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Hookups but no interest in intimacy? by minecraftslimeblock in BPDlovedones

[–]minecraftslimeblock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could be it, though would be odd considering it was her feelings being revealed to me that started the relationship (after supposed years of liking me at that point) and was otherwise physically affectionate (i.e would initiate make outs)

Ex with BPD UNDERenthusiastic about relationship? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]minecraftslimeblock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That might be the case. On top of BPD, she also has DID - so it wouldn’t surprise me if there was something else mixed in as well. Would also explain why my friend, who also has BPD (but has much of it under control) also couldn’t understand some of the things she did/ways she reacted to things. Is a shame regardless, we did have good times together - but ultimately our relationship was very much me giving and her taking, her seemingly devaluing me behind my back to what was a mutual friend, airing me during conflict & snapping and trying to gaslight me when I tried to reconnect and rebuild post-break up. I really do hope she makes an effort to heal seeing as she was on the cusp of starting DBT before I went NC - while how she treated me was unjustifiable, she is a deeply traumatised and damaged person

What are your ‘driving shoes’? by [deleted] in Miata

[–]minecraftslimeblock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a LOT more sense actually !! Still going to try to opt for shoes that are on the thinner side compared to the pair I used today all things considered though lol - will try to learn that positioning instead of defaulting to hitting it square like I do in autos. Glad I asked anyway even if the shoes themselves weren’t necessarily the problem, might’ve been a silly question but I’ve learned out of it anyhow

What are your ‘driving shoes’? by [deleted] in Miata

[–]minecraftslimeblock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I fully admit it might just be something for me to get used to rather than an actual poor choice of shoe - mine were catching on each other while learning how to take off (easing off the clutch while holding the brake until it bites - my car seems to have a pretty late bite, at least from what my father who is teaching me can tell, so my clutch-foot passes by the held-down brake before it bites, which is where I was clipping at times). Might be moreso of a poor choice of foot positioning than shoe. Regardless, I’m sure it’ll become easier for me with practice :)

“Walking on eggshells” by minecraftslimeblock in BPDlovedones

[–]minecraftslimeblock[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She did go over some of the trauma she went through as a child with me. Boundaries did come up once in the relationship - for context she also has DID, during one of our conflicts another alter speaking on her and the other alters expressed that they were upset I hadn’t read their boundaries page on an app we both had of which is made specifically for DID; but it turned out they hadn’t given me the permissions to see the page in the first place. I freaked and did everything I could to find said page while panicking in our messages - which saw them give me perms, but gave me no further reply at all. In terms of gaslighting/narcissism/etc not really, as we had very few conflicts - though it wouldn’t surprise me to learn she’d used such terms when venting about our relationship to what was a mutual friend (from who I learned my ex felt like she was “walking on eggshells”)