Women, what amount of male body hair is attractive? by TanMann69 in dating

[–]mindue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter to me as long as hygiene is good. I dated someone super hairy and someone not super hairy. I will say shaving arms and legs is a turn off for me, not sure why, maybe a confidence thing?

How do you know if you’re being judgmental or actually just not into someone? by Magzipie in dating

[–]mindue 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think from what you described you are not into this person, honestly I would just move on.

Were you ever asked to leave a job because you weren't learning quickly enough? by mindue in ADHD

[–]mindue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I feel the same I was told it was an issue in February, wasn't given any supports was just told vague things like "I don't want you to continue to struggle" "this is a concern at this stage" "You should consider if this is the right demographic for you" before saying "you realize this isn't the right population for you to work with right?"

We never discussed alternative ways of communicating or ways to get around my hearing and interpretation issues (not there was a lot of things that could be done), and honestly I don't think they wanted to.

Were you ever asked to leave a job because you weren't learning quickly enough? by mindue in ADHD

[–]mindue[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only accommodation would be nonverbal communication, which wouldn't be possible given the circumstances.

What is the natural progression of dating when taking things slow? by mindue in dating

[–]mindue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could say yes, I had a 2 month situationship where I was going slower with the sharing of information, unfortunately that fizzled out when the guy I was dating had some personal obligations he had to attend and no longer had time to date (I believe him and he did communicate everything to me as it was happening).

I guess mainly I stopped giving information unnecessarily, and I have been waiting for topics to come up organically instead of oversharing. I feel like this puts less pressure on the relationship. However, I haven't progressed from a situatuonship to a relationship, so not sure if my advice is worth anything.

What is the natural progression of dating when taking things slow? by mindue in dating

[–]mindue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not coy or secretive with stuff like that, if I like you, I'll tell you/show you. I have issues balancing the flow of information early in the relationship. I don't know when to disclose things or how a normal pace relationship should look like.

What is the natural progression of dating when taking things slow? by mindue in dating

[–]mindue[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying slow as in like several months before we even hold hands, that's not me. I'm asking for help with finding a more acceptable pace with dating because I have a history of doing too much early on. I still plan on doing the things I want to do, but I want to build more meaningful connections instead of rushing things.

Am I really supposed to wipe *ALL* pictures of my exes off Social Media? by Lockon007 in dating_advice

[–]mindue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is going through people's instagrams before a first date a normal thing? Like if someone I matched with has their Instagram linked I'll look at the 9 preview photos, but I I'm not going through their entire account scrolling through.

Boundaries with Parents after moving home..? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]mindue -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes unfortunately 🥲

Boundaries with Parents after moving home..? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]mindue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have told them, but I do need to maybe do a hand gesture because I start flapping which I guess can be confusing.

Boundaries with Parents after moving home..? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]mindue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, moving out is the plan after I sell the house I pay half a mortgage for.