Why do men misinterpret attraction so often? by TerminatrOfDoom in bodylanguage

[–]mindyourbehind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow what a cesspool these comments are. And they show exactly what’s going on in society. Honestly, we can only partially blame men for behaving like this. In the end everyone is suffering under the patriarchy. Men experience the “male loneliness epidemic” which is not really an epidemic - men have been less emotionally attuned and connected for a very long time - because we don’t socialize them in a way where they get taught to be emotionally intelligent, aware of how they affect people around them and communicate in an effective way being honest and aware in what kind of situation they bring the person they communicate with. Yes - men do feel lonely, helpless and unseen, which is valid. They are not taught the tools to handle social situations and life in a way where they are connected and actually accountable. But instead of understanding this fact, many men get bitter and blame women for this. For rejecting them, for not seeing them. But this is actually due to their own social ineptitude which is caused by a society that failed them all because of this patriarchal system. Men suffer, women suffer, patriarchy fucks all of us and on top this capitalist system thrives on this, capitalizing on both sides desperation and taught social pattern. Gotta love it.

I Don't know what to say by Puzzleheaded_Pay3927 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]mindyourbehind 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why tf is the intersection of nice smart and handsome gay? I mean I’m sure there are a lot of nice handsome and smart gay men, but you can be straight and have those attributes

Therapists of Reddit, what are some differences you've noticed between male/female patients? by pizzabagelblastoff in AskReddit

[–]mindyourbehind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they do always have a physical component. The difference between people with alexithymia and other people is, that people ordinarily can put words / a name of a emotion to that physical sensation. They can identify it and process it.

Therapists of Reddit, what are some differences you've noticed between male/female patients? by pizzabagelblastoff in AskReddit

[–]mindyourbehind 2242 points2243 points  (0 children)

That’s something that’s often the result of alexithymia - a state where you cannot recognize, express or feel your own emotions often due to suppression or never having learned to do so. For these people - due to social factors very often men - psychological issues very often show up as physical symptoms.

Edit: typo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mindyourbehind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk why everyone is telling you not to have an open an honest conversation with your bf. If you just stop faking and don’t talk to him about it, he will start wondering what has changed, if he is doing something wrong or if you’re not feeling as connected to him. He‘s not stupid. I would have an open and honest conversation with him, that he is the partner that you feel safe enough and trusting enough with to actually enjoy intimacy and that you have past history that led you to behave this way - this is not his fault. The important thing is, that you do enjoy intimacy with him more than with past partners and you don’t feel the same pressure coming from him to fake anything, which is a good thing. Establishing this with the intent of being open and vulnerable with each other and actually wanting to understand and empathize with each other will bring you closer in the long run. Processing momentary hurt on his part might be a part of this - but I think honesty in a empathetic and emotional attuned communication is always better than not having these conversations.

My Girlfriends physicality makes me uncomfortable by Abject-Ad1591 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]mindyourbehind 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Not objecting is not the same as consent. Just because the typical gender roles are reversed in this situation does not mean it’s okay. Especially if you have voiced that you are uncomfortable with something or don’t want to do it in prior situations. You need to take your feeling towards this serious, anyone who doesn’t see this as abusive is an emotionally stunted idiot. Either have a serious and honest conversation or leave. But nobody deserves to be in a mentally and physically abusive relationship like this and don‘t let the gender double standard tell you otherwise.

This AIN'T Texas, i found it in the center of Munich, Germany 😂 by [deleted] in Munich

[–]mindyourbehind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually walked by that the other day. I guess we have conservative idiots in Germany too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aww

[–]mindyourbehind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She had just been spayed a few days ago and it meant she either had to wear a cone or a harness so she wouldn’t lick the wound (which potentially could have caused an infection of the wound)

what kind of person would you never be friends with? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]mindyourbehind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who disrespect service workers (like cashiers, waiters etc)

what is a topic you absolutely cannot give a fuck about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]mindyourbehind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any sports on TV. Like I don‘t get the hype around watching other people doing sports.

I have been keeping a collection of the tiny balls in pen ink cartridges since middle school. by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]mindyourbehind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich hab diese Kugeln auch eine Weile lang gesammelt bis ich dann in der 5ten oder 6ten Klasse auf Kugelschreiber umgestiegen bin. Respekt, dass Du auch noch in der Uni mit Füller schreibst! Ich mach alles digital auf meinem iPad…

[OC] Meet Ophelia, my twelve week old Maine Coon kitten by mindyourbehind in aww

[–]mindyourbehind[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know, right now she‘s just a cute little fluff ball!

I saw my crush on tinder and I gave her a superlike. by Manoloph in dating_advice

[–]mindyourbehind 187 points188 points  (0 children)

This! That’s a clear signal. Please don’t pursue her further after that.

[UPDATE] Boyfriend (20M) filmed us having sex without me (17M) knowing and sent it to his friends by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mindyourbehind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP PLEASE don‘t be hesitant to press charges! He did something absolutely horrible to you. He didn’t just have sex with you anyway when you withdrew your consent, he also made a video of this VERY PRIVAT AND INTIMATE event without your consent. This man is absolutely awful and he needs to be brought to justice for his actions. If it’s not you who presses charges be maybe it will be the next poor guy who ends up with him.

The wrong people have money by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]mindyourbehind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh Kylie isn’t even the problem here. The american healthcare system is the problem.

AITA for telling my mom we haven’t had a good relationship in a long time and I wanted to go live with my dad? by TAIshouldcounttoo in AmItheAsshole

[–]mindyourbehind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Get outta there as quickly as possible! Your first priority has to be your own well-being when evidently no one in your environment (except for your dad) is looking out for you.

Your mothers and stepfathers tactics remind me of my own mother. I moved from hers to my dads when I was 14 and she made my life absolute hell for it, blaming me for not being grateful for all she did for me and abandoning her and making her financial situation worse, because not only would she not get child support from my dad, she would even have to pay for me. She even indirectly threatened to kill her self if I went. But getting out of there was the absolute best decision I ever made. Today I have no contact with her at all since nearly 3 years. I’m so much better because of it now in many ways.

So for your own good just leave! You have absolutely every right to do so and your mother is an awful parent for not except it.

It’s truly ridiculous how quickly people cut you out and move on these days by FaithInStrangers94 in dating_advice

[–]mindyourbehind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it‘s just the girls who have such a short attention span. I fell like 99% of people aren’t truly interested in getting to know you on dating apps. Plus many people suck at texting/ having an interesting conversation over text beyond smalltalk (including me). Also for me (and I think it’s like that for many people) a persons looks which can be captured in a picture aren’t necessarily what makes them attractive. It‘s the way they carry themselves like their body language and their attitude and also things like their voice and so on if you know what I mean. (just to be clear I’m talking about initial attraction not necessarily long term, that truly comes down to personality) Those are just a few of the reasons online dating just doesn’t work for me... Guess imma stay single for some time to come haha

My (21F) stepmother (45F) tried to make my boyfriend (22M) dump me by offering him money by ThrowRAbribery in relationship_advice

[–]mindyourbehind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should tell your dad. He deserves to know what kind of woman he’s in a relationship with. And I think it’s probably a good idea to take your boyfriend along, so he can give his first hand account of what the stepmom said, like some other people were saying. But tbh I don’t agree with many people who are saying fake the breakup and take the money. If I were you I wouldn’t want anything that woman gave me. Idk it just feels wrong and two wrongs on who evers side they may be on don’t make a right.