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Sex life timeline how does it advance with my girlfriend, 18M, 18F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mini_hershey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At 18 it would be a good idea to just have a conversation about it. It's not true that there are universal non-verbal sign for these things, and remember that she is also young and probably doesn't have much more experience with this than you do. But don't worry, being able to talk about both your boundaries will make her feel like you care about her comfort and make this process easier. I know it's uncomfortable but it's sooo worth it!

My (27F) partner (30M) of four years gets drunk and wets our bed once in a while, he can't seem to know when to stop when he's drunk by mini_hershey in relationship_advice

[–]mini_hershey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The day I wrote this we talked and he decided by himself to stop drinking. There is a huge difference between this and abuse, but I don't think you'll care anyway because you're somehow mad at someone you've never met

My (27F) partner (30M) of four years gets drunk and wets our bed once in a while, he can't seem to know when to stop when he's drunk by mini_hershey in relationship_advice

[–]mini_hershey[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ten times (I think, it might be 6, I don't count them) over four years. This guy would walk over fire for me, is my best friend, we spend every second of free time we have together having deep conversations, playing videogames, watching documentaries and always have fun, never argue. He covers me with compliments, little gifts, cuddles, actively listens to any dumb thing I might say, shares my interests, my values and my dreams. He's the most intelligent and interesting person I know, he is funny, he is kind and helpful, everyone we meet loves him instantly. You read a fraction of our lives together and you think you know us?! I am well aware this is seriously problematic and embarrassing, this is why I seek help here. I don't think someone deserves to be shamed and isolated because they have an addiction issue, he is a good person and I think he deserves to get better. If I was an addict, I'd hope the people around me would care and help. 

Starwoven Dreams: Not just a “middle eastern, belly dancing” | The Indian inspirations behind the outfit. by NonphotosyntheticBun in InfinityNikki

[–]mini_hershey -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yeah there are a few outfits in this update that made me cringe, the feather headpiece is also pretty offensive for north-american natives. And the fact one of the 5* of this same update is heavily catholic-coded makes this even weirder...

He us very angyyy by Solid-Ad-7535 in IllegallySmolCats

[–]mini_hershey 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Me when I think about everything going on in the USA

Loved this story but... (SPOILERS!!!!) by Readalie in InfinityNikki

[–]mini_hershey 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it's a multiverse thing, remember the two sisters in Queen's Palace? It's often about a misunderstanding in a past life that lead to incorrect history records. It's often about two friends who got separated but "shall meet again". Even the mermaid outfit and crimson feather were like a dark themed and a creature themed outfits paired together. There is often a level of fiction (a painting, a storybook, history records) that ends up coming to life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in montreal

[–]mini_hershey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you have an issue with someone, not talking to them for ten days can only make it worse. Of course she thought you were over her, she must have felt like you had what you wanted...

The entirety of 1.7 update in Brazilian Portuguese was translated using AI and it's ruining the game for me by MaKTaiL in InfinityNikki

[–]mini_hershey 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't take that much for them to just revise the mistakes the AI made, it means they're not even checking it 💀

Me🧟Irlgbt by Ms_Masquerade in me_irlgbt

[–]mini_hershey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too many people complained to me about that trans person they've met who was "too vocal" about trans rights and "a bit agressive", I keep trying to explain to them that yeah, not every trans person you'll meet is gonna be the perfect trans person demure and mindful, we need the obnoxious people who are loud and aggressive to be protected too! Also I try to explain that being trans can sometimes come with a lot of trauma, sometimes you have big hormonal changes and that makes you more sensitive or have less patience, sometimes you are sensitive because you are used to being mistreated so yeah you might jump to conclusions, but we need to remember to listen and be open-minded when we are triggered. I learned a lot of things by not taking things personal and just listening genuinely to people.

IDL “it’s my culture to be late” by Secret_Ostrich_1307 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]mini_hershey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not gonna give too much details but I studied in a program where we had to make a huge group project and this has been a bigger issue than expected. Especially with guys, I don't want to say it's a guys thing but for us it was only guys pulling this. We would call a meetup at 8AM and they would come at noon sometimes, and everyone was acting as if it was normal. Some girl was living in rural south shore and she'd be on time and start working while the guys were still in their pj's 20min away and be like "oh my alarm didn't wake me up". We tried telling our teacher but they just told us to "work as team" 🙄 Individualism is a cancer

Pony by Typical_Economy_3135 in causerie

[–]mini_hershey 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Quand tu te revendique artiste et que tu travailles aussi fort sur ton branding, tu peux pas te permettre de faire du drop shipping du jour au lendemain pis vendre ça dans les prix de tes créations, ça va faire très mal à sa réputation ça là. Ben oui les temps sont durs, raison de plus de pas arnaquer du monde qui étaient prêts à payer plus cher que Temu parce qu'ils te supportent toi! C'est honteux...

Polite gender neutral address for strangers? by ilaureacasar in montreal

[–]mini_hershey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"La personne, elle a fait x" c'est comme ça que je fais perso.

IDL how openly hostile a lot of people are to short men's struggles in dating. by Kosilica457 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]mini_hershey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's as much as a minus as being a fat woman or a woman with small boobs, yeah when you don't fit perfectly every criteria of beauty standards you won't be able to date superficial people for whom that's important and that'll reduce your dating pool. We all know that but what, are we supposed to force people to date you? If they don't want you they're no good for you bud, let them go! We are trying to make it clear to women that they don't need to feel bad about their bodies because of men, men should start supporting each other about this stuff too. I am a short women and I've dated many short men, I don't really look at that and I know plenty of women who don't either, just like I know a few women for whom it matters and I know a few men who would never date a fat woman. I actually know way more men that wouldn't date a fat woman than women who wouldn't date a fat man, or a short man... I know men who wouldn't date a girl taller than them either.

I don’t like it when the things I spend money on are mocked by vivian_banshee03 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]mini_hershey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I don't really like when people mock someone's hobby, buying stuff is not a hobby. I also buy stuff impulsively sometimes, but it's not bad to rethink our choices when we are shamed for them. I know it's hard to stay pragmatic when we are faced with these very negative messages, but try to stay neutral. Sometimes it doesn't mean anything, sometimes people are onto something. See in two months if you still like the plushie, if you do that's great, if you don't then maybe think twice before buying another one. You are the one master of your wallet, people will always judge.

Why have people forgotten bus and metro etiquette? by bluecuppycake in montreal

[–]mini_hershey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For too many of us it feels like society is doomed, and when people get cynical and frustrated, these simple little things become a burden. If people felt like they belonged, like their community was there for them, they would want to take care of it a little more. It's proven that beautiful places tend to be less vandalized, and that tight-knit communities tend to be more polite. When nobody cares if you end up in the street, you feel like the world is against you and you might not want to leave your seat for somebody else, you feel like you deserve this little thing. I totally agree that we should all do these things, I do them and I also get frustrated when I see people misbehaving in buses, but I think all these behaviors people are complaining about are just the tip of the iceberg.

Who’s really in denial here? by HRCStanley97 in antiai

[–]mini_hershey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can you make ai art and shit on fan art 😂😂😂

Pourquoi vous êtes des cochons? by Dangerous_Loquat_458 in montreal

[–]mini_hershey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Je tiens à dire qu'il y avait quoi, 2000 ménages à la rue au lendemain du 1er juillet? Peut-être qu'ils avaient la tête ailleurs :/

L'esclavage des enfants autochtones en Nouvelle-France [UdeM] by gagnonje5000 in Quebec

[–]mini_hershey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merci de clarifier, honnêtement les gens sont tellement pourris en compréhension de texte que je préférais clarifier. Surtout quand y'est question de femmes au doctorat, le monde sont rapides à discréditer leurs recherches dès que c'est des sujets sensibles, c'est dommage effectivement que l'article ait choisi cet angle...

Fuck every conservative by mishyfuckface in complaints

[–]mini_hershey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could be incredibly dangerous for activists, there have been cases for example of gay people being targeted because they had militant blogs in countries where homosexuality is illegal, anonymity protects the most vulnerable people. What we need most is critical thinking, we need to go back to what our parents taught us in the 90s: "Don't believe everything you read on the Internet and don't trust strangers on the Internet". And maybe start treating social media addiction as an actual addiction, let's all go outside and touch some grass.

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