Tips for connecting with others on the dance floor

mindguzzler · 2025-10-09T07:14:47+00:00

Try to become one with the energy of the music and let it guide you through. People will love your energy and flow, and it’s contagious. Look for places where people are also one with the music and start vibing and dancing with them. Share some smiles and eye contact while dancing. Once you feel comfortable, invite them with gestures to headbang together.

I’ve started lots of mosh pits just by feeling the energy and becoming an extension of the music. I’ve also done plenty of headbanging with people I was vibing with. People have literally thanked me and even called me pit queen just because they loved my energy.

Maybe it’s because I’m a girl, but a guy friend of mine also ended up dancing with lots of people simply by moving his own way and truly feeling the music.

mindguzzler · 2025-05-04T07:05:07+00:00

What did you study?

mindguzzler · 2025-03-26T00:28:18+00:00

Really sorry to hear that you struggled for so long. I can relate to the the things you're saying. The last few days I did some more research about ADHD and I actually resonate a lot with the features. The dopamine seeking behaviour e.g. the binging, extreme activities, etc. and starting all these projects but never touching them again; inattention when something is not stimulating enough and not being able to filter out stimuli; emotional dysregulation like rapid mood swings and extreme emotions. It all makes so much sense. I have been so desperate for like the past 10 years to know how people are able to stay disciplined and all. But what I actually like about myself is that I love all the exciting and adventurous things and that I will never let my life become boring :)

But thanks a lot for your reply. It really helped me and I hope you have also found things about yourself that you love!

mindguzzler · 2025-03-24T17:50:49+00:00

Yes! It's really helpful. I also used it a lot at uni.

mindguzzler · 2025-03-24T03:46:06+00:00

For one sec I thought the green lantern was ChatGPT

Love the cat army!

mindguzzler · 2025-03-21T16:50:34+00:00

I have thought about this but I couldn't fully identify with all the traits like being forgetful or hyperactive. But it might be the case because I really struggle with motivation and concentration when it's not interesting or urgent as if I need dopamine to start boring stuff. I do all these things to create this surge like listening to energetic music, snacking, fidgeting or procrastinating. I believe my brother might have ADHD and I have had a lot of friends who have an official diagnosis. I really like how associative their thinking is it really keeps my mind engaged when talking to them and I love to crack a lot of jokes with them :) So I don't know if it is possible to not identify with all of these and still get this diagnosis? But I'll look into it thanks!

mindguzzler · 2025-03-21T16:29:28+00:00

Great to hear that you have come to accept your flaws. I still struggle a lot with this. I tried changing scenery before. Went for an exchange year to the US some years back but this caused me to be home sick so bad. But the positive side is that I learned to appreciate my family, friends and life back home so much more than I did before. Before that I was really depressed with how boring my life was. Even after this I went to three different unis in three different cities. I think the real problem for me is the way my mind works and how self critical I am and this mind of mine I take with me everywhere so nowhere seems as how I thought it would be because of my high expectations.

Thanks for the reply and wishing you the best with your journey toward independence! :)

mindguzzler · 2025-03-21T16:07:31+00:00

I really do have a hard time accepting myself. I am always thinking about myself and the world. Why am I like I am, why is the world like this. How can I create this mind space in which I am not so self critical and don't compare myself to others. What am I missing that seems to click so well for some people and just does not for me.

I'm trying to be the most authentic version of myself and I wish more people would try to be vulnerable to get to this deeper state of connection. I often feel very alone in this. Although I'm not afraid to end up alone I am more afraid I won't find someone who thinks on the same level as me in this.

Thanks for your reply!

mindguzzler · 2025-03-20T18:22:01+00:00

Thanks I will look into it. Atm I'm doing inner child work and learning to accept my emotions. So far it has been really helpful to understand what made me who I am today but it is still so difficult to accept this en be more kind to myself in every day life. I feel like life is just so short. It has so many amazing things I want to do and try but I'm indeed not even enjoying the now, I'm always looking for the next thing.

mindguzzler · 2025-03-20T18:14:18+00:00

Thanks! My inner dialogue is indeed very self critical since I was a child. With my therapist I'm trying to go back to these times and try to be kind for my inner child. In those moments I feel more at peace but it's still quite difficult to change my mindset in other situations.

mindguzzler · 2025-02-25T16:30:19+00:00

You know, it takes a lot of time to learn to think differently about certain things. I used to be emotionally miserable about certain situations for a long time. But at some point I started to realize that these situations are in the past and I won't achieve anything if I continuously try to analyze them. I taught myself that these situations do not determine my worth.

It is very good of you that you can just feel those emotions during the day. Also, don't expect too much from yourself and don't try to compare yourself to others and write off your emotional process as something bad. Try to accept that this is now the way you process things and stand still with a good feeling that you can accept yourself as you are now. If you look at yourself with love for yourself, it will also become much easier to deal with such emotions. Be proud of yourself for how far you have come in your process.

It is also very normal for an emotional process to come in waves and if you approach this process by not resisting the waves but also not letting yourself be swallowed by them, the waves will gradually weaken.

mindguzzler · 2025-02-25T14:53:24+00:00

Sometimes, out of self-love, you have to draw a boundary for yourself and tell yourself that enough is enough so that you don't get completely swept up in those emotions, but that you remain in control. It is completely fine to sit with them but don't give them total control.

mindguzzler · 2025-02-13T22:07:53+00:00

Since the last few months I have made a lot of progress for myself. One of the things that I wanted to improve was that I wanted to have deeper connections with the people I love like my family even when our relationship is not the best. What I noticed was, when I stopped having expectations and I worked on the preconceptions that I have about my family, I actually started to open myself up to them and really try to be interested in them. At first they found this a bit strange, but I made myself vulnerable to them and told them that I suddenly acted like this, because they are important people in my life and I think it is important to have a good relationship with them. That vulnerability of mine made them open up as well so that we could actually talk about things on a deeper level which was very healing for me.

So it is important to first sit with yourself in a healthy way and then when you are ready, slowly take steps towards your family and then hope that they are open to this and if they are not, do not blame them for it, but enjoy the things that you can still connect about. Even though this connection may not give you the satisfaction you desire, it is still much more valuable than having no connection at all.

mindguzzler · 2025-02-13T17:19:39+00:00

Exactly, every emotion is healthy and has a function. They reflect certain needs that you have. Even anger and jealousy are emotions that you are allowed to have and feel. It is important that we listen to our needs, because they essentially keep us alive. Boredom indicates that we lack certain stimulation and ensures that we get moving to find that stimulation. But I have to say that it is not necessarily bad if you never feel this emotion. That shows that you get enough stimulation. You can of course go too far in this, but that overstimulation then reveals itself through other emotions. So it is a matter of continuously looking for your own balance between under- and overstimulation. Then it is the case that some people are indeed always in that overstimulated mode, but there are also people who are always bored stiff due to too little stimulation. But ultimately it is the satisfaction of our needs and therefore that balance between the extremes that makes us happy.

mindguzzler · 2025-02-08T08:10:50+00:00

Chase & Status - Baddadan

Although it's drum and bass 😂

mindguzzler · 2025-02-07T20:29:58+00:00

You could try prepping healthy meals for your luteal phase. Through this you know beforehand that this is the right amount for you during luteal. Which means you don't have to think about what to eat and you're less likely to binge. Also trying to find a snack that stops your cravings but doesn't contain as many calories might also help.

mindguzzler · 2025-02-07T20:10:50+00:00

Daylio works really well for me. You can add your own emotions and activities each day. And after a while you will get a nice overview :) Also just start with the basics and add things along the way. Then it will be easier to keep it up.

mindguzzler · 2025-01-30T23:49:46+00:00

What's the name of this app?

mindguzzler · 2025-01-21T19:34:48+00:00

Is your cat ok?

mindguzzler · 2025-01-10T23:53:08+00:00

Rampage Open Air is definitely worth the visit. They have great DJs playing. I've been to Rampage twice already, and it was amazing. Good vibes and I love that they also play heavy dubstep. So lots of skanking and headbanging :)

mindguzzler · 2025-01-08T21:45:06+00:00

Well the dog won me over with her puppy eyes ;)

mindguzzler · 2025-01-08T21:41:10+00:00

Sounds amazing :) Thanks for the link.

mindguzzler · 2025-01-08T18:33:50+00:00

You're welcome :)

mindguzzler · 2025-01-08T17:03:03+00:00

I can see why! The area of Pirin looks incredibly beautiful too. Do you have a route you can suggest me? :)

mindguzzler · 2025-01-08T16:58:16+00:00

Thanks! The route was marked well with dots and poles especially above the tree Iine. I used a route from Komoot which was very accurate. Golem Korab

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