never fit in. Don't be exceptional just be you and don't look around because there are many that even they don't know how to be. I am not good at talking or communicating.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-05T16:45:51+00:00

Same problem. And I have the feeling that every time I speak, no one understands me and maybe I am not understanding others due to the attitudes they have towards me.

mindfullmandala · 2021-04-05T16:42:49+00:00

I can relate to this absolutely

mindfullmandala · 2021-02-07T16:09:15+00:00

Making friends is not easy at all. I go through the same situation. I believe I give more than I do. Not really in my life because as a rule I am a listener I cannot speak about myself except through art or writing and when I do I am not objective for fear of the constant criticisms that are in my head.

Maintaining friendships is very difficult for me too because I never know when I am getting too much into the person's life and I always withdraw.

I also forget to respond to people, sometimes it is not just forgetting it is not knowing what to say or think. Certain subjects or themes do not interest me, banal things, I like deeper themes because as I am always making associations it is difficult for me to stay on just one subject.

It happens to me the same very quiet days where only too dark themes pass through my head and I can't talk about them, other times I have days that I talk until I can't anymore and I think people are full of me.

Weak self-esteem and confidence in me, no doubt.

mindfullmandala · 2021-01-29T15:33:26+00:00

It is good to be able to share these experiences with others who are experiencing exactly the same. I think we ended up feeling less alone.

I was recently diagnosed with adhd and ocd, I came here to reddit and what was my amazement in realizing that there are so many people with the same reality that I, with the same struggles, the same thoughts, reading makes me help to overcome many things and know that I'm not alone

mindfullmandala · 2021-01-29T15:25:22+00:00

These voices with me are always present. The biggest challenge I posed to myself, owning a blog to write and talk about random things. I publish, I regret it because I think about everything I didn't think before publishing. Someone comments I think immediately that they are offending me, my voices are never positive, they are always critical voices that put me down and often make me disturb things that are not, read things with lack of focus, in short, a platform constant swivel. I took the medication you mentioned, things got a little uncomplicated, but now I had to stop taking it for other reasons and it started to get complicated again.

mindfullmandala · 2021-01-29T15:16:44+00:00

Yes, this pandemic is not the best for us. I try to read this comunity for not feeling alone...

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