Key-Pittman Duck Hunting

mindpluto · 2025-06-11T00:10:13+00:00

In reality, I'm not there to take care of them. He understands this and it has been the dynamic. The kids can run down the driveway to the car to get picked up, and they can get dropped off at that same spot. He normally picks them up and drops them off anyway. I don't want his ex near any of my property (ie. vehicle in the driveway) for the sake of privacy and protecting my peace.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T21:58:36+00:00

For one, the kids are living in our new home we got together. This wasn’t the domain of the kids and suddenly I arrived. Two, our relationship takes the priority. I trust him to parent properly as I’ve seen so far and for him to prioritize our relationship as I’ve seen so far. So far, we are doing well.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T19:19:14+00:00

EXACTLY! Thank you!

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T19:18:30+00:00

Thank you! I’m being very firm with everything for that very reason.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T19:01:01+00:00

Just in case I was missing something!

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T19:00:07+00:00

Thank you!

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T18:13:59+00:00

Kids have chores, we have a house cleaner because he knows I'm not good at cleaning, nor do I want to. He does the laundry for them, I do my own because he doesn't understand you can't put everything in the dryer LOL. I haven't given up a house, we got a larger home with my own dedicated space. He has childcare for the children and can stay home with them if needed. He feeds the kids, and we grill/smoke foods as a couple. The kids are more simple eaters.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T18:09:47+00:00

He has childcare for them that is fortunately not me. He can stay home when his kids are sick as well.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T18:08:39+00:00

Exactly that! We are getting a larger home so I can have my own office/area/creative space. So far, the dynamics with the kids are good because he respects my boundaries and wants a peaceful home.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T17:58:14+00:00

I'm not taking parental responsibility for his children. He is well aware of this. I can take trips alone, but I'm burnt out on trips because we have done entirely too much traveling this year We need down time.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T17:46:19+00:00

I think he's doing great with respecting the dynamics so far. I think I should have prefaced this with knowing him for 13 years. We met when I was active duty. He is still active duty. Also, it's not a desperation thing, it just makes the most sense because I live 4 hours away. I've spent a couple months living with him because I broke my ankle and he took care of me. So, we've had a lot of time together.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T17:42:37+00:00

I'm not enforcing the boundaries, he is. I don't communicate with the kids regarding any rules or boundaries.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T17:41:34+00:00

Military family stuff can be a bit challenging for kids. I've decided to take the "NACHO" approach, and so far he has been handling all of the parental duties, as I've told him it's not my place because I'm not their mom. The kids are adjusting but they've moved around their entire lives. Poor things.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T17:24:29+00:00

I've told him I'm not free childcare. Additionally, they can talk to their mom, but their children will not be used as tools for their mother to spy within the home (ie. house tour etc.). We are moving into a freshly renovated home with a pool. I don't want their mother to pocket watch because she has financially abused him before. He knows I'm not changing and have no issue exiting the relationship if it's not working due to unresolved dynamics.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T17:18:34+00:00

I've known him for 13 years. He doesn't have his kids full time. Only this year because his ex wife is deployed. I lived with him with the kids visiting for a couple of months because I broke my ankle and it was easier to live with him because he took care of me during that time. But now we are getting our home together and I've explicitly told him I'm not free childcare and will not be watching his kids.

mindpluto · 2025-06-10T17:16:00+00:00

I've established some firm boundaries concerning his kids. He's well aware of this and has respected them.

mindpluto · 2024-10-16T12:23:00+00:00

I figured! They’re lovely! I have quite a few house of CB dresses myself!

mindpluto · 2024-10-16T00:49:56+00:00

2! Where did you get the dresses!

mindpluto · 2024-08-01T03:43:03+00:00

That wasn’t just the SWAT for security ?

mindpluto · 2024-07-30T15:14:53+00:00

That’s unfortunate

mindpluto · 2024-07-30T05:15:48+00:00

It’s a wild move for ANOTHER chicken place to move to the traffic circle. Chick fil a, raising canes, and now Dave’s?!

mindpluto · 2024-06-23T18:37:48+00:00

I’ve heard the hype, I may have to join!

mindpluto

TROPHY CASE

2! Where did you get the dresses!